Nickname: Pete and Katie

Married Since: 2012

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Yes

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: Yes

We promise you to love your baby, to care for her, to guide her, and to know she knows you love her so much so that you made one of the toughest choices a woman, a parent, can make. She will be loved and we will make sure she knows how loved she is by all of her parents.

Peter and Katherine

from Missouri

Peter

Ancestry: Russian, German

Religion: Spiritual

Occupation: Senior System Administrator

Education: IT

Hobbies: Woodworking, Camping, Cycling, Travel

Katherine

Ancestry: Canadian, Irish, European

Religion: Spiritual

Occupation: Stay-at-Home Mom

Education: BA

Hobbies: Art, Reading, Baking, Travel

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: Caucasian / Asian, Asian / Hispanic, Caucasian, Caucasian / Hispanic, Caucasian / Indian, Caucasian / Middle Eastern, Caucasian / Native American, Caucasian / Pacific Islander, Hispanic, Hispanic / Middle Eastern, Hispanic / Native American, Hispanic / Pacific Islander, Indian, Middle Eastern, Pacific Islander, Native American Indian

Preferred Gender of Baby: Female

Religion Child To Be Raised: Spiritual

Favorites

Peter

Book
Anything by Lee Child
Childhood Memory
Jumping into piles of fall leaves
Color
Orange
Early Bird or Night Owl?
Night Owl
Food
Pizza
Hobby
Woodworking
Holiday
Christmas
Leisure Activity
Being outdoors, camping
TV Show
Watching camping or car vids on YouTube
Vacation Spot
National Parks/outdoor in nature

Katherine

Book
Life 101 by Peter McWilliams
Childhood Memory
Holidays or going to Six Flags
Color
Purple
Early Bird or Night Owl?
Early Bird
Food
Cake or French fries
Hobby
Zumba or dancing
Holiday
Christmas
Leisure Activity
Reading or watching a movie
TV Show
Sugar Rush
Vacation Spot
Anywhere with good food and mild climate
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From Us to You

Life is full of planned and unplanned things. While we may not be able to relate to all of the things you are feeling and experiencing while creating an adoption plan for your child, we wish you all the best as you navigate this chapter in your life, whatever your decision ends up being. If you feel a connection with our family and entrust us to be part of your experience with the gift of raising your baby, she will be loved and cared for in so many ways.

We both focus on enjoying life right now and look forward to new experiences. Life for your baby in our home would be full of fun times like family game nights, baking yummy treats, or taking family trips. Holidays are filled with extended family. We have a dozen or so relatives who live near us in the Midwest and many more spread throughout the U.S and Canada.

The biggest complaint our kids have these days is boredom. So we think that is pretty good! Typical days consist of school, work, swim classes or activities, chores and projects around the house, and hopeful early bedtimes. Vacations usually involve mini golf and tons of kids activities. We break up our normal routine by going out of town to go glamp in a cabin, visit an amusement park, or whatever else may be on the radar.

Katie is a stay at home parent so she will be home with the baby until she is ready for a preschool program. Our two boys attend a local private school that is a small student body and has a great homey feel to it.

You may like to know why we are adopting and there are a few reasons, but the most important is because we want to adopt. A family story is unique. No two families are alike. Big families, small, blended, biological, the friends who become your family, there are so many ways for families to come together. So for us, this makes sense.

Katie grew up knowing her mom was adopted, so adoption has always been something on her mind. After having two babies, we kept talking about taking the path of adoption if we were to have more. We knew pretty quickly after our second that we wanted a third child. We also know we want a daughter. Words cannot begin to fairly portray just how much we love our boys. We also cannot articulate the desire to have a daughter. Not only for Katie as a mom, but for Pete who will be a pile of goo with a little girl, and for our two boys. Our oldest son is so caring and sweet-natured. We have no doubt he will just adore a little sister. While our youngest son is still in his toddler years, we know he too will be a great big brother because he’s learning every day from our oldest.

We want to bring diversity into our household and one way to do that is by having more kids. Having brothers and sisters is something that helps people grow up with different perspectives and also teaches them how to get along with a variety of people.

The beauty of families is the unique ways people come together. We are open to whatever kind of relationship you’d like to have with us and your child. Katie’s mom did not have open ties with her biological family until she was well into her forties and found her birth family. The fact that she chose to find them in her adult life leads us to believe people like to know where they come from and to learn things about their backgrounds. We’re open to creating a connection that fits all of us knowing that it will continually evolve.

