Jeffrey and Alissa

Married Since: 2012

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Part-Time

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We cannot imagine all you have gone through as you read this letter. Know that we hold you in highest esteem and admire your strength. We think of you daily and want you to know how deeply and unconditionally we will love your baby.

Jeffrey and Alissa

from California

Jeffrey

Ancestry: Irish

Religion: Spiritual

Occupation: Marketing Optimization Manager

Education: BA

Hobbies: Music, Cooking, Traveling

Alissa

Ancestry: Northern European

Religion: Spiritual

Occupation: English Teacher

Education: BA

Hobbies: Traveling, Yoga, Writing

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Spiritual

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Dearest Expectant Mother,

We cannot imagine all you have gone through as you read this letter. Know that we hold you in highest esteem and admire your strength. We think of you daily and want you to know how deeply and unconditionally we will love your baby. We consider our families to be our greatest gifts. We have loving, supportive parents and grandparents, and have always known we wanted to be parents ourselves. We cannot wait to be a family for your baby.

Our marriage is built on honesty and commitment. We have seen each other through difficult life experiences and feel resilient and better able to face whatever life brings. We also love being together, whether it’s trying new restaurants, traveling, camping, or playing music.

Your baby will grow up with many aunts and uncles who already can’t wait to read them stories, take them to the beach, and be a consistent adult in their life. Your baby will have two grandfathers who will want to take them surfing, fishing, boating, and hiking. They will have two grandmothers who have taught both of us how to be selfless, generous, and accepting.

Your baby will grow up surrounded by music. Jeff is a musician, and is constantly singing and walking around the house with his guitar. He cannot wait to show your baby all the beauty of music, art, food, and stories. Alissa loves writing, teaching, and planning things! She cannot wait to create special Christmas traditions, plan a yearlong road trip across the U.S. with her kids, and show them good books and movies.

We understand that your child’s racial identity may be different than our own and we are committed to acknowledging this within our home and community. Through education and relationships, we commit to creating a family that celebrates and recognizes their racial identity. We believe deeply in the fight for equality and advocate with our resources and actions to create a better society for everyone. We understand the importance of having many adults, mentors, teachers, and friends with whom your child will be able to see themselves reflected in. We live in a diverse neighborhood with a majority of African American neighbors and plan to send your child to a diverse school. As a teacher, Alissa works with families from all economic and racial backgrounds. We also continue to learn more about our own cultural identities and how it shapes our lives and will shape the life of your child.

To us you will always be an example of a woman of immense strength and courage, a powerful image to the child you will deliver. Your baby will know that you loved them. We will teach them that life is full of challenges and everyone faces their own share of them. We will tell them that you loved them so much and therefore made a decision that you felt was best for them. We will teach your baby that life is also surrounded by beauty, and your act in entrusting them to us is a reminder of that beauty. We promise to honor your unbelievably difficult decision and raise your baby with as much love and attention as possible. Your baby will never be at a loss for people who will continually love and support them.

With love,
Jeff & Alissa

Q&A

Tell us about your home and neighborhood.

We live in a one-story 1940’s home that was recently remodeled. It is bright and spacious with a large grassy backyard. For one of Jeff’s recent birthdays, he asked for a basketball hoop and Alissa asked for a tree swing. We spend many evenings playing with our dog (Babadook) out there, or having dinner with friends under the large oak tree. We live in a neighborhood with many young children and a fun bakery around the corner.

When you have a 3-day weekend, what you like to do?

We spend most weekends with friends or family. We will travel up or down California to visit a sibling, parent, or friend. We also love to camp. We have a little 1970’s trailer that we take down to the beach whenever we can. We enjoy swimming, surfing, hiking, and cooking.

Do you have pets? If so, tell us about them.

We have a six-year-old dog named Babadook. We adopted her from the pound when she was a puppy. She is the sweetest most life-loving animal either of us has ever known. She wants to befriend every living creature, and reminds us to appreciate the world with more enthusiasm. She loves swimming and snuggling.

What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?

We hope to teach our children gratefulness and generosity. We hope to teach them to be resilient and unafraid of asking for help; we all need support through life. We hope to teach them that if they are the “smartest person in the room,” then their room is too small. We want to teach them to adopt a loving and non-judgmental attitude towards others, and to be generous with their time and resources. We want to teach them to respect this earth and all who live on it.

Are you active in your church? Tell us about your activities.

We both grew up in Christian families but do not currently go to church or consider ourselves Christian. We are grateful for the traditions and values of the Christian church and carry much of what we have learned into our lives. We both practice prayer and meditation, which help us to appreciate life, deal with life’s challenges, and live with more peace.

How will a child enrich your life?

We imagine that a child will remind us how interesting the world is. We are excited to watch a child experience everything! We know that having a child will teach us how to be more selfless and patient. We both grew up in large, close-knit families, and we are excited to create a family with our children.

Describe your last vacation and/or daytrip.

Our last trip was a three-day weekend with Jeff’s parents in San Diego. We spent the three days visiting old college friends who live in San Diego and learning how to drive the new boat that Jeff’s parents recently bought. We took friends out on the boat where we spent the afternoon swimming and snacking along the bay. The final night we went to a birthday party at a skating rink for one of our close friends. Alissa loves rollerblading.

Will you be a stay-at-home parent? If so, what are your day-to-day plans?

One of us will be a stay-at-home parent for the first year or so. We plan on spending lots of time outside as there are many hikes, parks, and gardens where we live. We also spend quite a lot of time with friends and imagine we will enjoy play dates.

When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?

Already, we see the baby’s birth mother as this incredible warrior of a woman. Alissa grew up with three sisters and a wonderful mother and grandmothers. She already has this birth mother in her heart alongside those women she loves more than anything on earth.

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