Married Since: 2020

Pets: No

Stay at Home Parent: Part-Time

Other Adopted Children at Home: Yes

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We have had so many beautiful opportunities to find ourselves and our passions, and that is what we want to provide for our children; the space to feel safe, to feel loved, and the opportunities and open doors to grow to be who they want to be.

Ed and Rob

from California

Ed

Ancestry: Jewish

Religion: Spiritual

Occupation: Business Owner

Education: BA

Hobbies: Yoga, Hiking, Swimming, Travel

Rob

Ancestry: Jewish

Religion: Spiritual

Occupation: Business Owner

Education: BA

Hobbies: Ceramics, Swimming, Travel

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Female

Religion Child To Be Raised: Spiritual

Favorites

Ed

Book
Braiding Sweetgrass
Family Activity
Rock scrambling and hiking
Hobby
Yoga
Holiday
Thanksgiving
Leisure Activity
Swimming
Personal Hero
Maya Angelou
Sport
Tennis
Thing to Cook
Sauteed vegetables
TV Show
Discovery of Witches
Vacation Spot
Greece

Rob

Book
The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle
Family Activity
Going to the beach
Hobby
Ceramics
Holiday
Thanksgiving
Leisure Activity
Swimming
Personal Hero
Michelle Obama
Sport
Tennis
Thing to Cook
Noodles
TV Show
The Crown
Vacation Spot
Mexico
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From Us to You

Dear Expectant Mother,

We cannot pretend to understand what you are feeling right now or ease the difficulty of your decision. But what we can do is honor you, your decision, and your bravery by making sure that the child that comes into our arms will be deeply loved, nurtured, and supported for the rest of their lives. It is such a strange situation that at this moment, what might feel like the most confusing event of your own life, could possibly turn into one of the most beautiful and joyous events of ours.  We absolutely love being parents and being a family.  We can’t wait to welcome a new member to join in the fun. We feel that we have been incredibly fortunate in our own lives, with family, community, and opportunities that we want to share with another soul.  We have no expectations of our children, no idea of who and what they should be.  We have had so many beautiful opportunities to find ourselves and our passions, and that is what we want to provide for our children; the space to feel safe, to feel loved, and the opportunities and open doors to grow to be who they want to be.  We have been blessed to have found one another and be parents to our son and we have so much more love we want to share with another child.

Adopting our son has been the best decision we have ever made. We could not love him more, and we could not be more grateful and more respectful of his mother. We love that we are still in touch with her, that we were able to introduce her to our son this past summer, and that she can remain in our lives and in our son’s life in whatever way feels most comfortable and healthy for him.  This is what we wish to have with you.

Our home is joyful. We eat well, we play hard, and are very grateful for the life we have created. We love to be outdoors, go to the beach, hike, swim, and travel. We grow a lot of fruits and vegetables in our yard and take a lot of pleasure in eating right off the trees and in picking our ingredients for dinner. We are thoughtful about our place in this world. At the moment our house is filled with toys, arts and crafts, and most certainly love and laughter.

Ed adopted our son by himself as a single man in 2017. His desire to be a father was stronger than any other. We were then introduced by a friend when our son was only 3 ½ months old. Now, almost four years later, we are married and Rob has officially also adopted our son.  Our boy is a kind, loving, fun and creative human, a true bright light, and will be an incredibly loving older brother.  We are two capable and loving dads and we have a tight-knit family that includes two aunts and uncles, six first cousins, five grandparents and a beautiful clan of close friends near and far who we consider to be part of our family.  We love to cook, entertain and host our friends and family and our house is often the site of gatherings, dinners and slumber parties.  We both work for ourselves in creative fields and so have flexible hours to be available for and with our children.  We believe that all of us on this earth are one, and we will raise our children to believe the same. To be global citizens. Choosing a family for your child is an incredibly difficult thing to do, it is also such a remarkably beautiful and loving thing to do.  Whatever you choose, we have so much respect for you and for the love that you have for your baby. We honor you and that love, and we thank you for considering us to be their family.

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Why We Are Choosing to Adopt

We absolutely love being parents and being a family and we want to grow that family.  Our house is filled with love and laughter and we want to add to the mix and beauty of different souls, and personalities in our lives by welcoming a daughter. We feel a spiritual calling to adopt and believe there is a daughter out there waiting to join our family.  Becoming a dad has been the single best choice either of us has ever made for ourselves (along with our marriage!!), and we want to share that with another soul.  We absolutely believe that the bond is as strong in an adoptive family as in any other family structure.  We could not love our adopted son more than we do, and we know that love knows no bounds.

