Married Since: 2011

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: No

Other Adopted Children at Home: Yes

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We cannot begin to imagine the circumstances that have led you to this place and we want to recognize and value you.  Please know that we are praying for you, your child and your experience.

Michael and Nicole

from Arizona

Michael

Ancestry: French, German, British, Irish, Scandinavian, Jewish

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Teacher

Education: B.A. Music, M.M. Conducting

Hobbies: Spending time with family, Music, Basketball, Swimming, Cultures & World views

Nicole

Ancestry: Italian, German, English, Polish

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Nurse

Education: B.S., M.Ed., ADN

Hobbies: Playing with our son, Cooking, Education, Reading, Dance

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Christian

Favorites

Michael

Animal
Elephant
Color
Blue
Holiday
Christmas and Easter
Subject in School
Band
Vacation Spot
Beach
Early Bird or Night Owl
Early Bird
Family Activity
Nightly family dinner
Personal Hero
My father
Food
Home cooked meals
Sport
Basketball

Nicole

Animal
Elephant
Color
Purple
Holiday
Christmas
Subject in School
Science
Vacation Spot
Anywhere next to water
Early Bird or Night Owl
Night Owl
Family Activity
Hanging out in the park
Personal Hero
My maternal grandmother
Food
Big family dinners
Sport
Basketball
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From Us to You

Hello from Arizona! We are James, Nicole and Michael.

Warmest greetings.  It is hard for us to wrap our minds around the fact that you may be willing to give the one blessing that we desire most in this world.  Though we have yet to meet, we are humbled by your strength and courage in considering adoption.  We are incredibly grateful for your consideration.

In the development of our family we believe in lasting, positive connections.  The adoption of our son James has amplified our ability to create and maintain loving relationships.  Through these bonds we seek to serve the best interest of our children as they mature into beautiful people who will positively contribute to their family and their community.  Simply put, adoption is the way we feel best to build a family.

We have an incredible support system in our family and friends around the globe.  These extraordinary people represent a wide diversity of cultures and interests.  They are ever present in our lives, offering their love and support at every turn.  Growing up in large, supportive families we learned that sharing life experiences makes the journey whole and complete.  Our siblings are integral parts of our world and we want James and his sibling(s) to have these same shared experiences.  We are deeply caring, nurturing, and sincere folk who want to share our world and our love.

Our story as a family continues to be written each day.  In our future we see holidays, birthday parties, weekend BBQ’s, sporting events, music recitals, and more filled with laughing and joyous children who grow wiser and stronger with each passing year.  We are so incredibly excited about welcoming another child into our lives and we look forward to the continued journey ahead.

Thank you for taking the time to learn about us.  We hope this profile will give you some insight into our lives and the quality of life that we can offer a child.  When the time is right, we want to learn about you and your story.  We cannot begin to imagine the circumstances that have led you to this place and we want to recognize and value you.  Please know that we are praying for you, your child and your experience.  Thank you.

Sincerely,
Michael, Nicole and James

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Why We're Choosing to Adopt

We are choosing to adopt to grow our family, and we were blessed with the placement of our son James in 2018. Our family is not complete yet and we long for another child and a sibling for James. Adding an additional member(s) would deepen and enrichen our family in so many ways. Nicole has had a hysterectomy due to struggles with endometriosis and adenomyosis so having biological children is not in our cards.

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About Michael

Michael is my best friend and our friendship is going on 24 years this August. He is the most honest and forgiving person I know; I never feel judged. He is emotionally intelligent, always thinking about how his actions impact other people. He is smart and a goal-oriented person, achieving many milestones in his career and personal life. For example, he has played trombone professionally in all the places he has lived and has earned a master’s degree while working as a full-time music teacher. He loves his family and maintains communication with his parents and siblings on a weekly basis. I never doubt that he loves me; he protects me, encourages me and supports me. These are qualities that have kept me close to him, from the early years of simple friendship to our enduring marriage.

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About Nicole

Nicole is a beautiful human being, inside and out, with the biggest heart I have ever known anyone to carry and to share. Her extraordinary communication skills, strong passion to nourish, and desire to assist in the betterment of all those in her family and community continues to amaze me. Her nurturing abilities are exemplified in her professions as a nurse and as a teacher with degrees in the fields of health and education. She loves working with people of all ages and she has a gift for teaching school-aged children. In addition to all of these wondrous qualities she is a phenomenal cook, a unique seamstress, and a creative dance instructor. Positivity shines from all of her being. It is such a joy to share a life with her and each morning I wake up thankful that she is my wife and I her husband.

