Looking to adopt a baby in California - Shane and Arpi

Married Since: 2019

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Part-Time

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

First of all, we know this is a very difficult time in your life, and maybe the hardest and most painful decision you’ve ever had to make. Above all we wish you peace and good health. We hope that you will be kind to yourself during this process.

Shane and Arpi

from California

Shane

Ancestry: English, Irish, Pottawatomie

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Pilot

Education: MBA

Hobbies: Running, Singing, Classic Cars

Arpi

Ancestry: Armenian

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Psychologist

Education: Ph.D

Hobbies: Gardening, Zoo Volunteer, Cooking

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Christian

Favorites

Shane

Childhood Memory
Licking the icing bowl when my grandmother made chocolate cake
Color
Purple
Early Bird or Night Owl?
Night Owl
Food
Mac and cheese
Movie
Star Wars
Personal Hero
My grandfather
Sport
Running
Subject in School
Woodworking
Vacation Spot
Disneyland
Quote
"Be yoursellf. Everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde

Arpi

Childhood Memory
Fishing trips with my parents and sisters.
Color
Turquoise blue
Early Bird or Night Owl?
Night Owl
Food
Popcorn
Movie
Star Wars
Personal Hero
My dad
Sport
Soccer
Subject in School
English
Vacation Spot
Paris
Quote
"Do or do not. There is no try." Yoda
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From Us to You

First of all, we know this is a very difficult time in your life, and maybe the hardest and most painful decision you’ve ever had to make. Above all, we wish you peace and good health. We hope that you will be kind to yourself during this process. We don’t know what it’s like to be in your shoes but please know that our hearts go out to you. We are also so very grateful that you are considering placing your child for adoption—it’s a brave and unselfish decision, and also probably very scary. The most important thing for you is to make a decision that you feel comfortable and at peace with, so we will be honest and open about ourselves and the home we can offer your child.

Like many couples seeking to adopt, we have struggled with infertility. It has been heartbreaking for us. We both come from large families where we felt loved and cared for, and we so much want to pass that love on to a child. We thought about continuing on with fertility treatments or getting a surrogate, but after some heartfelt talks and soul-searching, we came to the same conclusion: adopting would not only fulfill our dream of becoming parents but would give a child in need a wonderful home. We have good jobs, are financially stable, bought a beautiful house last year, and cannot wait to complete our family. We love each other very much and we know that being parents will strengthen and deepen our bond. Our parents, sisters, brother, and eight nieces and nephews have also been hoping and dreaming about the day we add to our family. There will always be aunts, uncles, grandparents, and cousins in the life of your child—just like there were in ours.

We live in Southern California where the weather is gorgeous year-round. There are so many activities, we are excited to watch your child enjoy—the zoo, the beach, Sea World, Legoland, and Disneyland. We bought our house last year—it has three bedrooms, plenty of space, a little garden, and we just love it. The family who lived here before us had two young children and the neighborhood is full of kids, so we know we are in the perfect home to raise a family.

Growing up, both of our families loved to entertain. Our childhood homes were filled with friends, extended family, barbecues, dinners, and holiday celebrations. We have always said to one another that we are committed to continuing this tradition. We have a big Thanksgiving and “Friendsgiving” dinners every year, as well as a Christmas Eve party. We have other family traditions, like a New Year’s getaway, every year with Arpi’s family (we rent a 5-bedroom home to make sure everyone fits!) and we attend college football games with Shane’s family in Kansas.

One thing that really connects us is our love for music. We met while singing karaoke (not sure which one of us is the better singer!) and now we practice and sing duets. We strongly believe that our sweetest duet is yet to come—as parents who will be so grateful for your precious and selfless gift.

We’ll end this letter by saying again that, while we can never truly know how you are feeling, what you can be sure of is that your child will be safe, loved, cared for, and will grow up to reach for their own dreams and desires. Thank you for reading our letter and our best wishes and warmest hopes go with you.

