Brent and Jill

Married Since: 2004

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: No

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We promise to treat you with respect and gratitude. We will be attentive and tender parents to your child. We will bring him or her up with security, a good education, and a large and close-knit family.

Brent and Jill

from Illinois

 

Brent

Ancestry: Czech

Religion: Lutheran

Occupation: Business Owner

Education: BA

Hobbies: Sports, Travel, Tech

Jill

Ancestry: Irish, Danish

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Surgeon

Education: MD

Hobbies: Cooking, Travel, Reading, Tennis

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Christian

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From Us to You

Dear Expectant Mom,

We are so delighted to be meeting you! We are Brent and Jill and we have been trying to become parents for a very long time. In truth, this is sort of a surreal way to meet a new family member but that is how we think of you – as our new family member.

We’d like to tell you a little bit about ourselves and hopefully, we will have an opportunity to learn more about you. We met through a mutual friend in 2002 and had our first date at the local Dairy Queen. We were married in Jill’s hometown two years later and chartered a bus to bring all of our friends to the small rural town 8 hours away. It was an amazing time. At the beginning of our marriage, we lived in Chicago for 15 years and eventually tired of living in the big city and wanted to have a house with our own yard and room for a child to run around. We really like the slower pace of the suburbs and have established a home in our wonderful community. We love spending time at home, cooking, and having friends over for barbeques or just to hang out. We love watching movies, reading, and cheering on the Chicago Cubs. We’ve been married for 16 years and we are looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together.

We first started trying to conceive a few years into our marriage. Jill was in medical school and Brent was busy building his business and we sort of assumed getting pregnant would be easy and just “happen”. Well, it didn’t happen. And then it still didn’t happen. But we were so busy building our careers that we didn’t get too discouraged. We figured a baby would come at the right time. Toward the end of Jill’s residency 6 years later we realized we may need some help. We had a couple of fertility consultations and learned that there is no medical reason we can’t conceive. When faced with the option of going through invasive treatments and spending a lot of time on an uncertain outcome, our decision to pursue adoption became clearer.

We don’t know what you are going through right now but we expect you have mixed feelings about everything. We don’t want our excitement about having a baby to sound “tone deaf” to you. One of the things that we can offer you is our promise that your baby will have a comfortable, secure, and healthy home. Your baby will have a yard to play in, parents who love each other, a large and close-knit extended family with other little cousins to grow up with and so much more. Your baby will grow up with opportunities to travel, learn new languages, play musical instruments, and play sports. With us, your baby will grow up in one of the safest neighborhoods in America, within a lovely and diverse community. We want to raise your child to be compassionate and gentle-natured, but also to be courageous, curious, and confident. Your child will know where he or she is from and will be raised to have integrity and without a sense of entitlement.

We really want to give you the relationship with us and your baby that you are looking for. We are very flexible and we would love to have an ongoing relationship with you.

With love,
Brent and Jill

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About Jill

Jill and I have been together for 18 years. In those 18 years, I have seen her transform from a waitress to a double board-certified colorectal surgeon. This didn’t happen by accident, rather a lot of time and a ton of hard work. Her work ethic is one of the many reasons Jill is destined to be a great mother. I can see it when she’s around our niece and nephew, and scattered clues like volunteering to read to the kids before bed and gushing about it days later.

Jill is fun to be around, she’s also a natural leader – people are drawn to her. She’s invaluable to her medical practice but also makes time for friends and family. She loves to host and plans the menu for days in advance. She’s an avid reader and loves crossword puzzles. She’s naturally curious and will ask questions until she truly understands a new subject. She’s very driven, but that does not lead to an overpowering personality. She’s humble and her colleagues tell me she has a great bed-side manner.

Finally, when we become parents, I know Jill will be a fantastic parent. We both have great parents as role models, but Jill’s entire life has been practice for parenthood.

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About Brent

Brent is the best person I know. I was first attracted to his quiet but dry sense of humor and after all these years together, he still makes me laugh out loud. Since the very beginning he had a calmness and a quiet confidence that makes everyone around him really comfortable. He is trustworthy, selfless and takes care of his friends and family. He is generous and resourceful. He is handy. He is slow to anger. I love him. He enjoys smoking and grilling meat – he makes amazing bacon and I’ve never had a better steak in a restaurant! He loves growing tomatoes, he bakes a pretty mean loaf of bread and makes the best thin crust pizzas! He takes good care of his home and possessions – he does things that I wouldn’t even think to do – like change air conditioner filters and descale the sink faucets. He takes time to maintain his relationships with friends and he is great at meeting new people and making new connections. I love him.

