Nickname: Ben and Mona

Relationship: Domestic Partners: 2014

Pets: No

Stay at Home Parent: No

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

“A Birth Mother always puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart.”

Benjamin and Monika

from Illinois

Benjamin

Ancestry: Russian

Religion: Jewish

Occupation: Teacher/Attorney

Education: JD

Hobbies: Music, Philosophy, Literature, Volunteering

Monika

Ancestry: Indian

Religion: Spiritual

Occupation: Engineer

Education: MS

Hobbies: Tennis, Jewelry Making, Traveling, Cooking, Music

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Spiritual

Favorites

Benjamin

Childhood Memory
Spending summers in Northern Wisconsin at our family cabin on the lake.
Color
Green
Family Activity
Reading together
Food
Italian
Holiday
Birthday
Leisure Activity
Debating
Thing to Cook
Tacos
Early Bird or Night Owl
Night Owl
Music
Classic Rock and Jazz
Quote
"Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime." - Maimonides

Monika

Childhood Memory
Climbing the magnolia tree in our backyard - it was a place of solace for me.
Color
Blue
Family Activity
Cooking together
Food
Indian
Holiday
Thanksgiving
Leisure Activity
Making jewelry
Thing to Cook
Stir fry
Early Bird or Night Owl
Early Bird
Music
Alternative Rock and Indie Rock
Quote
"Life was meant to be lived, and curiosity must be kept alive. One must never, for whatever reason, turn his back on life." - Eleanor Roosevelt
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From Us to You

Please view our Adoption Facebook and Instagram pages:
www.facebook.com/BenAndMonaAreAdopting
www.instagram.com/BenAndMonaWantToAdopt

Hello!

First, we want you to know that we will help your child understand the strength and courage of their first mother. We will teach them about how giving them a stronger family is the most difficult and painful decision a mother could ever make, and that this was done purely out of love and hope for a better future. We will always be clear about how grateful we are to you, and how important you are to us. We would honor your wishes about what information you would want to be shared with them. We would always honor you as part of our family.

We are Ben and Mona. We’ve been in love since the moment we met. We met later in life but both of us have always looked forward to being parents and having a family. We live in a safe community in a great city with parks, restaurants, and lots to do all around us. Mona is president of a software company where she has worked for 20 years. She will be able to retire in order to be a full-time mom if the miracle of adoption happens for us. Mona enjoys sports, creative cooking, jewelry-making, and drawing. Ben is a lawyer who teaches law to high school students. He is passionate about helping young people face the challenges of today’s world. He also looks forward to life as a father and imagines a family life that might include fishing on the lake, staying in a cabin, reading, and sharing music. Ben also likes to cook, and we both like to read and tell stories. Mona has actually performed publicly as a storyteller.

Our friends and family include artists, teachers, psychologists, and doctors, so we have a great team who can assist. They are also excited about our hopes to create our family with adoption!  We believe it is important to inspire a foundation of values like self-assurance, self-discipline, fearlessness, leadership, encouraging others, and unconditional love. We will always love and support your child, no matter what, and we look forward to life as their parents throughout life’s journey.

Thanks for taking the time to read about us! In our profile, you will find many things we thought you might like to know. We are always going to be available to answer any questions you may have. We will always answer honestly and hope to provide some peace and comfort to you.

With much love and respect,
Mona & Ben

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Why We are Choosing to Adopt

Adoption has always been in our hearts and the parenthood path we wanted to pursue to create a family. We are excited to start a family and can’t wait to be parents. As a bi-racial, multicultural couple, we embrace the idea of expanding our family’s cultural or ethnic make-up. We want to exchange family traditions, share our faith, and make memories with our child, while at the same time, celebrating and participating with our child’s birth family and culture. We know that we can provide your child with a loving, supportive home. At this time, being established in our careers, we also feel financially secure and have the time and emotional energy to start our family.

Our life is filled with wonderful experiences that will only be amplified when we have the opportunity to observe them through the eyes of a child. A child will bring a sense of innocence and playfulness that will continue to remind us of the joys in the simple things and see the world as a playground. A child will give us a sense of purpose and pride by gifting us with the opportunity to help him or her evolve into a unique individual. A child will inspire us to be our best selves, as we know our actions and behavior will significantly influence them.

