Abraham and Virginia

Married Since: 2017

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Yes

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

Your child will have no shortage of belly laughs and good food. They will travel and learn about different cultures. Through diapers, broken bones, soccer games, and the challenging adolescent years, they will be loved and cherished every single day.

Abraham and Virginia

from California

 

Abraham

Ancestry: Spanish, British, Irish

Religion: Nonpracticing

Occupation: Homemaker

Education: BFA

Hobbies: Art, reading, candy-making, writing

Virginia

Ancestry: Korean

Religion: Nonpracticing

Occupation: Senior Product Manager

Education: BA

Hobbies: Cooking, baking, drawing, guitar, reading

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Christian

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From Us to You

We want to thank you for considering this tremendous gift and sacrifice. We can’t imagine how difficult of a decision this is for you to make, and we are extremely grateful for your courage. Please rest assured, that if you were to choose us, your child will be provided for with all of the love and care we would have given to our own biological child. They will be given every advantage we can afford them to help them reach their full potential. We will respect an open adoption and will remain committed to your adoption plan, whatever it may be. We are equal parts excited and nervous for what our newest journey brings us. You are not alone. We will be here for you.

Our families have a huge presence in our lives and this will continue as we grow our family. Your child will have grandparents that will spoil them rotten, aunts and uncles that will adore them, and cousins to play with and learn from. We both grew up in devout Christian homes (Abraham’s family is Baptist, Virginia’s family is Catholic). We are currently non-practicing, but your child will have exposure and the choice to explore religion. Regardless, we will have strong family values and morals as we were taught in our own homes.

Education will be a priority in raising your child. We believe education (traditional or non-traditional) is the key to success. We believe learning about different cultures and people encourages empathy. We will provide them a safe, supportive space to learn and grow. Through example, we will teach a strong work ethic and the importance of giving back to society and helping those less fortunate. Another priority will be the pursuit of creative or physical activities. We both love music and art; our lives would be so boring without a creative outlet. Virginia admittedly doesn’t understand why people would want to run on purpose but appreciates the values taught by team sports and applies them today in her career.

Fortunately, Virginia’s career provides us with all that we need comfortably while continuing to save for the future. It is likely Abraham will be working from home and freelancing in your child’s earlier years. Virginia’s father stayed at home with her and her siblings while he ran a freelance business out of the home. Today they have fond memories of what a strong presence her father had in their childhood. Even if it’s the time her dad made cheese and kimchi sandwiches for lunch. Now we know where Virginia gets her diverse palette from! We are looking forward to seeing Abraham blossom as a caretaker. We have a feeling there will be a lot of homemade candy in your child’s future.

Your child will have no shortage of belly laughs and good food. They will travel and learn about different cultures. Through diapers, broken bones, soccer games, and the challenging adolescent years, they will be loved and cherished every single day. We are looking forward to it all. We will try our hardest to approach parenthood with grace, love, and humor. It would be our greatest honor to be parents to your child.

With love and respect,
Abraham and Virginia

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About Virginia

Virginia is one of the kindest and smartest people I have had the pleasure to know, and she is, hands down, the funniest person I’ve ever met. She is amazing at everything she puts her mind to and is a particularly incredible cook. She patiently introduced me to the delicious world of Korean cuisine, her specialty, about which I knew nothing before meeting her. I am deeply indebted to her for bringing Korean Barbecue and shaved ice into my life. I am constantly impressed and in awe of her abilities, both professionally and creatively. She has an amazing job, in which she excels, and even though I was the one that went to art school she is a much more popular artist, and deservedly so.