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Why We Are Choosing to Adopt

Though Brent has always wanted children, Jill took some time coming to the decision to have children. It really wasn’t until we saw our friends and family members having children and having the opportunity to be a part of their life that Jill really developed her own desire to bring another person into our family. We both have reached a point in our careers and our relationship with one another that we feel prepared to give a child the stability and support in addition to our love. And of course, we are so excited at the prospect of raising your sweet baby, but we are also tremendously excited to see your little baby grow up and develop into a wonderful, well-rounded adult.

We initially looked at fertility treatments but after doing the research, we realized that the treatments are highly invasive, require quite a long time, and the success rates are not great. After seeing our cousin adopt two wonderful daughters, we realized adoption is the way for us. As a girl, Jill had always dreamed about adopting and now that old dream has resurfaced. Only now it has matured into a shared promise to be the best parents we can to your baby being entrusted to us.

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Home & Neighborhood

We live in an older home with a floor plan that gives us lots of room! We have a large family room and dining room, a formal living room and a home office which was recently remodeled. Our home has 3 bedrooms and we have a very sweet room ready for baby, just next door to our room. We chose our house because it is on a large corner lot with a large, fenced in backyard which is very private and comfortable. There are lots of mature trees. We have wonderful neighbors who will frequently stop for a chat with and give us the neighborhood news. We live in a quaint downtown village and often walk to the nearby coffee shops and restaurants. We also live near the train which makes it easy to get into the city for trips to the museums and plays and concerts.

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Our Lifestyle

We both work really hard at our jobs – Jill as a surgeon and Brent as an accountant – so when we come home we really love to kick back and relax in the backyard and cuddle with our miniature dachshunds. We get together with friends and their children on the weekends, going to the pool in the summer or watching movies in the winter. We belong to a gym and Jill is learning to play tennis. We both enjoy staying active and walk our dogs around the neighborhood when the weather is warm, using our Peloton during the colder months and enjoying the many hiking trails around the area. We love to travel and usually take one bigger trip every year and try to sprinkle several smaller trips throughout the year. This year we were supposed to spend 2 weeks in England but since COVID19 happened we instead spent a week on the beach in Georgia. We also spent a week with Jill’s parents in Pennsylvania and are going to Austin to visit friends for a long weekend. Other places we’ve recently traveled to and loved are Yellowstone, Seattle and Park City.

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Our Families & Friends

Brent grew up in Illinois with his mom, dad and three brothers. He has an older brother and two younger brothers. Three of the four boys now work with their father in the family accounting practice. His mom is a retired school teacher and loves helping to babysit her two grandchildren, Cameron and Hailey. Brent’s extended family live in Illinois and Wisconsin with a few branches of family in Pennsylvania, Nebraska and Oklahoma. We all get together on the family homestead in the upper peninsula of Michigan for a large family reunion for a weekend in August every year – we camp and grill and play yard games and catch up.

Jill grew up in rural Pennsylvania with her mom, dad and younger brother. Her father is a retired minister and outdoor enthusiast. Jill’s mom is retired from her job as OR scheduler at the local hospital. They live across the street from Jill’s father’s brother and his wife. Jill’s extended family lives mostly in rural Pennsylvania where the great outdoors and the quiet life make it one of the places Jill and Brent love to travel to most. Her brother lives nearby in Illinois so now Jill’s parents make the trip to Illinois for holidays and sometimes just because.

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Family Traditions

As a modern couple living in the Midwest, the idea of “our traditions” seems a little old fashioned. But in thinking of what tradition means in this day and age, we realize that everything we “traditionally” do has one thing in common – family. Our traditions involve spending time with our large family and celebrating the seasons. Some of the things we do are pretty familiar – we get together as a family on Christmas Eve and exchange gifts. We eat turkey and watch football on Thanksgiving. Some of the other things we do are not so traditional – Brent and his buddies have been traveling every year to watch the Chicago Cubs play in a different stadium around the country. They’ve done this for the last 15 years! Jill gets together with her girlfriends each holiday season to exchange Christmas ornaments – usually gifting unique ornaments that she’s picked up from her travels during the year. Jill and her mom enjoy taking a long weekend trip each spring to different places around the United States to explore – we’ve recently been to Santa Fe, Charleston, Savannah and Clearwater, FL. One of the traditions we look forward to every year is our annual extended family reunion in the upper peninsula of Michigan, at the site of the original homestead. We spend the weekend “roughing it”: camping, playing lawn games, barbequing and spending time with the whole family.

