Married Since: 2020

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: No

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

Our family’s foundation is built on honest communication, an open mind and compassion. This is the kind of relationship we will build with you and your baby as they grow. You will always be their mother and we wouldn’t have it any other way.

Andrew and Justin

from New Jersey

Andrew

Ancestry: South Korean

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Scientist

Education: BS

Hobbies: Cooking, Singing, Gardening, Skiing, Hiking, Painting

Justin

Ancestry: Irish, English, Italian, Ukrainian

Religion: Nondenominational

Occupation: Educator

Education: BA

Hobbies: Gardening, Reading, Skiing, Hiking, DIY, Softball, Football

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Christian

Favorites

Andrew

Book
Educated
Childhood Memory
Summer camp
Color
Pink
Family Activity
Gardening
Food
Sushi
Holiday
Christmas
Movies
Matilda
Subject in School
History
TV Show
Grey's Anatomy
Vacation Spot
Beach

Justin

Book
Harry Potter
Childhood Memory
Family summer trips
Color
Grey
Family Activity
Board games
Food
Shrimp scampi
Holiday
Thanksgiving
Movies
The Goonies
Subject in School
History
TV Show
Stranger Things
Vacation Spot
Mountains
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From Us to You

Dear Expectant Mother,

We want to first state how much we admire your courage for all you are doing for your baby and thank you for taking the time to read our letter. As an adoptee from South Korea, I (Andrew) always wanted to write to my birth mother to thank her for her love and courage through her pregnancy with me. As I will never have the opportunity, I want to write to you as a symbolic way to extend the love and gratitude I wish to send to her. She gave me life and the opportunity to be loved in more ways than I could have imagined. As you continue your journey, we want you to know you have our full support and are here for you as well as your baby.

Although we can never know what you are experiencing, we hope that by sharing a bit of our lives and stories with you, you can find comfort in having an option for your child to be raised with love, support and confidence as they grow. At our core is the belief that every individual should grow up with an unwavering encouragement to find their own identity. While we may not all have the same culture, we value and will seek resources to teach us what we don’t know. We will nurture your baby through our own family traditions as well as teaching them their own personal background allowing us to fully immerse ourselves and your baby in their own unique identity.

Your child’s future will be filled with love and support. Thanks to his adoptive family, Andrew’s own life was filled with the joy and love he always hoped his own birth mother wanted for him. Your baby will be encouraged to follow their passions and feel a sense of safety in knowing that their birth and adoptive families wish the best for them. The ability to share our collective stories with your baby will provide them the colors to confidently paint their own beautiful picture of what family really means.

I, Andrew, was born in Korea and raised in Pennsylvania with a large family. My favorite sport was gymnastics and I competed all the way through college while getting my degree in Biology. The most influential person in my life, my adoptive mother, passed away my senior year after Thanksgiving and it was one of the most difficult struggles and pain I have ever gone through. To this day, I continue to miss her but I know happiness and love because of her. I’m now a scientist working on cardiovascular treatments as it connects to her own illness. This is how I honor her memory as well as my birth mother’s gift of life. I strive to always be the best I can while acknowledging it is okay to miss them. My life continues and I continue to find new love in my life in spite of the sorrows of my past.

I, Justin, grew up in a family with two siblings and a large extended family. While my mother and father provided us with everything we could ever ask for, we were raised on the virtues of empathy and humility. I am honored to have learned so much from both of my parents. A bit of my father’s dedication and perseverance coupled with my mother’s curiosity and passion for life has shaped me into the man I am today.

Our family and life experiences have brought each of us together and how we have to come to you now. The family we create for your baby will be what we all make it. We want to build a connection with you throughout your adoption plan and your child’s life, but we also understand you may have boundaries when it comes to what we share with your child. We will fully respect and support your level of openness. Our family’s foundation has been built on honest communication, an open mind and compassion. This is the kind of relationship we will build with you and your baby as they grow. You will always be their mother and we wouldn’t have it any other way. Please know not only will your baby have our love and support but you will too.

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Why We Are Choosing to Adopt

There is no greater love than the love of a birth mother. She provides life for her baby and unconditional love to provide them with hope for a future filled with more love and opportunities than she could offer alone. It’s because of this love, Andrew was able to grow up with the love of his adoptive family to become who he is today. With Andrew’s life experience as an adoptee and Justin’s love for the students he’s taught throughout his career, as soon as we met, we knew we wanted to adopt. The ability to raise a young child and guide them along their life’s path is a beautiful thing. Adoption is an experience that requires the best of both the birth family and the adoptive family. It’s a bond we want to share with another to give all of our love and care to a precious child. It’s this reason we chose to become adoptive parents.