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About Katie

Katie is a loving caring, person who always wants to make others around her feel comfortable. We met online and I found out later that her pictures were, let’s say, staged. Her profile showed her pouring wine; she hates wine. There was another with her holding flowers; she doesn’t garden either. We still laugh about this today. (A note from Katie: I was holding a bottle of wine, not pouring it. I also do plant flowers, now. We have a lot of flower boxes on our deck!)

It’s been almost ten years and we’re still loving and laughing together. We don’t see much point in fighting. I’d rather talk it out or take some time individually to get in a better headspace because words hurt and unsaying somethings isn’t possible. We balance each other perfectly; I’m more of the rational thinker and she’s the emotional person I need. She makes me a better man, father, and husband.

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About Pete

What can I say? After over ten years of being together, I still gush about him like he is new to me. Pete is patient, smart, funny, and kind. He makes me laugh, always wants to help others, and is super handy but not in the “I can fix anything, but not really, so I will actually break it” kind of way. He knows his limits.

He is a thinker and a great listener. He keeps an open mind and is never quick to judge or get angry or put a label on a person. He always says, “Most things are not black and white, but gray.” There’s a big gray area where most of life takes place so he tries to see things from an open point of view.

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Why We Are Choosing to Adopt

We are physically able to conceive more biological children, but we want to adopt a daughter. We have two beautiful sons, who are kind, caring, funny, and wonderful. They will be great brothers to a little sister. This is a beautiful opportunity for us to experience as a family together. We understand what makes a family and that is people, no matter how they come together. It’s funny, after our first was born it was a while before we knew we wanted to have another. For a while, we thought we might only have one. Then we decided to have a second and not long after he arrived we knew we wanted another baby. Seeing the sibling bond with our two kids is so special and we know there’s room for more love in this home. We both want to be able to give a birth mom the assurance and security she needs to feel good about creating a life plan for her baby.

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How We Met

(From Pete) We met online and messaged back and forth a while before meeting in person. I figured this was a good time to get to know her before meeting. We decided to meet at The Cheesecake Factory. We split a pizza and cheesecake and the conversation just flowed. Katie had a backup plan lined up with friends in case I was a bust. Luckily, she was impressed with how things went. After dinner, we went over to her friend’s house for game night. So here I am after we just met, headed off to meet a bunch of new people. I’ve learned to roll with the punches in my life and I’m glad I went. The night was fun and I knew I wanted to see her again. It didn’t take long from there to tell that we were going to be great.

(From Katie) Since we are both introverted people it is not a surprise to learn we met online. Thankfully, this was before Tinder was a thing. We met on a paid site that required more than a swipe. Pete initiated contact and we exchanged messages, then emails and phone calls for a few days before making plans to meet. There was one picture of Pete on his profile that stood out to me. I could see his eyes and all I could see or get from his picture was kindness. When we met for the first time I was relieved and struck speechless. Not only did he actually look like his pictures but he looked better than his pictures. He was such a nice guy, interesting, and friendly. Within our first few dates, I was smitten.

The ongoing joke is that I snagged him by moving my fish into his house first and then he was stuck. (A note from Pete) What she’s not telling you is that she wanted to spend the weekend and there was a tornado warning and I had a basement and her apartment didn’t. She showed up with a roller bag and her fish. (From Katie) What he is forgetting to mention is that there was an invitation to stay with him through the bad weather during the week. I needed my things and I had a fish to take care of, what was he expecting?

I think what set the tone for us was that we were both transparent with one another from the get-go about our past divorces and what we were after for our futures. It was clear we were able to easily talk to each other. Communication goes a long way in relationships and if it is there to begin with, then it’s not hard to continue building on it.

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Our Lifestyle

We are your typical suburban Midwest family. We like to grill, go on trips, work on our house, see friends or family, and cheer on the local baseball team. We have to admit we are not sports people. We cheer for our home teams, but most times of the year we forget what sports are on the television. Instead, you can find us doing the other activities we mentioned and more.

We have two sons. Our oldest will be turning seven in December, and our youngest will be two in February. Oddly enough, we seem to have double birthdays in our families so these each coincide with the birthdays of a Grandma and an Uncle. We knew we wanted to wait after having our first before having more. It allowed us to spend more time with our oldest and have him more involved when a baby came long. Alternately, our oldest is more involved in his school and other activities so we can have individual time with our youngest.

While we are ready for an adoption opportunity to come at any time, we are also going through the process knowing the right match needs to happen at its own pace and we are making plans to welcome a new baby now or later so she will easily integrate into our family.