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About Abraham

Abraham inspires me to be a better person, but I also know he would never judge me for being anything less. Abraham has a deep interest in politics. He loves to read. Abe likes comic books and music from the ’90s. He has a dry sense of humor. He loves our pets (maybe the cats a little bit more than the dog). He is a talented artist. He loves candy and has even started to make his own taffy. He is my opposite in many ways, but we balance each other out: I love the beach, he would rather spend a weekend in the mountains; I love red licorice, he’s more of a black licorice guy (ew!); I can thrive in a crowded room, he prefers a small group; he is patient and enjoys the process while I work fast and prefer efficiency. Abe has a very tender and kind heart. He is my favorite person to goof around with. I think he’s going to make an amazing father.

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Our Lifestyle

We lead a relatively calm lifestyle in which we spend most of our evenings at home, with each other, even when there’s not a pandemic to contend with. Before the pandemic, we would occasionally venture out to a comedy club, or other local events, but more often than not our main source of excitement came in the form of searching for new and interesting restaurants to try out or watching a movie. We also enjoyed hosting dinner parties or a game night with friends. We both think one of the best parts of living in our area is the food. We love a good taco or boba tea. Before we met, Virginia didn’t like cats or sweets. Now, because of Abe, she is addicted to both. One of the more unusual date nights we planned was to the “Rage Room”, where we suited up and smashed objects with baseball bats. It was surprisingly fun! We try to take full advantage of what the city has to offer.

One of our favorite pre-pandemic activities was to ride our bikes to the beach and stop at the farmers’ market for shopping and lunch. Abraham is pretty active and has ridden in a 100-mile century ride. Virginia has also participated in races but definitely prefers our nightly walk with our dog Jackson over climbing mountains on her bike.

We also enjoy traveling. Some of the places we’ve been together are: San Francisco, Ukraine, Italy, France, New York, Niagara Falls, and Seattle. Abe’s favorite place we have visited is Paris. Virginia’s favorite is Rome. We both agree the most surprisingly enjoyable place we’ve gone together is Kiev. Fortunately, Virginia’s work allows them to travel the world when the opportunity arises. We can’t wait for the world to open back up to travel. Japan is the next country we would like to visit, hopefully as a family of three!

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How We Met

Most people will tell you to stay away from politics and religion as topics for a first date. We broke that rule within minutes of meeting each other for the first time. It was 2015, and the 2016 presidential primaries were upon the country. Virginia being from the DC area, was happy to find someone in the area that also enjoyed talking about politics. Abraham loves to talk about politics and had many smart, impressive things to say to Virginia. Virginia and Abe met at a local place between our two apartments at the time. We talked well into the night and stopped to get Virginia tacos before parting ways. We both knew we had just met someone very special and only waited another day before going on our second date.

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Cultural Diversity

We wish to raise our family in a culturally diverse environment. If we adopt a child outside of our own ethnicities, we plan on ensuring our child will have access and exposure to their own culture and ethnicity. We believe in honoring and celebrating differences rather than pretending they don’t exist. We understand the importance of representation and what effect it has. Both Abe (half white and Mexican) and Virginia (Korean) have been made to feel different due to our race and background, which has made us even more aware of the importance of empathy and acceptance.

Our family and friends are ethnically diverse; your child will have aunties and uncles from all backgrounds. Your child will learn how to treat others with dignity and respect. We will teach your child to be accepting. Living in California, there is great exposure to a variety of cultures and ethnicities. We will be sure to be mindful of the cultural makeup of wherever we live.

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What Attracted Us to Each Other

Abraham was attracted to Virginia’s beautiful smile and hilarious personality. She was unlike anyone else he had met, especially in our area; she was extremely warm, generous, and open. She loved her dog, Jackson, just as much as he loved his cat, Stettie. We had followed similar paths in our adult lives and he was immediately impressed with her life story and her accomplishments.

Virginia was attracted to Abraham’s shy smile. It felt good to make him laugh. He was so smart, and had kind eyes. He called when he said he would, and kept his word. He was unlike anyone else she had met. She knew she loved him when one day he invited her over to his apartment for the first time, and she saw he had drawn several pictures of her dog, Jackson. He had saved pictures she had sent him on his phone and made drawings. It was the nicest thing anyone had ever done for her.

