Unplanned Pregnancy: Parenting, Adoption or Abortion?

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Finding yourself unexpectedly pregnant without a solid plan for raising a child can be scary, frustrating and lead to feelings of hopelessness. It is important to know support is available. Take time during your pregnancy to think things through. Whatever you choose to do—to develop an adoption plan, parent, or arrange an abortion—the decision is yours. Examine the consequences, find the right people to help you and make your plan.

ABORTION

If you know you are not ready to parent and it’s early enough, abortion is an option. Abortion is the deliberate termination of a human pregnancy, most often performed during the first 28 weeks of pregnancy.
What does an abortion cost?
An abortion costs up to $1500 in the first trimester, depending on the abortion method. [7]
Abortion side effects:
Abortion side effects may include: bleeding, abdominal pain, cramping, nausea, vomiting, and headache. Sometimes side effects can be serious or fatal. Abortion is not just a medical procedure, but an emotional one as well.
  • Many women report feelings of anger, regret, guilt or sadness after abortion.
  • Some women request post-abortion counseling to deal with the emotional and psychological effects of terminating their pregnancy.

ADOPTION

If you are unable to parent, placing your child for adoption is an option. It is to your advantage to work with a lawyer or an agency. You deserve someone who is concerned with your best interest and to ensure your voice is heard and wishes are met. Both lawyers and agencies are able to provide no-cost services, education, resources, and support.
What does adoption cost?
Birth Parents are not responsible for legal fees or agency fees. Financial assistance for some medical and living expenses may be available in accordance with state law. Adoptive Parents are responsible for covering these costs.
Adoption choices:
When considering adoption, there are many choices you will be asked to make—from choosing an Adoptive Family to deciding how much contact you want after placement. Like any other choice, it’s important that you do your research in order to make the best decision.
Impact of adoption:
Adoption affects everyone differently. Love, loss, guilt, and resolution are common themes. Birth Parents should seek out friends, support groups, or understanding counselors in order to have a safe place to communicate their feelings.

PARENTING

Parenting means you are responsible for a baby 24 hours a day/7 days a week. Many women experience a big change in their lives when becoming a parent. They may not be able to finish school as planned, they may have to put a career path on hold, or put off social interests. Many women still choose parenthood and continue to live their lives with the added expense and challenges of raising a child.
Consider:
Is the baby’s father willing and available to help provide care?
How will you afford to take care of your baby?
How will you provide for your baby’s medical care?
Will you be able to continue your schooling or maintain a job?
Who will provide child care when you’re away?
Are you willing to adjust your social life to be present for your child?
What does it cost to raise a child?
According to the latest annual report from the US Department of Agriculture, the average cost of raising a child until age 18 is approximately $245,340. [1]
A word about teen parents—
Almost all teenage pregnancies are unplanned. While pregnancy and parenthood is a challenge for any woman, there are special considerations and risks for teens.
  • Only 50% of teen mothers receive a high school diploma before age 22. [2]
  • Daughters of teen mothers are more likely to become teen mothers themselves. [3]
  • Nearly 80% of teen fathers do not marry the mother. [4]
  • On average, absent teen fathers pay less than $800 per year in child support. [5]
  • 78% of children born to unmarried teen mothers without a high school diploma live in poverty. [6]
While others may pressure you or provide advice, you should be allowed to think through your options and make the final decision. No matter what you decide, you are the one who will live with your choices in the years to come.
[1] "Expenditures on Children by Families | Center for Nutrition ..." 2014. 9 Feb. 2016 http://www.cnpp.usda.gov/ExpendituresonChildrenbyFamilies
[2] "Diploma Attainment Among Teen Mothers - Child Trends." 2013. 9 Feb. 2016 http://www.childtrends.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/child_trends-2010_01_22_FS_diplomaattainment.pdf
[3] "Kids Having Kids: Economic Costs and Social ..." 2008. 9 Feb. 2016 http://www.amazon.com/Kids-Having-Economic-Consequences-Pregnancy/dp/0877667454
[4] "Teenage Births: Outcomes for Young Parents and their ..." 2009. 9 Feb. 2016 http://www.scaany.org/documents/teen_pregnancy_dec08.pdf
[5] "Teen Pregnancy Prevention." 2013. 9 Feb. 2016 http://www.ncsl.org/research/health/teen-pregnancy-prevention.aspx
[6] "The 2007 KIDS COUNT Data Book - The Annie E. Casey ..." 2014. 9 Feb. 2016 http://www.aecf.org/resources/the-2007-kids-count-data-book/
[7] "Abortion - Planned Parenthood." 2015. 12 Feb. 2016 https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion

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