Sincerely,
Arpi & Shane

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About Shane

Shane is a good man with a heart of gold. He has lots of energy and enthusiasm, and he has a positive and optimistic view of things which is good for me. His motto is, “If you don’t ask, it’ll never happen,” and I’ve taken that good advice to heart. He calms me when I’m anxious about something and always knows how to have a fun time. Plus it’s impossible not to fall in love with his million-dollar smile! He served our country in the Navy for 20 years, and he is a patriot. Once he sets his mind on something, he does it—including training for and running a 50-mile race. Shane is my hero, someone I can depend on to laugh with me, to hold me, and to never let go of my hand as we go through whatever journeys fate has in store for us. I really admire his commitment to his family—he calls them all the time and is the wise older brother to his younger siblings. Something I’ve learned from Shane is to say “I love you,” to loved ones every day. I love to watch him around the little kids that our siblings and our friends have. Shane is the uncle (and hopefully soon father) whose shoulders you want to climb on because he’s always going to lift you up, keep you safe, and make sure you have the time of your life.

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About Arpi

Arpi is the kind of person who, when she walks into a room, you can’t help but smile. She is a very smart, compassionate, and empathetic woman. She always asks me how my day went and when she senses I’ve had a bad day she goes in for a hug to help me. I admire her passion for trying to leave the world a better place. She regularly volunteers at the zoo, helps counsel advocates of foster children free of charge, and does all she can to take care of the planet. Arpi has dedicated her studies and professional career to the field of psychology. I had the opportunity to see her give a lecture to a room full of doctors. While she was giving her speech, I was in awe of her. I fell in love with her more in that moment. I feel that she is a great psychologist because of the type of person she is; a caring and loving woman. When we started dating, we found out that we both have a love of music. She loves to sing like I do and when she’s listening to a song that really moves her, she gets goosebumps and her eyes tear up (I do the same thing). It’s only one of the things we both love about each other. I feel very fortunate to have Arpi in my life, and when I see her interact with her nieces, nephews, and kids of our friends I know that she will be a wonderful and loving mother. Arpi’s love for life and others is infectious. I know that she has helped me grow as a man and I hope to see her cradle a young child with that same love that she has shown me.

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Our Lifestyle

We are an active, outgoing couple and we balance being healthy with relaxation and play. We love spending time on our hobbies at home—Shane is fixing up a classic car and Arpi works in our garden but we also enjoy going out to take walks and hikes. Strolling around our local zoo is one of our favorite ways to spend a weekend day. Being close with our family and friends is really important to us and we make time with them a priority. We are happy that our home is a welcome place for gathering loved ones together. Eating right and exercising are part of our daily routines, but we’re not overly strict about either and we love to go out to eat and treat ourselves, or spend a quiet night in watching our favorite movies—doesn’t matter how many times we’ve already seen them! We admit that we are “night owls”, so we have definitely enjoyed sleeping in on the weekends, although we would happily trade that in for a little early riser in our family!

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Why We Are Choosing to Adopt

We have always wanted and hoped for children. We both come from big families and have parents who were loving role models for us. We have been unable to have kids, and fertility treatments have not been successful. We had the option of continuing with treatment, but we decided that we could be devoted parents who can give a child a good home and complete our family. Shane’s mother is adopted. If it wasn’t for the gift of love that Shane’s birth grandmother gave to Shane’s grandparents, Shane wouldn’t be here today. Shane’s oldest brother is also adopted. Thus our family has experienced first-hand what a blessing adoption is, and we know without a doubt that adoption is the way we are meant to be a whole family.

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Our Home and Neighborhood

We live in a 3-bedroom, 2-bathroom home. It’s in a neighborhood with a lot of families and young kids, including those of our next-door neighbors on both sides. We have a back garden and a couple of patios, so there is plenty of room inside and outside. What really sold us on our house is our big, open kitchen, which is the heart and soul of our home where friends gather and we feed and nourish one another. Our house is truly our favorite place and we never take for granted how lucky we are to come home every day. Our local community is well-known for neighborhood events such as food truck nights, parades (we had a fun 4th of July parade this year), and block parties.

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Our Family

We are blessed with a large circle of family and friends. Arpi has three younger sisters who live in Northern California with their spouses and kids—6 nieces and nephews for us to spoil! Arpi’s mother lives not far away and loves being a grandmother. Shane’s family lives in Kansas. He has two younger sisters and a younger brother and two gorgeous baby nieces. His parents are healthy and can’t wait to spend more time in California with more grandchildren. Even though our families are not in town, we are lucky to have friends who we spend a lot of time with and who have young kids of their own. Arpi’s closest friends are from her college and graduate school days. They’ve been putting aside their baby clothes for us to use someday! Shane has loyal friends from the Navy with whom he has proudly served our country. Our friends have seen us through thick and thin. We know that not everyone is as fortunate as we are to have such a supportive community around us and we never take our loved ones for granted.