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About Mona, by Ben

I met Mona through a mutual friend and was immediately struck by Mona’s confidence, beautiful smile, intellect, and gentle demeanor.  Mona is the most kind, empathetic, generous, patient, and loving person that I have ever known, (mom’s don’t count) LOL. She is a giver, and the first person her friends and family call when they are having a challenge or issue, or just need someone to listen to them with an open heart. Mona is a natural with children, and always makes them feel special, whether it is teaching them a new skill, taking them to a place or event they have never experienced, or reading them a book that was chosen just for them. She is a favorite “Aunt” to many children around the world. She loves me and supports me and I am grateful to have her as my partner in life and couldn’t live without her.  At the end of the day, you can always count on her sharp wit to crack you up within the first 5 minutes of talking with her. Her happiness, intelligence, love, and wisdom convert to high comedy and belly laughs that make my face hurt. I can’t wait to raise a child with Mona.  Once we are blessed with a child she plans on staying home and be such an amazing mom to your child and she will make the best “animal-shaped pancakes” in the world for your child.  She can’t wait to share her interest in playing sports with your child and dreams of teaching your child how to cook and be creative in the kitchen.

Fun Facts About Mona

  • Mona was a Division I collegiate tennis player
  • Mona is left handed
  • Mona’s map reading skills are legendary LOL
  • Mona is the daughter of immigrants
  • Mona was a bone marrow donor
  • Mona makes sure peanut butter, mayonnaise, mustard, etc. is spread evenly throughout the slice of bread LOL
  • Mona has served as an officer for 20 years for a non-profit scholarship foundation
  • Mona has 20 cousins who grew up in India
  • Mona is a Pisces and a middle child
  • Mona has traveled to over 30 countries
  • Mona has jumped out of a plane, swam with dolphins, climbed Kilimanjaro, and gone white-water rafting in Costa Rica
  • Mona is a vegetarian
  • Mona is a dabbler; for example, she took a woodworking class for a year
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About Ben, by Mona

When I first met Ben, I just knew he was a gentle soul. One of the things I love most about him is that I can talk to him about anything. His kindness and compassion make him a great teacher and his students absolutely adore him and come to him for guidance and encouragement.  He is incredibly supportive of me, my career, my hobbies and interests, but more importantly, he laughs at all of my jokes and gets my sense of humor. LOL. I admire how Ben is always up for trying and exploring new things whether it is making jewelry with me, a painting class, or cooking a new dish. He lights up when around children, whether it’s our nieces and nephews or children of our friends, and it is amazing and inspiring to watch him play with them. It warms my heart to watch how quickly kids get attached to Ben and I know he will be an incredibly caring, loving, dedicated, and fun father! Ben is so excited to be a father and he looks forward to doing all of the fun things with your child that he did as a child with his dad, like fishing on the lake and staying in a cabin, reading books, and making fish popcorn. If your baby has an interest in music, Ben would love to support them to pursue this interest, especially if they end up becoming famous! LOL.

Fun Facts About Ben

  • Ben is fascinated with precious metals.
  • Ben loves dogs.
  • Ben was an elementary special education teacher before he went to law school
  • Ben loves to vacuum…no, seriously, he does…almost every day
  • Ben is particular about his car and gets it washed frequently
  • Ben is always willing to finish my plate of food that I can’t finish myself. LOL
  • Ben is very knowledgeable about music and musicians, especially Classic Rock
  • Ben played the trumpet and piano as a kid
  • Ben is a middle child and is a Gemini
  • Ben knows how to waterski
  • Ben was a Hebrew and Sunday school teacher
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Our Relationship with You

We would love to have an ongoing relationship and an open adoption with you as we believe this is important for your child and for you.  We want you to be a part of our lives and family if this is something that you desire and you are comfortable with.

Your child will know that you are a strong and courageous woman who made the most difficult decision a mother could make and that is because you love them very much.  They will also know that we love and celebrate you and that we are so thankful to you for making our dreams of becoming parents come true. We want to create a baby book for your child and read books about adoption to your child so that they always know that adoption was the beautiful way that we became a family.

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Lifestyle

When we come home from work, we love spending time cooking together and going for a walk in the neighborhood to catch-up on our day. Occasionally, we’ll go out for dinner and usually get our favorite Thai food or pizza around the corner. But, we love home-cooked meals the best. Mona is an incredible cook and makes the best Indian food.  She can even make vegetarian dishes into even a “meat-lovers” favorite. We love to make a pizza from our homemade dough and each person gets to pick the toppings for their own personal pizza!  We would love to see what your child’s favorite toppings on pizza are and can’t wait to introduce them to the different foods of the world! Mona loves to make bread from scratch and Ben keeps us hydrated with his homemade cold brew coffee and kombucha.

Mona makes sure we go camping at least once during the summer, and we have camped at many of the state parks in Illinois and Wisconsin, which is always an adventure! We love to go on hikes and bike rides, too. We look forward to sitting around the campfire and making s’mores with your child and looking up at the stars at night. No ghost stories! LOL

We have taken cooking classes, drawing and painting classes, a candle-making class and have done many “tasting events.”  We have attended interesting “talks” (famous people sharing their opinions) and we enjoy opportunities to grow and learn, especially together and look forward to sharing these as a family.

