Dear all birthmoms,


Hi! My name is Katherine and I’m a birthmom. I placed my baby boy for adoption in september 2005. I already know if you’re reading this you’re at a point where you’re not sure what to do. I know because i felt the same way; all you want is the best for both you and your baby! This was one of the hardest and most unselfish decisions i ever had to make. But it was the best one.

Here’s my story: i’m 21 years old, i already have a 2 year old son, christopher. He’s what i live for everyday. I don’t have any help from his father at all; i have been his mommy and daddy from day one! It’s very hard to be a single mom trying to provide for yourself and your child.

I struggle everyday to give my son everything that he needs and some of what he wants. At times i will go without what i need so he can have what he needs. The day i found out i was pregnant i was scared. I didn’t know

what i was going to do. I knew at this point in my life i couldn’t provide for another child. I started to cry and didn’t stop for a couple of hours. When i got myself together i made a phone call to my boyfriend at the time. As soon as he heard the word pregnant came out of my mouth things changed forever. I told him i was considering abortion and he told me to do whatever i want to do. After that day i never talked to him again. It was like he fell off the face of the earth. His phone was disconnected and his friends wouldn’t tell me anything! That’s when reality hit me and i knew i was on my own again! I kept thinking about abortion, but deep down in my heart i knew i couldn’t do that. Even though i couldn’t provide and raise this child i still loved him very much. Later on that day i started looking on the internet for some help. I saw over 20 different adoption agencies and only one stood out and caught my attention “courageous choice ". I immediately called and there was someone to talk to me right then; i didn’t have to wait.

My birthmom counselor listened to everything i had to say. Then she explained the whole process to me and answered all my questions. She was a very kind and understanding woman. She is who helped me stay strong by always letting me know i was a wonderful and unselfish person. Soon after i did my paperwork and counseled some more it was time to choose a family to raise my baby. Honestly i thought it would be very difficult to decide who would be loving, caring and patient parents for my baby. I wanted a family who would want to participate in the birth and be with me throughout my pregnancy. It didn’t take long. In fact, as soon as i saw brett and martha i knew they would be perfect parents! I talked to them on the phone soon after i made my decision. They were such a nice and understanding couple. I also can say i was never pushed in to doing anything. Everything always went the way i wanted it to. I talked to brett and martha at least once a week after that. When i was 7 months pregnant, they flew down to texas to meet me. We hit it off immediately. They took me out to eat and they were great with my son christopher. I can definitely say i was comfortable knowing they would be raising my baby.

Well, 2 months went by and it was getting close to my due date. I woke up in the middle of the night having contractions. At first i didn’t know that was what they were but i quickly realized!!! I hurried to the hospital making phone calls to my birthmom counselor and adoptive couple. Brett and martha got in their car immediately and drove 18 hours to get to me and the baby. They really wanted to be there when he was born but unfortunately i had to have a c-section before they got there. As soon as they did get to hospital we were all joined in my hospital room. I was able to help feed the baby and change his diapers and hold him close to me as much as i could. The whole time brett and martha were very supportive in letting me help with anything i wanted to.

48 hours later when it was time to sign the papers i had a knot in my throat and tears in my eyes. Every time i looked up at how happy brett and martha looked holding the baby i knew i was doing the right thing. Adoption is a wonderful loving gift. I wont lie, it was very hard to see and touch my baby knowing he wasn’t coming home with me. But i wouldn’t change it for the world. I think if i did it any other way i would have regrets.

Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you don’t love your baby or your taking the easy way out. They don’t know how hard it is to be unselfish at a time like this; you’re doing this because you love your baby very much and you want the very best for him or her. Always remember your not alone you have your birthmom counselor there whenever you need to talk. Trust me i know!!!

It’s been 2 months now and my adoptive family has already sent me a very cute picture album and some pictures to go in it. I've talked to them once and heard my baby making cooing sounds in the background. Martha told they talk about me everyday to him. I hope my story has helped you understand that adoption is wonderful and special and you are a great and unselfish woman for considering it. Please keep your head up and stay strong for you and your baby. Trust in god and everything will work out. There is power in prayer, god listens.

God bless you, Katherine

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