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Our Relationship with Our Parents

We both really value our relationships with our parents. We also have excellent relationships with our in-laws. As adults we have become close friends and spend quite a bit of time with each. Jill’s parents make frequent trips to visit us and we travel to see them each summer. We usually alternate Christmas and Thanksgiving with our parents. Our relationship with our parents has matured over the years and as much as we enjoy their friendship we know that our parents never stop being our parents. This is the way we feel about our future child – no matter what, we will never stop being his or her parents.

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Careers

Jill was raised to understand the importance of education for its own sake but not much attention was given to how to apply that education. After college she was unsure of what she should do for a career. It was while working as a waitress in a small diner that she realized that she enjoyed helping other people and she decided to go to medical school. During school she realized that working with her hands was what she was best at and so she set out to become a surgeon. After 10 years of education and training she is now able to serve those in her community in a way that is both challenging and satisfying.

Brent grew up admiring his father, an accountant who started his own business from scratch. Brent always was good with numbers and after college wanted to get his own experience in the profession instead of just joining with his father. He worked for several large companies in Illinois doing corporate accounting and making his way up the ladder. He eventually gave that rat race up to join his father. Now, 12 years into it he and his two brothers have taken over the business and grown it into a large family business. They have bought and restored two historical buildings in their city and have become real leaders in the business community. Brent has become passionate about citizenship, philanthropy and helping others prosper.

Overall, we feel that what we have in common in our professional lives is that we are each working in service of others. It is the driving force behind our efforts.

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How We Spend A Three Day Weekend

As much as we love traveling nothing compares to being at home. Our typical three day weekend involves running errands, working on projects at home and usually going out to eat for dinner or breakfast. We usually try to get together with friends or family at least once on a long weekend and we often will host friends to watch football on Sundays in the fall or to grill outside in the summer. We both enjoy cooking – Jill loves trying out new techniques and especially loves working with seasonal vegetables. Brent has mastered the art of making his own bacon, focaccia bread, as well as tomato sauce. He is looking to learn how to make fresh pasta and Jill is definitely encouraging him in that project! Brent has even dabbled in making his own fresh mozzarella. Other things we will do on a long weekend is go for walks with the dogs in the warmer months. Jill enjoys cross country skiing and has learned to knit in the long winter months.

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Vacations

Neither of us grew up taking a lot of family trips – mainly we went to visit our grandparents on vacations. As adults, we like to go on small trips throughout the year. We try to see and go somewhere new, and to alternate between sightseeing trips and beach vacations. We were scheduled to go to England for two weeks this summer but that was canceled. However, we took the time and relaxed on an all but deserted beach in Georgia and spent time traveling around the small island and seeing the historical landmarks. Last year we went to Seattle and had a great time learning the awesome public transit system, eating oysters fresh from Puget sound, watching Cubs baseball and visiting the space needle and Pike’s place. We spent a week in Yellowstone park hiking and seeing all the incredible sights. We also take a week each summer to visit Jill’s parents in Pennsylvania. Some future trips we are planning are England, Israel and some other places around the United States such as Asheville, NC; Yosemite national park, Vermont in the fall and so many more. We love to travel and are so looking forward to sharing this special experience with your child.

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Cultural Diversity

We are very excited to raise a child from any heritage. In fact, we believe that the opportunity to raise a child with a different background than ours would only enhance the cultural diversity that we know must be a priority in any community. We understand and are committed to raising a child with respect and reverence for the differences that make all of us unique. Learning other languages, learning other foods, cultural and religious practices are some of the ways that we can honor the traditions that your child comes from and we are committed to integrating those traditions into our family from day one, not just when your child becomes school age or begins to ask questions. We want your child to feel at home in his or her own skin and know the language to communicate with others who also share their background.

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Our Promise to You

We are profoundly humbled that you would consider us to raise your child. Having gone through the process of trying to conceive and having many long years of disappointment, we have grieved as well at the prospect of lost children. We want nothing more than to be worthy of your trust and are committed to your child’s future. We promise to treat you with respect and gratitude. We will be attentive and tender parents to your child. We will bring him or her up with security, a good education and a large and close-knit family and friends. We will teach him or her the values of honesty, compassion and respect for others, community engagement, respect for nature. He or she will be raised to be independent and self-assured. Above all, we will do everything in our power to raise a child who you will be proud of.

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