Married Since: 2015

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Yes

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We will always honor you as your child’s first mother. No matter where you are in life or in the world let us take the journey to you, because you will always be our chosen family.

Graham and Haley

from Oregon

Graham

Ancestry: Irish, German

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Financial Analyst

Education: BS

Hobbies: Ultra marathon running, Cross-country skiing

Haley

Ancestry: English

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Marketing and Public Relations

Education: BA

Hobbies: Tennis, Golf, Traveling

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Catholic

Favorites

Graham

Animal
Dog
Color
Green
Food
Pizza, burritos, and chicken wings
Hobby
Running
Leisure Activity
Reading
Movie
It's a Wonderful Life or Breakfast at Tiffany's
Sport
Ultra marathon running
Subject in School
Math and Literature
Music
Kid Kudi, Jay-Z, Dropkick Murpheys, Mumford and Sons, Eminem, Macklemore
Vacation Spot
Santa Fe, New Mexico

Haley

Animal
Koala
Color
Lavender
Food
French, Middle Eastern, and Greek
Hobby
Traveling
Leisure Activity
Long walks
Movie
Citizen Kane, The Notebook, and Toy Story
Sport
Tennis
Subject in School
Writing
Music
Elton John, Queen, The Beatles, Beyonce, Brittany Spears, Megan Thee Stallion
Vacation Spot
Paris and Maui, Hawaii
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From Us to You

We have dreamt about starting this journey for years. Not just starting a family, but starting the adoption process. Adoption has always been on our hearts and this is by choice how we choose to create a family.

We are committed to having an open and honest relationship with you whether that’s letters and photos a few times a year, video chats on your child’s birthday or occasional in person get-togethers. This adoption would not be successful in our eyes if you do not feel supported, heard and even fought for.

Graham is from a little town in Wisconsin and Haley is from a little town in Oregon. We both always dreamt of moving to a big city and doing big things. After college, we moved to New York City where we shared some of the most fun times of our lives. Two years later Graham got his dream job, so we moved to Boston. To our amazement, we have already realized so many of our dreams and we will provide every possible opportunity for your child to do the same.

No matter where you are in life or in the world let us take the journey to you, because you will always be our chosen family.

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Why We Are Choosing to Adopt

When Haley was a baby she was born with a few heart conditions. She recovered well after two surgeries. Years ago, doctors said carrying a pregnancy would be possible, but not easy for her heart conditions. The seed of adoption was then planted from a young age, so when she imagined having a family she never really imagined another way besides adoption. Years later, the summer before she started college, Haley got a job as a nanny to a special little girl. She was only 9 days old when Haley first started caring for her and they were together for four years. Haley grew very attached to her and would do anything to protect her. That is when she realized that biology had nothing to do with how much she could love a child. While the risk of having complications during pregnancy has lowered over the years, her heart for adoption has never been stronger.

In high school, Haley attended conferences about unplanned pregnancies and learned from women who had found peace through their adoptions. We believe that an authentic way to show up for these women who have selflessly chosen life for their children is to be there for those children. We also want to make sure we are there for their first-mother, by making sure we choose the most ethical agency, based on the recommendations of birth mothers, choose an open adoption, and make sure that therapy and counseling is always an option for their first mother.

Adoption is something we first discussed as a married couple almost four years ago. Initially, the idea was a little foreign to Graham. He just did not have a lot of exposure to it growing up. But as we talked about it, Graham quickly moved to thinking it was a great idea. Adoption is an amazing gift. It’s really inspiring to be a part of something that involves an individual acting so selflessly to find the best long-term home for their child. Through our future adoption process, we really hope to maintain an open relationship between you and your child so that we can all continue to participate in his or her future. We’re at a point where we’re ready to welcome a new child into our family and we can’t wait to see all the unique and amazing experiences they’ll bring and add throughout their lives. So while beginning the adoption process is now prodding us to talk about it far more, this is something we’ve discussed and agreed on for quite a while so we couldn’t be more excited to see where this journey will take us!

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About Haley

Haley is the wonderful, energetic, fun, and caring person I always wish to be. We met in high school and started dating at 16. Throughout our 11 years together, she’s always been open and welcoming to others in a truly fun and caring way. For example, when we moved to New York together after college, I already had a job and was friends with coworkers, but prior to moving Haley secured a job and within 2 months she had twice as many friends as I did. Her warm personality and openness to others quickly attract people, and that is just how she always is.

Haley loves to travel, especially to Europe, but also has a talent for finding great deals on offseason flights to other countries she is interested in exploring. Haley is organized and never misses an opportunity to meet up with loved ones, so on a recent trip, she lined things up with friends and was able to visit Spain, Costa Rica, France (3 times), England, and Portugal. Both of us hope to continue to travel and explore with our future family.

She is also really into tennis, has been a great player for the entirety of our relationship (I got to visit the state tennis tournament twice in high school because of her), and continues to play.

Finally, much to my delight, Haley has continued to expand her interest in cooking over the last 3 years and can now crank out everything from tasty snacks, to killer brunches, and fancy dinners.