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About Us

We first met in 1997 at a university band camp. Nicole was a majorette on the twirling line and Michael played the trombone. The first date was quaint and simple: a small gathering with friends, playing games, listening to music, and enjoying good conversation. We dated for a bit in college and then went our separate ways, always maintaining our friendship which would become the basis of our continuing relationship for 25 years now. In 2007 we rekindled the romantic side of our relationship after realizing we were the best match for each other. Through our conversations we discovered that we both wanted to travel, contribute to our community, and grow a family. When the opportunity presented itself, we made the decision to teach internationally. These experiences helped us to learn Spanish, appreciate cultures different from our own, and enabled us to make friends with creative and passionate people from around the world. We are creative and intelligent in our own ways and our individual personalities complement each other. Our diverse and caring relationship allows us to help each other capitalize on our strengths and mend our weaknesses. When one of us is busy and moving a mile a minute, the other is there for support and balance. When one of us needs extra love and attention the other provides this additional warmth and care. We help to calm each other and to energize each other. Our common interests include attending cultural events such as concerts, street fairs, museum exhibits, as well as sporting events at the university and community levels. We enjoy hanging out with our extended families, playing backgammon, discussing current events, and sharing time with friends. We enjoy our friends and family and love our quiet time together, push each other to be the best people we can be, and communicate our thoughts, emotions and hold each other accountable to the promises we make in our relationship.

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Our Home

Our home sits in a working-class neighborhood of single-family homes. It is a four bedroom, two bath, ranch style, single family home with a private and secure backyard. Walking around the neighborhood is safe and secure and many of our neighbors love to wave hi, especially to James. On one end of our street is a K-8 public school where Michael teaches Middle School Band and Elementary Music. At the other end of the street is a YMCA located adjacent to a well-kept city park. The house is also located near Nicole’s job at the hospital and James’ preschool; all locations are about a ten-minute drive from each other. One of the greatest assets is that Nicole’s parents, sister’s family and brothers all live close by too. Having these important locations nearby helps to prioritize home time and minimize commuting time. Locally, there are opportunities for participation in many natural, cultural, and sporting events all over town such as, hiking trails, basketball games or concerts at the local college, and attending the town’s cultural fair where all of the area’s ethnicities are invited to represent their culture through food, art and dance. Our city is a wonderful and spiritual place that focuses on family and community. We have called it home since the late 1990’s.

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Our Family

We officially became a family in 2011 when we married. In June 2017 we returned home from international teaching in Argentina and Dubai to live in Arizona full time. The most significant part of our return to the United States was the adoption of our son, James, in June of 2018. Being blessed with our son has transitioned us to Mama and Papa. James has added immeasurable depth to our family and has enabled us to know a depth of love and appreciation we never knew possible. He is an incredible young person with a passion for the outdoors, sports and hugs. He loves trains and books; never ceasing to amaze us with his curiosity and intelligence. Our two dogs, Chula and Beatrice, love and protect James as well. Together they play ball, take naps and the dogs let James lead our walks.

Our extended family lives all over the country and works hard to maintain connections to each other. We are fortunate to have Nicole’s family here in town, living only ten minutes away. This proximity helps James to develop deep ties to his grandparents, aunt, uncles and cousins. A true working-class family, they will find a way to help us whenever we ask, including an aunt who always asks to babysit and a cousin ready to play. He also has extended family who live in California, New York and Maryland. Although not a drive down the street, they are always reachable by facetime and are often down with a family zoom session. Adoption also helped Michael’s family to grow and welcome his sister. Being open and accepting have led them to become a cornucopia of cultures. These experiences are great resources to lean on as we raise our son. Both families have instilled in us a solid foundation of family and faith. These teachings and traditions are the foundations in which we raise our children and guide our actions as parents.

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Adoption in our Lives

Adoption has played key roles in our lives. When Michael was in middle school, his family adopted his older sister Jessica. Bringing Jessica into the family was a blessing at the time and continues to be a blessing as we grow older as a family. To build our family, we were fortunate to be able to pursue the newborn adoption pathway for our first child James. Through the blessing of adoption we became Mama and Papa. To expand our family we are pursuing adoption again with the hope of bringing another blessing to our family and to enable James to become a brother.

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Our Lifestyle

We live a pretty modest lifestyle. We both come from blue-collar families where all parents worked full-time jobs while we were growing up. We have a steady routine during the weekdays. Michael wakes up and exercises at the local YMCA. When he gets home, he gets breakfast ready while Nicole gets ready for the day. James wakes up, we all cuddle in the bed, get James dressed, have breakfast together, and then head out for the day. Mama takes James to school and Papa picks James up. In the afternoon there is some time to relax, play and run around the backyard, walk the dogs, prepare dinner, pray and eat together. Then it’s the start of the bedtime routine: bath, brush teeth, lotion, hair, read books and say goodnight. On the weekends we casually wake up, watch some Saturday morning cartoons, and usually go to a park for some exercise. The afternoon is varied to whatever we need to do or can do: going to the park, zoo, birthday parties, Grandma’s pool, etc. On Sunday we go to Church in the morning and visit Nicole’s parents for an extended family hang. Sunday evening, we prep for the week by finishing laundry, make lunches, and finish any work we need to do. Sunday night dinner is just the (currently) three of us. As part of our budget, we make it a point to save up for vacations so that we can create new and lasting memories as a family. Each day we find time for stories, hugs, singing songs, and a little bit of TV from PBS.