We look forward to cooking and eating homemade meals with your child and can’t wait to see what his/her favorite food is!  Ben’s parents were both teachers so we will have thousands of books for reading, bedtime stories and story-time. It will be so fun to see what your child’s favorite books are and teach them to read.  We are fortunate to have a park district with so many playgrounds, programs and camps for the various interests your child may have – in fact, Mona has taken woodworking and drawing classes through the park district.

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Home & Neighborhood

We live in an open and spacious loft condo which we love. Mona has the convenience of being able to walk to work and Ben’s school is only a short drive away. We have a corner unit with a lot of windows, so our home is flooded with natural light. Your child will wake up to natural sunlight! We love having plants all around the house and can’t wait to plant your child’s first seed and teach them how to take care of their first plant. Our kitchen has a big island where friends and family often gather for meals. We believe the kitchen is the heart of the home and look forward to cooking meals together with your child. Perhaps pizza night on Fridays and pancakes on Sunday morning? Our home has all hardwood floors and we dream of hearing the pitter-patter of your child’s feet across our floors. We have an open floorplan, too, and this provides a spacious area for us all to be together and close to each other for all activities, whether cooking, reading, or playing with your child. Music, of various genres, is typically always playing so dancing around the house will also be a common activity. LOL. We have a fireplace, and, in the winter, when we make a fire, we will be sure to make s’mores at home, too, with your child. There is a roof-top deck with open views of the sky and city skyline and we’ll enjoy having meals out there with your child and just feeling the sun.

Our neighborhood is family-friendly and safe and lined with sidewalks, where we’ll teach your child how to ride a bike and draw with sidewalk chalk. We have the pleasure of walking to playgrounds (which we can’t wait to make good use of with your child!), parks, grocery stores, ethnic restaurants, local retail shops, and the gym.  We’re fortunate to have a large park district with so many playgrounds, pools, programs, and camps for the various interests your child may have. We can’t wait to sign-up your child for fun classes. Our favorite Thai and Turkish restaurants are just a few blocks away! We have noticed how children love to eat “kabobs” and would love to see what your child’s favorite “kabob” is. There is a summer farmer’s market across the street from us and we like going there on the weekends. There is a river is a few blocks from us and it has a nice trail to bike along and an area where we can canoe and kayak with your child.

We are fortunate to live in a great, diverse city and a safe community and we enjoy taking advantage of all that our city has to offer, like plays, comedy shows, music concerts, or having ethnic food. We’ve enjoyed going to storytelling events and Mona has performed twice as a storyteller sharing her own personal stories. We love the power of stories and can’t wait to share so many stories with your child. There are different ethnic neighborhoods spread across our city so we look forward to taking your child to these neighborhoods to learn about different cultures and foods. Our city is on a lake, too, so we can’t wait to bike along the lakefront path and swim and take boat rides out on the lake with your child.

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Our Families & Friends

Ben’s parents and many of his cousins live close by, so we are able to see them often. Ben’s brother’s and sister’s families, including three nieces and a nephew, require a plane ride, but we are still able to visit them at least once a year. Although Mona’s parents and siblings live in the South, we still are able to be together 3-4 few times a year. We travel to their homes, they come to visit us, or we plan a trip together to a place we all want to go. Everyone is so excited for the day that we have a family of our own. Your baby will be loved by so many people! On the weekends, we are on FaceTime with our family and friends. Mona also has a lot of family in India, and she visits them almost every other year. A few years ago, Ben went to India with Mona for the first time and had an incredible experience! We both look forward to future visits to India and for your child to meet their family in India.  We feel very fortunate to have and be surrounded by a group of loving and supportive friends and family. With our families and friends, we travel, spend the holidays together, cook delicious meals and do fun activities: hiking, camping, theater, music festivals, cultural events, and celebrating weddings and other important life milestones.

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Family Traditions

Ben grew up in a Jewish home and Mona grew up in a Jain/Indian home.  For Christmas, we spend time with Mona’s family in Alabama and we always prepare casseroles for Christmas brunch the night before so that we can just enjoy the morning opening gifts together while the casseroles bake. “California bars” are only one of many desserts that will be baked along with many cakes and pies your child will look forward to for Christmas (as well as presents under the tree!). We alternate going to each other’s families for Thanksgiving and make sure that a homemade pecan pie is always on the menu! We spend Hanukkah and Passover with Ben’s family. Having a Passover Seder with family and lighting the menorah during Hanukkah are special for us and something we think your child will truly enjoy and cherish. We promise that your child will not be forced to eat the Jewish Passover cracker (matzah) lol.