It’s important to both of us as parents that our kids know how to play well together and also have a sense of independence. We encourage and nurture both of these traits. Our oldest likes to have one of us stay with him at bedtime where we usually read a book or two, then turn on music and hang out in his room and talk before he goes to bed. As our kids grow up we’ve already discussed having parent dates where we will do something one on one with the kids to strengthen relationships. Likewise, we want to help facilitate mutual respect and understanding with their siblings. We don’t always expect them to be the best of friends, but we do expect them to be kind to one another and make family time fun.

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Our Personalities

We are very similar, yet very different. Katie: emotional, quirky, sentimental, morning bird, foodie, creative, and passionate. Pete: think tank, patient, talented, smart, ambitious, and even-keeled. Where we are different balances each other out. Where we are the same is what makes us strong as a couple. We communicate well together.

Having a night owl and morning person combo for parenting is great. Pete often takes late shifts with the baby and Katie can be up in the morning when he is non-caffeinated and non-responsive. Katie often asks rapid-fire questions while Pete is still trying to rub the sand out of his eyes and turn on the coffee pot. On the flip side, when the sun goes down, Pete is wide awake. This works well for schedules and shifting different responsibilities to one another as needed.

We are both patient and have built our relationship on communication. Katie is very in touch with her emotions and the emotions of others. We work well as a team. We teach our kids how to share their thoughts and feelings, and what it means to work together as a family. The same balance we have as a couple sets a balance for the family. We and our private elementary school teach independence and self-reliance. This practice is very helpful when we try to get things done around the house. Babysitters, teachers, and co-workers often tell us how well behaved and happy our children are. We both try to explain things to them as we go along to create an open, learning environment for them to grow up in.

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Our Home and Neighborhood

We live in a nice neighborhood in a court backing up to lots and lots of trees and a creek. Even though we live in a well-populated area, we get to see wildlife in the trees around us all the time like deer, owls, and hummingbirds. One day, Katie saw ten deer at one time in our neighbor’s yard, it was pretty special!

Our home is a two-story house with a fully finished basement, a deck, and a sizeable backyard. It is still in the process of being updated with our personal preferences, but it is a really nice home. We have friendly neighbors and our street is very quiet. The street alternates between young families and retirees and the number of kids growing up on our street continues to grow.

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Our Families

Katie’s family: I am one of four kids with two older sisters and one younger brother. My parents are still alive and in their seventies. I’ve grown up and for the most part, lived in the same area most of my life. We are a pretty close family. Like any family, we have had our share of disagreements because we are human, but we also come together. We mostly get together for holidays or birthdays, but sometimes we will gather just for fun or if it’s been a while since our last get together. We have game nights, water gun fights, and nerf dart fights, which is pretty hilarious considering we are all well into our adult years. Our latest excursion was for a family skate party which was a lot of fun! We are the only ones on both our families’ sides with children, so our kids are the only grandkids. Your child will be the first granddaughter, and I can tell you, she will be very spoiled!

Pete’s family: I grew up in Connecticut in a small house in a quiet neighborhood. We had three generations (seven people and a small dog) in a 3 bedroom 2 bath house. I grew up with a brother and have vivid memories of playing on the swingset and our school at the end of the cul de sac. Often, that school was our real playground. In the winter we’d use the hill there to sled on. In the summer, there were bike trails the other kids made through the woods we played on but each season had a new adventure in store. My grandparents had a small home built in New Hampshire with lake access where we’d spend many weekends together. Time spent there was, and still is, my favorite childhood memory. We had a small, 14′ motorboat. It was nothing fancy but we loved going out on it. We’d all pile in to ride around the lake looking at all the other houses and waving hello to neighbors. There was a tree that had a rope swing on it. It was a blast. Neighbors had a floating dock we’d swim on and another had a diving board. After my father passed away, we left Connecticut for Florida. I never took to the beach life and missed the seasons I had growing up as a kid. After college, I moved to Missouri where there were more opportunities to continue my career in IT.

My brother was a kind-hearted person who would do anything for anyone if they asked. He loved anything with a motor and had lots of hobbies. He became a pilot in about 2010 but lost his life in a plane crash in 2017. He and I were different people but found common ground in our hobbies. He never knew a stranger and is a big part of the reason we have so many friends that we now consider part of the family and see regularly on our trips to Florida.

My mom, grandma, and our family-friends are all very important in our lives today. My mom is a strong-willed person but will get sappy and show you her love through very thoughtful gestures. After Caleb was born, she redid my baby book and handmade baby items from my grandma on my dad’s side. This got the waterworks going in a good way. My mom and grandma still live in Florida. We visit often (pre-pandemic), and they come here as well. We have extended family friends in Florida and in the New England area who we also see once a year or more when timing permits.

