Married Since: 2016

Pets: No

Stay at Home Parent: No

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

Of all the things we want to share with you, the first is to affirm our unconditional love and steadfast commitment to you both. Your child’s best interest is the single priority we share and it will not change.

Brandon and Jacob

from Minnesota

Brandon

Ancestry: African American

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Sales Director

Education: B.S.

Hobbies: Running, Design, Travel

Jacob

Ancestry: English, Swedish

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Underwriter

Education: B.S.

Hobbies: Travel, Home improvement, Reading

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Christian

Photos

Dear Expectant Mother,

We first want to say, thank you for considering adoption. Although we are unable to fully comprehend the decisions you’ll be making, know we have great admiration for you because you’re considering adoption and we are honored to be considered as a potential family for your child. Of all the things we want to share with you, the first is to affirm our unconditional love and steadfast commitment to you both. Your child’s best interest is the single priority we share and it will not change.

So, I’m Brandon (on the right) and I’m Jacob (on the left). We met in 2011 at a bar (we know, it’s the next classic Disney story …) and were married here in Minneapolis in 2016. We both lived fairly Midwestern lives: suburban schools, college, and work thereafter. But with a lot of fun mixed in. Our lives have been defined by strong relationships with our families. Brandon’s parents retired to Arizona and we’re fortunate to see them three or four times a year. Jacob’s parents and brother’s family live outside Kansas City, which makes for more frequent trips but jam-packed family time when we arrive. It’s through those close, strong relationships that we knew our family would need to include more than the two of us.

It’s hard to describe ourselves on paper. Brandon would say we’re a little bit rock, a little bit flower and a whole lot of vocals. He’s joked since we got together that Jacob is the ‘rock’ in the relationship – steadfast, pensive, planner – and that he’s the ‘flower’ – passionate, adventurous, fun-loving. As accurate as those descriptions might be, one unique detail about us is our vocals. (Full disclosure – neither of us have had choral lessons.) There’s a lot of singing in our household! The evening sing-alongs to whatever is on the radio are great. And the Saturday morning ballads drowning out our off-key voices is embarrassingly fun. But those are just preparations for ‘family karaoke’ when we’re together with Brandon’s family. Prince might be the most famous signer from Minneapolis but you wouldn’t know that by how we own the karaoke mic when we’re all together.

As science wasn’t on our side… joke intended… we knew our parenting would involve others. However, that never affected our excitement at the thought of helping a child grow into the person they were meant to be. We can imagine no greater joy than helping your child discover their passion and then developing that passion as far as possible. We will spend the rest of our lives making sure they feel our love, and that they have every opportunity available and a strong support system to weather all of life’s challenges. Life isn’t always easy, we know there will be tough times – we’ve each had them. It’s what we can provide during those times that will give your child an amazing future. We believe in being open and honest in a manner appropriate for their learning. To not shy-away from hard realities, but to instill a sense of empowerment that will carry them through life. They will have four, always-doting, over-concerned grandparents; many cousins as life-long playmates; as well as aunts, uncles, friends and neighbors who will give them unwavering support from their earliest accomplishment to their biggest challenge.

There was an amazing find we noticed just after moving into our home. The inside door of the upstairs linen closet has markings measuring the heights of all of the children who have lived in the home before us… some dating back over 50 years. While some would say, “wow, that door hasn’t been painted or changed out in forever,” we find it to be a beautiful story providing a glimpse into the amazing history of all the fun childhood memories that must have been made here already. We have no plan on changing that door. Well, actually we do: we’re looking forward to adding your child’s marks to it!

Brandon & Jacob

Q&A

When you have a 3-day weekend, what you like to do?

We stay pretty current on chores around the house, so with a long weekend we like to get out and play. During the summer we prefer heading to the lakes in northern Minnesota. It’s a nice way to get out of the city for a little rest and relaxation. We enjoy being outdoors and love being out on the water in the summer heat. The rest of the time we prioritize heading south for some quick but quality family time. Whether its visiting Jacob’s family in Kansas City or Brandon’s in Phoenix, three-(or stretched to four-)day weekends are a great opportunity for us to catch-up with our family.

What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?

As superficial as it sounds, we believe the foundational principles we should teach are respect and kindness. Respect and kindness for themselves, for others and for the world around them. With those as the foundational principles, we want to develop their confidence and strength so she or he can follow their passions and endure any troubles they encounter.

What will you tell your child about his or her birthmom?

It probably goes without saying, but this answer will evolve as the child ages and with their ability to fully understand the act of adoption and, of course, with what you, the birth mother, prefers that we share. At all ages, our message about his or her birth mother will center on our one common priority with her… what’s best for you (the child). We will share that our relationship with her is a uniquely special relationship and because of that she’s one of the most special people in our lives. Adoption is a story about love. The abundance of love for the child which led his or her birthmother to consider adoption and a similar love that led us to adoption which resulted in the amazing opportunity to raise a child.

Are you active in your church? Tell us about your activities.

We have been active members of a church for a number of years - serving as greeters, ushers and on the management team. We enjoy fellowship gatherings and helping with various community initiatives.

How will a child enrich your life?

We can’t begin to articulate all the ways our lives will be enriched but we’re looking forward to having every part of our routine change. We’re excited to see the world through the eyes of a child and gain new perspectives. But more than anything, we know the opportunity to love and guide a child into the best version of her or him self will redefine our lives forever … for the better.

Describe your last vacation and/or daytrip.

Our last real vacation (thanks to COVID) was a combined-Family Trip to Hawaii for Thanksgiving! We were fortunate to be able to travel with both Brandon’s family and Jacob’s for 10 days. It was the first combined family vacation and it was one for the memory book. Everyone was fairly adventurous and we definitely hit the ‘must dos’ … we took helicopter tours, went on day hikes, and explored Hawaiian cuisine. Our favorite memory was the day everyone spent at the beach house - enjoying the breeze, sun and pool; cheering on the Kansas City Chiefs; and ‘bonding’ over card games.

Will you be a stay-at-home parent? If so, what are your day-to-day plans?

We currently work from home … does that count? LOL. The current plan is for each of us to take parental leave and PTO for the first 3-4 months and to return to work full-time after that.

Will you be returning to work? If so, describe your day-care plans.

We have 4 anxious grandparents excited to help with child care as we adjust back to work. Once the grandparents say goodbye (or are kicked out!) we will continue with child care in our home - either by an Au Pair or Nanny. Jacob works from home full-time and we know having child care in our home will help ease our first-time parent jitters.

When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?

Unconditional love and abundant admiration for her! Each time we give thanks to God for this precious blessing we give thanks to her as well. Her courage and trust in us gave us the greatest gift we’ve ever received and for that we are eternally grateful.

Message Brandon and Jacob

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

Contact Brandon and Jacob

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!