While it may seem strange to add a specific “request” in a process that is so open and organic, we both feel that the next child we are meant to have is a girl.  We respect and love the feminine in this world and we want to support her, be champions for her, and raise a girl to have all of the opportunities and open doors that we have had.  We also feel strongly that we want each of our children to truly feel that they have their own story, with as little comparison or competition as possible.  With adoption, there are already many opportunities that will occur for comparison, different birth stories, birth families, cultures… and we want each of our children to be able to celebrate themselves, their strengths, and their stories in as unique a way as possible. Gender identity can be fluid, and what one is born as may not be who they end up being, but at least beginning as unique sexes from each other will add the extra space and possibility of freedom from such comparison, allowing each of them to feel truly special within our family.  We would love the opportunity for a girl to add her energy to our house and offer us new understandings of life, and while we are three boys already at home, we are surrounded by many incredible and powerful women, both in our extended family and friend group, who will support us and our daughter and be role models and mentors for her as she grows.   We understand it can be surprising to a birth mother to think that we want to “choose” the sex of our second child, and we hope that you will understand that it is truly with the intention of creating the best possible situation for each of our children, giving them the most potential for a meaningful and beautiful life.

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Our Relationship with Our Son's Birth Mother

We could not be more grateful or more respectful of our son’s mother. The relationship between us is everything we could ever hope and dream to have. We made a commitment to one another in the hospital and we both have kept to that commitment, with pleasure, for the last four years.  We love that we are still in touch with her, that we were able to introduce her to our son this past summer, and that she can remain in our lives and in our son’s life in whatever way feels most comfortable and healthy for him. We are so impressed by her grace and the love that she has for her son. From the moment we met her we have been impressed with how she has handled the situation and our relationship.  We send pictures regularly, and we chat by text and phone. That being said, we are completely open to what makes you most comfortable and accommodating your needs. Our priority is that our children have no secrets, know they have always and will always be loved, that the adoption process was done with and in love for them, and that their mothers’ choice was with grace and love.

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How We Met

We were set up on a blind date by a woman who had worked briefly with Ed and who went to college with Rob.  Rob was living in New York City but traveling to California for work frequently and didn’t know many people in California.  Rob asked just one friend if she knew anyone who might be interested and that person said that she knew one amazing man who was single and had a newborn child!  Rob was fascinated to meet a man who was so brave as to have a child on his own, and we met just one day after we were put in touch.  Our first date happened in the garden of Ed’s house after his newborn was asleep and we have been together ever since.  It has been a miraculous and magical romance as we both figured out how to start a long distance relationship while Ed was focused on his son.  We always felt familiar with one another and quickly fell into a beautiful rhythm as a family.  We have been together for 4 years and recently celebrated our one year wedding anniversary.

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Our Lifestyle

After many years of working very hard and chasing our careers, we have both organized our lives to enjoy our family life.  Ed works in a sweet little office at the end of our backyard next to our fig tree. Rob’s office is on the main floor of our home. We both work for ourselves and are lucky enough to be around the house and available to spend time with our children throughout the day.  Ed’s company is based in Paris, where he used to live, and supports high end fashion and luxury clients with their advertising and fashion shows. As a young person, he always liked connecting with different people, being independent, and was attracted to various cultures. Finding this way of expressing himself professionally was a perfect expression of his talents and interests.  Rob is a set designer for television and celebrity photo shoots. As a child he loved working with his hands and building things.  He always wanted to have his own business in a creative field and be in control of his own time. Both of us never wanted to have to wear a suit and tie to work!!!   We eat dinner all together at 6 pm every night and take turns driving our son to school.  On weekends we meet with friends either in our backyard or at the beach or playground.  We are all social and our house is often the site of informal get-togethers and slumber parties.  We love to cook and eat well.   We love to be outdoors, go to the beach, hike, swim, and travel. As Ed’s business is in France, our life also includes regular time in Europe.

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Home & Neighborhood

Our home is joyful and painted firehouse red!!  We grow a lot of fruits and vegetables in our yard and take a lot of pleasure in eating right off the trees and in picking our ingredients for dinner. At the moment our house is filled with toys, arts and crafts, and most certainly love and laughter.  We live in a four-bedroom house in a large California city.   The main living space of the house includes an open living room, dining room and kitchen, which is where we spend the most time as a family.  We have a wrap-around front porch so there is always a shady spot to read or do projects, and a back deck off the kitchen where we have our picnic table and BBQ.   Our oversized driveway has plenty of space for riding scooters, playing ball, drawing with chalk and paints, and our large backyard has grassy areas to roll around,  tables and chairs to host friends and eat outdoors, as well as a big garden with vegetables and many fruit trees.  We also recently added an outdoor shower and bathtubs so we are able to splash over the sides without worry!!  Our neighborhood is safe and diverse and has a lot of young families. We have large sidewalks, and can easily walk to multiple parks, restaurants, ice cream shops, cute coffee spots, grocery stores, and friends!!