Our Friends: We are both laid back people and on the introverted side so the friendships we have are few in number, but long-lasting and special. We are both always open to making new friends. Last year we had our first Friendsgiving with another family that we’d just met and we hope to make this a regular tradition.

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Family Traditions

Aside from water gun fights and other fun family events, here are some of the day to day pieces to our family life. If you can’t tell already, our family traditions center around the people we love and the fun we have together. We celebrate all the major holidays, and would also be considerate of incorporating any additional holidays from your culture if it differs from ours. While we do not practice religion we are an open-minded spiritual bunch and have open, age-appropriate dialogues about life and religion as questions arise.

Our holidays are fun and we always look for more traditions to carry on and create for our kids. We color Easter eggs and look for them in or out of the house. There’s always one egg hidden under our kids’ pillows which is a tradition from Katie’s side of the family. We trick or treat and carve pumpkins we picked from the pumpkin patch or grocery store. We watch Christmas movies and have presents under the tree. We bake our favorite holiday treats or meals like Christmas breakfast casserole. Katie’s mom and siblings started a holiday crate making tradition for the grandkids where they get and decorate a wooden crate, paint each of the sides with a different scene, and place the child’s name on the crate. Come Christmas Eve, some small items are placed in the crate for the kids to play with in anticipation of the next morning. It might be a set of pajamas, or a coloring book, or other fun themed items.

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How We Spend A Three Day Weekend

We love three-day weekends! Depending on the time of year, we take a short road trip somewhere to get out of town. If it coincides with any kind of holiday, there’s likely a family event of some kind involving the aunts, uncles, and grandparents. Oh and lots of food. As parents, we try to each get time for ourselves, so there’s usually a divide and conquer plan. The kids get a mom or dad day, while the other gets time for themselves. Katie will paint or work on her artwork and Pete may do anything from wash a car, work in his woodshop, or get outdoors. There may be a family fishing trip at our local pond or lake or a family meal out at one of our favorite spots to eat. There is a strong possibility that lots of cartoons will happen as well.

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Our Careers and Callings

Katie: I am an artist and didn’t discover this until my adult life. I’ve worn many hats throughout the years and had many experiences in different fields. I know that being an artist is without a doubt my calling. Along with being a Mom like mine.

Pete: Ever since high school I was immersed in computer electronics and information systems. I’m a thinker and love to know how things work and IT has no limits in that search. Someday I’ll teach what I know instead of doing the work. Until then, I like the variety my career brings and the ever-changing IT landscape.

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Vacations

Katie loves food, so part of her vacation request is to find fun spots to try different foods. She also loves nature and architecture so being able to tour unique spots is fun. Having fun shops to pick up knick-knacks or trinkets from our trip is also a good time. We typically look for places we can go to and then we wing it. We find local spots to visit and our travel plans revolve around finding kid-friendly places and activities. It keeps the boys entertained and helps keep us sane.

Pete loves outdoor anything, but not roughing it for days at a time. We look for a middle ground with nature in the backyard of wherever we are staying. We both tend to like mild climates and like to visit woods, streams, and mountain areas.

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Our Thoughts to Our Future Birth Mom

Thank you. Thank you for taking a path of all kinds of emotional unknowns and for being in a place to bring your baby into the world. Thank you for choosing us to be a part of your journey. We promise to love your baby, to care for her, to guide her, and to know she knows you love her so much so that you made one of the toughest choices a woman, a parent, can make. She will be loved and we will make sure she knows how loved she is by all of her parents.

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Our Promise to You

We are pretty open-minded, straightforward people. We will welcome your baby into our family with open minds and hearts. She will be spoiled rotten as she will be the first granddaughter on either side. As parents, we believe in communication with our kids about everything and talking about our feelings, and our thoughts and that’s the environment she’ll be raised in. Any questions she has about who she is or where she came from will be answered with empathy, kindness, and honesty.

We understand a relationship with you will continue to evolve over the years and will work together in maintaining an open door on our end for you to come to at your own pace.

We will share anything you would like to be shared and speak of the greatest gift you gave which was the gift of asking for help when you knew you both would need it.

Differences are what brings people together and makes for rich relationships. Any differences in our family will be seen as an opportunity to learn and grow together. A common phrase to our children in our house is “Because everyone is different” when our oldest asks us about other people. This is true for each one of us in our family and every person we meet.

Message Peter and Katherine

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

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  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!