 

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About Graham

Graham has more conviction than anyone. From deciding where to go to college, to where he should intern, to where he should work, Graham has never had a plan B, he gets plan A done! The benefit of this type of thinking is that when Graham decides something is important, he puts his mind, body, and soul into it. That not only makes him very successful at work but in his home life too. His friends and family can count on him to show up and give them his undivided attention. Graham believes that money is a vessel to help other people. His belief propels his drive to work hard at his day job and then we team up to give back to our community in ways that reflect our family values.

Graham’s demeanor is calm, he is slow to judgment and anger, he is an excellent communicator, his faith in God and the good in people is unshakable. These are the attributes that will make Graham a great father.

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Where We Began

High school– Can you believe it?! We met in 1st period class, AP European History. Although Haley thought Graham was adorable, she also thought he was an upperclassman and way out of her league since she was a sophomore at the time. Months later we got to know each other better and Haley discovered Graham was also a sophomore. He asked her out on Valentine’s Day (his birthday!) by sending an anonymous val-a-gram.

Sometimes in our relationship we certainly giggle at the fact that we are those crazy kids who started dating in high school, but we love that about us. We know each other better than most ever will and we have already loved many versions of each other. Our experiences from early on in our relationship will help us continue to grow with one another through every stage of life, especially the most exciting one– becoming parents!

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Our Lifestyle

Everyone’s life looks a little different since the Corona virus, and ours is no exception. When the virus struck, Haley had just gone on a trip to Portugal with her family and the world was different when they returned. We decided the best thing to do was pack-up and go to Oregon where we could be close to family. Best decision ever! We golfed, we cooked, we hiked. After 7 months in Oregon, we decided we needed to reset and planned a trip back to Boston to check in. We took an extended road trip across the country with our little Cavalier Spaniel seeking sights, sun, the best foodie towns, and of course running trails for Graham. We stopped in Boise, Salt Lake, Santa Fe, Austin, Savannah, Charleston, Destin, DC, NYC and then back to Boston!

To wrap up every week, we have “Friday Night Date Night” that we haven’t missed in the 10+ years of us being together. We like to start our weekends with a pancake or waffle breakfast, then move on to a bike ride or a long walk in the city. Sundays we go to Church first thing, then we head to brunch and spend the remainder of the day relaxing.

While Covid brought some unexpected, yet incredible, changes to our lifestyle, you can count on us to always do what is best for your child’s emotional and educational growth and stability.

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Our Passions

Faith
We are Catholic and are very involved at our local parish. Haley volunteers with marketing and fundraising, and Graham participates on the finance board.

Family
Haley’s family lives in Oregon and they are fun, loud and enthusiastic. Graham’s family is in Wisconsin and they are full of kindness and sincerity; they are the epitome of Midwestern values. We joke that they are the Cleaver family.

Although we live far from family, we are not afraid of frequent visits – around every six-weeks. Everyone pitches in to make the distance work. Sometimes we meet in cool places like Portugal, Paris or Hawaii. While some people drive to their family, we fly and we make it work.

Education
We were both privileged to receive a Catholic School education and we valued our time in the close-knit environment. We plan to provide a private Catholic school education for your child as well, if it’s the right fit for them to thrive.

Travel
Travel has been a big part of Haley’s life and we hope to share that with your child. We both prefer to go do things vs. stay at home. Our favorite trips were Rio and Patagonia, but we frequent France and Maui. If you look around and don’t see yourself in your neighbors, there are other people and lifestyles out there! But once you travel and experience more of the world, you might come back to find your neighbors were more like you than you think. That’s the beauty of travel.

Food
We are foodies and love exploring new restaurants! Haley currently works in restaurant public relations and she can honestly say it’s not a bad gig! We both love Greek and French food. Haley has spent the last year learning to bring worldly flavors to her home cooking. She frequently tries recipes from the Magnolia Table and Cook Beautiful cookbooks.

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Home & Neighborhood

We decided that our priority has always been and always will be family. While Graham is working remotely we want to be in Oregon and take advantage of family time. Eventually, we will move back to Boston where our home is. In Oregon, we live in a townhouse in a great neighborhood by shops and restaurants to simulate some city living while still being able to take advantage of the natural beauty like mountains, beaches, lakes and rivers that are all around Oregon. We hope to grow our family through adoption here where they can be surrounded by the most family and love possible!

In Massachusetts, our home is a condo in what is called a “triple decker,” which is a particular type of home that we have only seen in Massachusetts. The very open floor plan, tight-knit community and distance to parks, shops and restaurants drew us to the area. It has two bedrooms, two bathrooms, and a big kitchen, dining and living area, with porches in the front and the back. Our philosophy has always been quality of quantity and we value experiences over things. If you came into our home you would notice a lot of Graham’s books and a few framed photos of us on display. Our home will smell like a seasonal candle and it will be filled with tons of natural light from all the windows.