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Cultural Diversity

Cultural diversity is a topic that is on our minds constantly. We are interested in people. We respect the power and beauty of lineages, various cultures, and the strength that comes from honoring all of the various ways of being in the world.  Although we are white men, the fact of being gay, and Jewish has made us slightly more sensitive to what it feels like to be different in our society, and most certainly to understand the beauty and richness that comes from diversity and differences.  Our friend group and the community in which we live are mixed, and diversity and the celebration of diversity are at the top of our priorities for schooling and community organizations to be a part of.  Travel and understanding other cultures will always be something that we do as a family. If we are blessed with a child from a different ethnic or cultural background than ourselves, it would be our absolute pleasure and duty to enrich all of our lives with that culture, that community, and make sure that our child felt as much a part of their birth families history as they do with our own.

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Travel

Our family loves to travel!  We both have traveled a lot before we met and we continue to do so as a family.  We love to take road trips in California and explore places with natural beauty and regularly go to national parks and beautiful parts of the state.  We also travel to Europe frequently as Ed’s business is based in Paris and he has many close friends there.  We spend every August as a family at a cottage by the sea in Connecticut, a 10 minute walk from Rob’s parents and a short drive from Ed’s parents.  We love to explore new places and recently returned from a magical trip to watch the grey whales in Baja, Mexico. When we are not traveling, we love to spend time at the beach, hiking, playing tennis, and being outdoors in any way possible!

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Our Relationship with Our Parents

Our relationships with our families, particularly our parents, are very important to us.  We are each close with our parents and enjoy regular trips and visits with them throughout the year. Hilariously, as we are writing this text, Ed’s father just left, Rob’s parents are here visiting, and Ed’s mother is due to arrive in several weeks! As a bonus…not only do we love our own parents, we love each other’s parents.  Our parents have lots in common and Rob’s dad and Ed’s mom went to a large New York City high school together and even signed one another’s yearbook (a fact we learned after we had been dating for some months!).  We both love when any of our parents come to stay with us and they love spending 2 or 3 weeks at a time with us.  When either of us travels for work, often one of our parents will come to stay with us so it turns into a ‘sleepover party’ for our son and we always love the extra help.  We are both also close with our older brothers and their kids.  Our son loves spending time with his cousins and he has a lot of opportunities to do so over the summer when we are on the east coast near our siblings and their families.

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Our Families & Friends

We have a tight-knit family that is very involved in our lives, including five parents who are active and doting grandparents, and who all get along with each other.  Both of our brothers are married with 2-4 children each and they are excited to welcome their new cousin.  We have family reunions each year, we go on ski trips together, have BBQ’s, and enjoy each other.  In addition to our immediate family, we have a beloved chosen family of friends who we see all of the time.  Despite the fact that both of us have lived all over the world, many of our closest friends are still from our childhood and college days. We value our friendships and prioritize spending time with them weekly.  Many are just having children now and we look forward to raising our children together in a loving community.

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Family Traditions

We both come from a reformed Jewish background but our family traditions are mixed and we are more spiritual than religious.  We like to give thanks before we eat each night and we do light candles every Friday night for Shabbat, usually with one or more grandparent on Facetime.  We like to host Thanksgiving each year as well as some of the more fun, informal Jewish holidays in the backyard. We also like to dye, decorate and hunt for Easter eggs.  Our biggest connection is to the earth and so all of our celebrations incorporate that respect.  We have three traditional family vacations that we take at the same time each year with grandparents and extended family.  We also have a weekly tradition of making pancakes every Sunday morning.

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What We Will Teach

We have no expectations of our children, no idea of who and what they should be.  We have had so many beautiful opportunities to find ourselves and our passions, and that is what we want to provide for our children; the space to feel safe, to feel loved, and the opportunities and open doors to grow to be who they want to be. We are global citizens, members of a community of beings that populate this planet both human and non-human, animal, mineral and plant. All beings are important and necessary for the balance and survival of this beautiful planet and our children will be raised with that awareness and hopefully that love for the earth and all of its many gifts.  Our children will learn respect, kindness, empathy, and the knowledge that they are beautiful, capable, and that their true expression is the expression of the universe.

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Our Promise to You

Our promise to you is that your child will be so loved and nurtured for our entire lives. We promise that your child will be honored and supported to be exactly who they are born to be. We promise that your choice and your love for your child will always be respected and celebrated in our family.  We will do all we can to create all the opportunities and open doors for your child to be all they dream and are destined to be.

Message Ed and Rob

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

Contact Ed and Rob

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!