In the Indian culture, Rakhi, is a day honoring the relationship between brothers and sisters and is widely celebrated and a special day for Mona. On this day, brothers and sisters vow to respect and take care of each other through life. Diwali, the “Festival of Lights,” is like a new beginning. People clean their homes, buy new clothes and/or share sweets with friends and family.  And birthdays are always fun! We are so excited to have the opportunity to plan for your child’s birthday!  This is obviously a very special day for a child and on this day, we will do the things he/she wants to, whether it is a party, a neighborhood parade down the sidewalk, a special dinner out, or at home but whatever it is, there will certainly be lots of birthday cake and ice cream!

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Racial & Cultural Diversity

Being a multi-racial and multi-religious couple, we have a deep appreciation and respect for not only our own cultures, but other cultures too.  We have friends of different religions and ethnicities, and this allows us to truly celebrate diversity.  We live in a large metropolitan area that has diverse communities as well as festivals to celebrate these diversities.  We will be able to provide your child with a life rich in opportunities to learn more about their ethnicity and culture and grow up with and be supported by other people that look like them.  We would love for you to share with us anything you would like us to celebrate and teach your child about.  We really look forward to having new traditions as a family!

We also love to travel and experience different cultures, traditions, and viewpoints. We just came back from a trip to Croatia and the Netherlands. We would love to bring a child into our family and go on fun trips together and see the world through their eyes.  We will commit as parents to expose and educate your child about the diverse and fragile world we live in. We believe that traveling and experiencing the people and culture of other countries will allow your child to develop acceptance and respect for those who may be different from them in any way. We want your child to have the opportunity to gain a world view and appreciation for all the different ethnicities and cultures of the world.

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Vacations & Leisure Time

Our vacations have typically involved traveling to or with family members and friends typically during holidays or long weekends. Planning the trip is part of the fun! Some trips in the last few years with our family have been Yosemite and Mammoth Lakes; Memphis, TN (Mona’s birth city); Destin, FL; Houston, TX; Denver, CO; Louisville, KY; India; Czechoslovakia; Scotland; and France. Some vacations with friends have been to Durham, NC; Toronto, Canada; San Diego, CA; and Mexico City. In our leisure time, Mona likes to experiment in the kitchen, make jewelry, DIY projects and play tennis. Ben likes to read and catch-up on current events and news. We both enjoy spending time with our friends and occasionally watching movies or TV shows. We cannot wait to share all of this with our children!

3-Day Weekends:

Typically, on any long weekend, we are either visiting family and friends or they are visiting us in Chicago. But, if that’s not happening, we could be found doing one of these: going to a music festival, camping in a nearby state or national parks, road-tripping to quaint towns nearby or exploring a neighborhood in Chicago.

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What We Will Teach

For us, the most important values to teach children are to embrace kindness, to be compassionate, to love, to live their life with integrity, and to be happy. We will provide your child with unconditional love and support and we look forward to being a part of their unique journey and adventures in life.

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What Kind Of Parents We Will Be

Ben is easy-going, friendly, and generous. He always makes himself available to his friends and family. He’s hard-working and always puts in extra effort to help his students learn and grow. Mona is empathetic, patient, and thoughtful. She is always thinking of others and how she can help. She is hard-working and disciplined and likes to set goals for herself. We both share a sense of humor (Ben may disagree but Mona is the funnier of the two!) and can be silly – we can still find the child in us! We both are curious and see life as continued education.

We will certainly be involved, fun parents. We will be reasonable and nurturing while setting clear and high expectations. When we discipline, it will be clear and the reasons behind them will be explained. Communication will be frequent and will evolve with your child’s level of understanding. We will listen and give direction as needed. We will set boundaries but will always be there for your child and provide unconditional love. We know that the needs of your child may evolve and change so we will be ready to adapt to provide the structure and support they need to succeed in their own path and journey.

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Our Promise to You

We promise to love your child fiercely and unconditionally, every day of their lives.

We promise to be open and honest, from the beginning, about your child’s adoption story. We want him/her to know of the courageous choice you made out of love for them.

We promise to honor your wishes regarding the relationship you desire to have with our family and your child. We would love to have you in our lives and we will love you and be grateful for the gift of your child whatever level of involvement you would like.

We promise to provide your child with a stable, safe and loving home, a place of joy, laughter and good food.

We promise to provide your child with an education, both in and outside of school, and to provide support and guidance for your child to pursue their dreams.

We promise to always treat you with respect and love!

Message Benjamin and Monika

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

Contact Benjamin and Monika

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!