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Home & Neighborhood

We live in a city in Southern California. It is a culturally diverse area, close to landmark neighborhoods. It is also not a far drive to the beach. We currently live in a two-bedroom duplex. We love our city and access to culture, the beach, and good food. In the future, we would consider moving to be closer to family so our child can have more space and a bigger support system as they grow up. In Colorado, we would be near Abe’s family and the clean mountain air. In Virginia, we would be just miles outside of the nation’s capitol’s free museums and monuments, and near Virginia’s family. Our home will always be full of friends, family, our pets, music, Virginia’s house plants, and good food.

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Our Pets

We have a dopey dog named Jackson, a surly female cat named Stettie (short for Bastet which is the Egyptian cat goddess), and a very sweet male cat named Sylvester. Before we met Virginia had Jackson and Abraham had Stettie, but we adopted Sylvester once we were married, and after Abraham turned Virginia into a cat person. Jackson is our eldest at 11 years, Stettie is the middle child at 10, and Sylvester is the youngest at 6 (we think). All three of our pets are rescued from animal shelters. The two cats tolerate each other and Jackson would prefer if he had the parents to himself. Stettie likes to make appearances in Virginia’s conference calls and Sylvester sleeps all day. Jackson is getting older but turns into a puppy if you say the “t” word – “treats”. In fact all of our pets know that word so we can’t say it out loud unless we are OK with three animals meowing and barking with excitement! Our pets are our family and we can’t imagine life without them. Our future family will always include a furry member.

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Hobbies

Many years ago Abe developed his love for coffee after he was a barista. Today he experiments with different roasts and methods. His set up is quite elaborate. In the warmer months, Abe enjoys cycling on his road bike. He also loves the creative arts. His latest creation is a sculpture of one of the cats on a keyboard, aka their favorite spot to sit while Virginia is using the computer! He also enjoys woodworking and has made many coasters, cutting boards, and plant stands for friends and family. We look forward to a bigger house so he can have a workshop. Most recently, Abe has taken up candy making. He loves experimenting with new flavors and is perfecting his methods.

Virginia is happiest when she is cooking a meal for loved ones. She even went to culinary school while taking a break from her corporate job in technology and owned a catering business. Recently, she’s been baking. Her most impressive achievement being croissants that took three days to make. Virginia is also a musician, having played the piano from age four. These days she only picks up the guitar when the mood strikes. Virginia has been developing her green thumb. Her love of plants comes from her mother, who can manage to get an orchid to re-bloom, something Virginia is still unable to do.

We love that we each have our own hobbies, but also enjoy the ones we share. We both love comedy, so before the pandemic, we would like to have a standup show to look forward to. We both love the arts. With Abe being the classically trained artist, Virginia loves learning how to improve her own skills. Another shared hobby is trying new foods. We had a monthly subscription box with snacks from around the world. We enjoyed tasting the snacks and taking notes on which ones we liked best. We even filmed some of our tastings and got a small following on social media. OK just our friends, but we felt like famous influencers! We are also in a family book club that meets over Zoom every two weeks.

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Our Families and Friends

Abraham’s family lives in a small town in Colorado, where he spent the majority of his school years. Before retiring, his wonderful parents owned the local drug store, with his father working as the local pharmacist while his mother was a stay-at-home mom. Nowadays his parents spend their retirement spoiling their grandchildren and exploring their hobbies. Abraham is the oldest of four siblings, including one brother and two sisters, and an uncle to five beautiful nieces and nephews.

Virginia’s family lives in Virginia, with Washington D.C. nearby. Virginia’s parents immigrated to the United States from South Korea when her father joined the US Army in the 1970s. Her parents sacrificed and worked very hard to provide their children with a nice home and good education. Virginia’s mother was a teacher before moving to the States, then a church secretary, and now she is retired. Virginia’s father is a television/film editor and now works for a television station in DC. Virginia and her siblings grew up with education as a top priority. Their parents also encouraged music lessons and sports. Virginia has an older sister who she looks up to and a younger brother who can always make her laugh. Virginia is also an aunt to her sister and brother-in-law’s children: Isabel and Elijah.