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Our Pets

We have indoor cats! They are healthy, well-behaved, affectionate, and sweet to our family and the kids in our lives. They have fun personalities and we’ve even trained them to do them a trick or two, which of course they will only do if they are given treats. Who is training who?

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Our Careers and Callings

Shane had a rewarding 20-year career in the Navy, and he flew helicopters for much of that time. After he retired, he knew that he wanted to keep flying and he was able to achieve that goal by becoming an airline pilot. Sometimes he works over the holidays and he is proud to be able to fly people to visit their loved ones. Arpi knew she wanted to be a doctor early in her life, and being a psychologist is definitely her calling. She does research to help better understand psychological conditions, and she takes care of patients in our local hospital who have injuries or serious illnesses. When a patient reaches for her hand to thank her, she knows it has been a good day at work.

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Our Hobbies

We love to take walks and hikes together. Lately we have been taking a stroll every night in our neighborhood and checking out our neighbors’ gardens, but we also enjoy longer hikes on trails. Shane is fixing up a classic car in our garage. Arpi volunteers at our local zoo and teaches guests about animals and conservation. We have a zoo membership and visit a lot– our favorites of course are the baby animals. We also enjoy being in the kitchen together, especially when we are hosting a party or dinner. Both of us have sweet tooths and we have fun baking. We’ve traveled to some beautiful and culturally amazing places like Alaska and France.

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What We Do On Three Day Weekends

We might take a trip to see Arpi’s family in Northern California, or Shane’s family in Kansas—since Shane is an airline pilot, we have great travel benefits. We love to go to Disneyland together, only an hour and a half away. Otherwise, we will spend some time at home gardening, cooking, and working on the car. Arpi might make a batch of cookies. We enjoy going out to brunch or a nice dinner. We’ll go for a hike and visit the San Diego Zoo, where we both have memberships. Arpi will spend a few hours on the weekend volunteering at the zoo and teaching guests about animals. We may have friends over at our house for a BBQ and all go out to sing karaoke.

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Our Traditions

Some of our yearly traditions including hosting a Thanksgiving dinner for our friends—sometimes wrapping the turkey in bacon– as well as a Christmas Eve party. We look forward to picking out a tree and decorating it while we drink eggnog and listen to Christmas carols. Shane loves Christmas music so much that sometimes he is caught listening to it during other times of the year, like in the middle of summer! Every New Year for as long as Arpi has been an adult, her extended family rents a house somewhere pretty and we all spend the New Year holiday together. Even the young nieces and nephews get to stay up till midnight for the countdown. Ringing in the New Year all together is one way we make sure there is a sweet and loving start to the year. We have other daily traditions just between us: we always tell each other “I love you” before we go to sleep for the night.

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Cultural Diversity

We firmly believe that wealth isn’t necessarily measured in money but rather in diversity of backgrounds, cultures, traditions, experiences, religions, and lifestyles. There is nothing more beautiful than to be in a roomful of our loved ones, see faces of all different colors, and have conversations where many opinions are welcome. We know that, unfortunately, not everyone is always treated the same based on their race, gender, or beliefs. As a couple, we have a lot of talks about this reality. We have pledged to each other and to ourselves that we will personally strive every day to love and respect people equally. A child who comes from a different background than us will be taught about their history and culture. We will be able to travel to places that are meaningful to your child’s culture and ethnicity. Our neighborhood and local community are very diverse, as is our circle of friends and those who have joined our extended families. We will do everything we can to make sure your child has people in their life who they can identify with.

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What We Will Teach Your Child

Above all, we will teach your child to be kind towards all people and animals, treat everyone as equals, and put family first. We will also show them, by example, to not be afraid to go after their dreams. Also by example, we will teach them how important it is to take care of our country and our planet.

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What We Will Share With Your Child

We will tell your child that their Birth Mother is a brave person with a big heart who made a difficult and scary choice but you did it out of selflessness and love. You will always be a part of our family and that’s how we will talk about you to your child from the very beginning.

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Our Promise to You

We are thankful for your precious gift, respectful of your courage, and we make a solemn promise to you that your baby will be fiercely loved and cared for. Finally, we commit to you that we will always honor your special relationship with your child.

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