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Cultural Diversity

We chose our home in Massachusetts specifically because it was in an area more diverse than any other area around. We know that your child might not look like us, so it was important to us to be in a diverse neighborhood. Our neighbor below us is African American, our friends from the block range from African, to Israeli to Asian, the Church we go to is mostly Latino and you can get basically any ethnicity of food just a quick walk down the road.

We are strong believers in supporting our communities. Graham’s father was involved in development for a few nonprofits, so Graham has seen firsthand the good private giving has been able to accomplish. Currently, we are working to help people in our parish church recover from the financial crisis by Covid-19 quarantines. We’ve also donated to Habitat for Humanity, and Place of Hope, a nonprofit that provides programs and services to end the cycles of abuse, neglect, homelessness, and human trafficking. We will teach your child to care for themselves and also the people around them.

Recently, we were having dinner with another couple who we have been friends with since high school. We were daydreaming about having kids one day and Haley said something that we think will always hold true. “The thing I hope our kids learn as early as possible is that the world is a big place and there are many ways to live in it.” We love traveling because we are reminded that everyone is the same, but we experience life differently. At the end of the day, everyone is looking for love, family, and connection. In Barcelona, we saw them express this through traditional Sardana Dance. In Buenos Aires it was Tango and Zanga. In France, it was continuing the family tradition of wine making. We felt the welcome of China through a traditional tea ceremony. This is all to say that different expressions of values are beautiful and you should hold true to who you are because you are valued. Your child will be raised to see the beauty and value in themselves and their cultural background.

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Our Families & Friends

Haley: My mom, Rebekah, is the most important person to me besides my husband, of course. My mom is now one of my closest friends, best travel companions and still schools me on the dance floor. She’s taught me basically everything, now I am teaching her about foodie things and I love that about our relationship. She’s obsessed with buying everyone matching PJs and hats. She will have an entire hat collection for her grandkids. I can guarantee it! My sister Taylor-Mae is the model of the family. Taylor (we call her Mae), makes me laugh harder than anyone else. She is the life of the party, brings out the silliness in me and A+ aunt material. I like to think my two aunts gave me my personality. My aunt Valerie is very creative, loves to write and cook, and gives  100% with everything she does. My other aunt Cynthia is a Francophile and has an impeccable taste for fashion and food. They are both very intense thinkers and I admire that about them so much. My dad Glenn taught me how not to be a girly-girl. Thanks to him I know how to hunt, fish and play golf.

Graham: My mom, Anne, is the ultimate caregiver and is probably the most excited to be a grandparent. She’s the kind of person that remembers every detail about what you like and don’t like. She sends cards and gifts for every occasion and all the small things are special to her. She is also quite an amazing photographer and quilter, and you can expect that one of her quilts will lay in her grandchild’s crib. Tom, my dad, is always the champion of trivia. He has run a marathon in all 50 states and rode his bike around  Lake Superior. My dad’s work for Habitat for Humanity was a great example of how to be caring and giving to those around me. My grandparents, Jim and Kathy, are another reason I’m inspired to be generous. They are the cookie making, farm plowing, tall tales telling grandparents everyone wants. They are securely the head of the family and they host every Christmas Eve and Easter at their house, Fourth of July and Thanksgiving at the cabin on the lake, and even a few events in between. I have two siblings, Andrew and Hope. They take after our mom with how caring and thoughtful they are.

Some of our close friends also happen to be Graham’s cousins. Eric and his wife, Ashley, are incredible parents to their two children, Megan and Jack. They also have a dog that looks just like Pre. They are excited to become your baby’s god-parents. Graham’s other cousin, Adam, and his wife, Lindsey, are also important in our lives. We hope they have kids soon, so our children can have lots of cousins around their age! Nick was the best man at our wedding. He and his wife, Kaitlyn, are two of the kindest people you will find on planet earth! They are practically family to us.

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Traditions

Alternating between Thanksgiving and Christmas-week, we go to Maui once a year with Haley’s family. Her family has gone every year since she was about 12 years old. We get to play tennis, take long walks to the farmers market, swim in the ocean and go to bed early. In addition, the girls in Haley’s family take a trip every year around her birthday (March 1st) to somewhere in Europe. Paris is her favorite place to go for her birthday… or really anytime.

4th of July on the lake is a really special tradition in Graham’s family. His aunt and uncle have a cabin on the lake where everyone gathers for a few days over 4th of July weekend. We spend the day boating and relaxing. In the evening everyone gathers for a family cruise where we go on the pontoon boat and watch the sun start to set. At the end of the evening, Graham’s uncle (also a chef and previous restaurant owner) grills dinner to perfection.

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Our Promise to You

We are committed to having Haley be a stay-at-home parent to be present with your child at any time of day. We promise to lead them to walk with God. We will raise your child to know their worth, and to know they are loved by you and us. We will give your child every tool they need to be successful.

We will always honor you as their first mother giving you credit for their intelligence, personality and beautiful features. We will reinforce that their story started from a place of strength and powerful love from their first mother. By honoring them and you, we will seek answers to their most difficult questions and love the person they become, no matter what.

Message Graham and Haley

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Contact Graham and Haley

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!