We decided adoption was our route because we have had experiences that led us to know adoption was not only the most admirable but also can be the most rewarding. Sharing love for a child with a birth family is strong and beautiful, although not common, in our society. Adoption gave Andrew life, purpose, love and family. How could we not take the chance to give a child a similar life full of opportunity, love and care? When the time came, we knew this path would be our way to grow our family.

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About Andrew, by Justin

Andrew permeates joy, loyalty and balance. Wise beyond his years, Andrew’s sense of humor and empathy allow him to connect with anyone. He tackles anything he puts his mind to (cooking, singing, ice skating, gymnastics, binge-watching tv shows, knitting, painting, etc) quite often to the utter amazement of Justin. He truly is the Zen Buddha of this family.

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About Justin, by Andrew

Justin is truly the heart and soul of our family. He strives to bring joy and laughs everywhere he goes. His passion for adventure and charitable nature continue to inspire his students and everyone around him. When you meet Justin, you will notice his friendly nature, compassion and humor. He’s got a real eye for interior design and is always up for a DIY any time of the year. Not only a man with big ideas, he notices the minute details that bring others joy because he listens and truly enjoys putting a smile on another’s face. Justin is not shy to sadness and heartbreak but in spite of traumas, he continues to be kind, gentle and genuine.

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How We Met

We were both living in Philadelphia when we first connected. Andrew just graduated from college and Justin just moved back from Kentucky. We chatted through a dating app for months before finally deciding to meet when our schedules finally aligned. On our first date, Justin opened the door for Andrew and Andrew knew Justin was different. It was the day we went to the Chestnut Hill Fall Festival just outside of the city. We held hands walking through the street full of art vendors and that was when we knew this was a start to something more.

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Our Lifestyle

The life we live is an adventurous one. While we love to travel and have passions for new experiences, 2020 forced us to become more creative than ever while being home. In the past year, we have grown a wide array of vegetables from our DIY pallet garden, raised chickens for fresh eggs, created patio furniture out of reclaimed wood and cinder blocks. These activities are just a few of the things we love to do together as a family. We are looking forward to the future when softball and football for Justin and ice skating and gymnastics for Andrew will bring an ability to share our love for action with others. Life together is always an adventure and we consistently find ways to improve our lives while having fun. We do have our lazy days as well that include board games, cuddling with our puppy, Ollie, and ordering takeout. We believe those days are just as important as the active ones because we also get to talk about our life experiences, thoughts and beliefs that make us stronger as a couple.

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How We Spend Our Weekends

The weekend would begin with Justin waking up a half-hour too early and Andrew rolling over to try and squeeze another hour before eventually getting out of bed. Our dog, Ollie, is a 30-pound dachshund mix and enjoys curling up between the both of us at the start of every day. Coffee is a must for Andrew while Justin enjoys stretching and beginning a house chore or task to wake himself up. Eventually, we find a middle ground and depending on the weather, plan a day trip to be outside and explore. We sometimes invite a friend or family member to spend one of the days playing board/card games and cook a late lunch together listening to the great 80’s and 90’s classics. At the end of the weekend, we always find time to either read or watch a movie and talk about what we loved during the weekend and how to prepare for another fun weekend.

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Home & Neighborhood

Situated on a tree-lined street in Central New Jersey, our home is a four-bedroom, two-bathroom house built in the 1950s. Our ability to make our new house feel like home was made easier by a combination of Justin’s knack for interior design and Andrew’s “stick to it” attitude. During the months where the weather permits us to be outside, most of our free time is spent in our backyard tending to our vegetable garden, working on a DIY project, taking our dog Ollie for a walk or to the doggie park, or enjoying a date night at one of the many local restaurants. Our neighborhood is ethnically and racially diverse and alive with the sound of children, as the local elementary school and town library are only two blocks away from our home.