Our friends are diverse and come from many walks of life. They are spread out across the country as writers, business people, engineers, therapists, and teachers. Virginia’s best friend is a public school children’s therapist for a school district. Most recently she welcomed Virginia to stay with her for three weeks while Abraham quarantined from his hospital IT job. We are lucky to have such loyal and generous people in our lives.

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Family Traditions

Our families live in Colorado and Virginia. Every summer Abraham’s parents take all of their children and families on a week-long summer vacation. The whole family contributes to picking the next vacation destination and look forward to it every year. Some previous destinations have been: the beach in North Carolina, the Redwood Forest, Oregon, Costa Rica, and Maine.

Every Thanksgiving we host a “Friendsgiving” and invite our friends over for dinner. While we were unable to gather this year, Virginia still prepared a huge turkey for just the two of us. Virginia also cooks Thanksgiving dishes for a home for previously homeless pregnant women and their children. She used to go once a week after work to teach cooking and share a meal. She can’t wait to start volunteering again when it is safe to do so

We alternate between visiting our families in Colorado and Virginia for Christmas. Christmas is a huge holiday for both of our families. We have a group of close friends who celebrate the December birthdays (including Virginia’s) with an annual dinner party.

For our anniversary every year, we take out the wedding vows we wrote and recite them again to each other. Every Friday we make pizza at home, Virginia is working on perfecting her pizza dough. One of our favorite pizza topping combinations is Spam and kimchi, don’t knock it until you try it! Abe makes Virginia a cup of coffee every morning and she loves this small, daily act of kindness.

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Why We Are Choosing to Adopt

We’ve been trying to have a biological child for a couple of years now, but due to medical reasons, it is very unlikely we will be able to conceive without medical intervention. We had given up trying to naturally conceive in late 2019, and in early 2020 we had discovered Virginia was pregnant at her first visit to an IVF clinic. What a plot twist! Sadly, shortly after, she had a miscarriage and we decided to move forward with IVF. In another turn of events, the week Virginia was going to order her IVF hormones, the pandemic hit, and all IVF cycles in America were paused. We saw this as a blessing in disguise. It was an opportunity for us to take another pause, process the grief of our infertility, and re-evaluate how we wanted to expand our family. After much thought and deliberation, we felt called to adopting a child and providing them an amazing and loving home.

We did not reach this decision lightly. We had to come to terms with our infertility, consider the health risks of biologically conceiving a child after 35, and process our failed pregnancies. We had the help of a marriage counselor to work through our fears and grief. We continue to see her to this day and are forever grateful for the help we had in reaching such a life-changing decision.

We also have friends within our community that have adopted and shared their stories of their process. One of our friends even used ANLC and had such positive feedback. After hearing their experiences, we felt even more at ease with our decision. We are fortunate to have so many options for growing our family. We are confident in adoption being our choice.

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Our Promise to You

We promise to give your child the best home we can provide. We will love them with all of our hearts and guide them down life’s path to the best of our abilities. They will never want for anything and will always know they are loved unconditionally. Our families will welcome them with loving arms and lavish them with love and attention. We will encourage them to explore their desired creative outlets. Education will be a priority as we want them to be able to reach their full potential in their adult life. They will feel supported and safe in all of their successes and failures. We will teach them to stay true to themselves and that the right thing to do isn’t always the easiest thing to do but it’s always worth it. Their life will be full of good food, a loving family, and plenty of laughter because Virginia is fully counting on Abraham to tell the best dad jokes. They will always have a home. We will teach them to be open and respectful of other people’s views but to have the courage to stand by their own convictions, even in the face of adversity. We promise to honor you and your adoption plan. We will love your child with all our hearts.

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