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Family Traditions

As a family, we follow many of the common traditions found in households across the US. We celebrate national holidays such as Memorial Day, Fourth of July, Labor Day, Halloween, and Thanksgiving. Christian holidays like Easter and Christmas are very important to us because they give us a chance to deepen our faith and connect with our family. One of our main motivators in moving back to the United States after years of teaching internationally was to see our family on a regular basis. As a family we try to meet with them on a weekly basis. To give our son the important opportunity to connect with extended family both locally and throughout the United States is a major reason we continue to stay in the United States. Having a beautiful African-American child in our lives has expanded our traditions as we incorporate the African American culture into our seasons. It is critical for us that James knows his ancestry. We recognize and practice Black History month, Juneteenth, and Martin Luther King Day through cultural events in town, TV shows, and books on the topics. Though these yearly markers are very important it is important to note that we make a concerted effort to routinely incorporate the traditions of the African-American culture into our daily lives.

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Vacations

Whether we are home or on vacation, we are together. When home on the weekends we may hang out in the backyard playing on the swing set, hitting the ball off the tee or helping to keep the backyard clean and watered. We may be inside playing trains, finger-painting or cooking. Many times, a week, we will take the dogs on a walk to the park, hang out swimming at Grandma’s house or have play dates with James’ best bud Amari (fellow African-American adoptee by a white couple down the street). Our favorite vacation spot is the beach where Michael’s parents Grandma and Pops can come visit and we can play in the sand or chase the waves. We also enjoy visiting family in Southern California, Maryland, Ohio and New York where we can hang out with grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins.

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Our Relationship with James' Birth Mother

We have an open adoption with James’ birth mother, Jamie. We developed a communication plan from the beginning and have followed it since. We call and talk at all major holidays and birthdays. We have maintained and consistently update our shared albums through Google photos. These albums are for Jamie alone and showcase James in the many facets of his life. We strive to be open and trustworthy with our communication. Like all relationships, with each experience there is learning and growth and we always come back to the original agreement we made in the beginning.

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Our Relationship with You

We are looking for a relationship built on trust, respect and communication. Building a relationship requires the understanding of expectations, communicating needs, and trusting each other to be respectful and honest. The basis on how we will interact should be decided upfront while keeping in mind that we will all grow together in one form or another. We feel that we have been very successful with James’s birthmother using these guidelines as a foundation for mutual respect.

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What We will Teach Your Child

We teach James, and will continue with all children in our house, to: respect all living things, truthfulness is paramount and to come to us whenever they need help. Compassion and empathy are skills to develop to be good people. We will teach them about their own background and history, helping them develop the sense of value and importance. Work ethic. Be true to yourself.

What We will Tell Your Child

We are honest with James. When we speak, we seek to help him understand who Jamie is and why she is important to his life. We hope throughout his life James can develop a relationship on his own terms and one based on mutual respect. One request Jamie has of us is to always help James know he has brothers and to help foster a relationship between them. James has pictures of them and of his Birth Mother.

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When We Hold Your Baby, These are our Thoughts

When we hold your newborn baby, we would feel a deep sense of gratitude to you and God for bringing this moment into our life. We would also think of the enormity of responsibility of loving, respecting and protecting your child so they grow up knowing they are valuable and special.

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Cultural Diversity

Being Anglo-American parents to an African-American child, we must provide James the opportunities to learn, experience, and live the African-American culture and history. We have traveled and benefited from learning from so many cultures around the world. This information serves to prepare us for our future family’s needs. Additionally, we are fortunate to have an involved and supportive mezcla of family to help, meaning a full mix of many cultures in our own family. Michael’s sister Jessica and her family in New York are African-Jamaican American, and offer guidance and support when needed. Michael’s brother Daniel’s family is Chinese-American. Nicole’s brother-in-law is Mexican-American. We are fortunate to be surrounded by various experiences and perspectives. Our family always provides continued knowledge and support in all of our lives.

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Education

Supporting education is paramount in our house. We firmly believe education is a fundamental right and the key to helping people achieve their life goals and maintaining their health. We are trained educators and do educate ourselves on the best way to address the learning and cultural needs for James. James goes to a wonderful, local Montessori School to help foster age-appropriate development, milestones and a sense of self.

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Our Faith

We frame our spirituality through worship at the local Methodist Church. We are thankful for God’s support in our life. As a family we have endured many challenges and, through our trust in God, James is in our life. He is a perfect fit for our family and only God knew who to send our way. We are praying again and hoping to be heard a second time.

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How a Child will Enrich our Lives

James is meant to be a big brother and we are meant to be a bigger family. Having a sibling as an adoptee would help develop bonds and companionship through this life. We come from large families and giving James the shared experience of sibling(s) would mean a dream come true.

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Our Promise to You

Our family promises to love your child with our whole heart. To bring them into a family of love, kindness, and mutual respect. To educate and empower them to find personal strength and value within themselves and their community. There is so much to learn and talk about and we hope to start a flame that will burn bright and long for many, many years to come.

Message Michael and Nicole

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

Contact Michael and Nicole

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!