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Our Families & Friends

The common thread throughout our families and friends is the core belief that it is within the diversity of life stories where we find the greatest opportunity for growth. Having worked in education for over twenty years, Justin has been blessed to learn alongside students and colleagues from a large pool of backgrounds. Andrew’s family is mixed with Asian, Black, Caucasian, and Middle Eastern heritages. Our core group of friends are LGBTQ, Jewish, Asian, Black, Latinx, mixed and more. We believe that a diverse community is essential to thrive in life.

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Our Relationship with You

We will respect your choice for the relationship you wish to have with us and your child. You are and will always be a parent, a mother, to your child. You will always be known as the woman who gave our child the most precious gift; life itself. Andrew never had an opportunity to know his birth parents nor did his siblings. If it’s your wish, we would like your child to know there are opportunities for you to stay in the loop as they grow up. Again, this is up to you but we would also like to know you more as well to establish trust on both ends. Through trust in one another, we can become the family you need us to be for your child if you do choose us as your baby’s parents.

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Cultural Diversity

Living as a biracial couple, we celebrate all cultures in our lives. We work with an array of backgrounds and identities; each one unique and incredible. Our values are rooted in education to understand other narratives especially narratives of color and queer experiences. It’s crucial to learn cultures that differ from what we were raised in and it creates an amazing opportunity to become better neighbors.

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Careers

As similar as our passions are, we value individuality and expression. We both strive to be positive role models and impact our communities in an equitable way. Passion is what drives Justin to teach his students how racial and educational equity are key to building their communities. Andrew’s passion lies in creating vaccines, cardiovascular and cancer treatments to protect and heal while advocating and volunteering in professional organizations for continuous gender and racial equity in the workplace.

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Traditions

The history of our individual families is the thread of a beautiful tapestry we are building that will hopefully continue to grow for generations. It has been a real joy sharing our traditions from the ones each of us grew up enjoying with our own families. Known as the family historian, Justin fondly remembers sharing holidays with his large extended family in New York and taking family trips each summer across the country. Andrew recalls picnics with extended family and trips to Jersey Shore, where Justin grew up. These memories and traditions keep us grounded while we ourselves evolve over time.

Our tapestry has threads of shepherd’s pie and Celtic music for St. Patrick’s Day. Threads of Andrew’s heritage can be seen whenever we listen to Korean music or make Korean BBQ. The Feast of the Seven Fishes on Christmas Eve is a thread of our Italian heritage. Yes, we love food! While we have made family traditions, we continue to build our own such as a countdown of our favorite childhood Christmas movies at the start of December. There is no doubt the addition of a child and their birth family can only make the colors of that tapestry brighter.

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What We Will Teach

Our background in childcare, health and teaching combined are the fundamentals to teaching your child to care for their health, their wellbeing, and others. We will encourage your child to be curious, passionate and genuine. The Golden Rule is a great place to start, but we will also nurture your child to make positive differences in an inequitable world. They will learn their history along with the history of other cultures to appreciate differences. They will know love from us, you and their family. When they feel upset, we will teach them that in order to fully appreciate the positives in their lives, they will also learn to experience the negatives. Life can be unfair, but they will learn it does not mean they should not strive to help create a fair world. Strength and dignity are important as well. Strength to be vulnerable yet courageous and have the dignity to stand their ground in their own morals.

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What We Will Share

You will always be the most important mother figure in your child’s life. We will tell your child of your love, courage and sacrifice while sharing how important it is to love in return. While we can’t ever know what it means to be in your shoes, we will do our best to provide an honest and compassionate narrative. We would incorporate our own history with adoption to also share the commonality and give your child reassurance that they are undeniably loved and will always be loved. While protecting you and your wishes, we would only share information that you would be comfortable sharing with your child. It’s equally important to respect your needs while telling your story to your child. Our conversations with you leading up to birth would be cherished. Hopefully, we can form a family bond together so we can raise your child in an amazing dynamic where they are loved by a unique and beautiful family.

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Our Promise to You

Our promise to you will be, if you wish, to incorporate traditions you value in your baby’s life and to always educate and support their birth identity so they will grow to develop a strong sense of self. They will know your love and always be loved by us and our family. We would love to keep you involved as much as you wish in their life as Andrew would have liked the same with his birth mother. We promise to continue to educate ourselves in your baby’s background and culture. They will never question who their parents are because we all will be their parents. Your baby will have every opportunity, support and guidance for a happy and healthy future. We will only surround them with a community who will cherish them and all of who they are and will become.

Message Andrew and Justin

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

Contact Andrew and Justin

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!