Nickname: Ryan and Tina

Married Since: 2015

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Part-Time

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

Honesty and openness are important to us and to how we plan to raise your baby. We will share their story with them, and when we speak of you, it will always be with honor, grace, and gratefulness. It is our heartfelt goal to give your child a loving and stable home where we can provide an environment where they can grow, excel, and remember their upbringing with fondness.

Ryan and Christina

from California

Ryan

Ancestry: Dutch, English, Italian

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Engineer

Education: BA, Certified Industrial Refrigeration Operator

Hobbies: Playing guitar, Hiking, Video Games, Watching Anime

Christina

Ancestry: Irish, Czech, Ashkenazi Jew

Religion: Agnostic

Occupation: English Professor

Education: MA

Hobbies: Reading, Hiking, Going to the gym

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: African American / Caucasian, Caucasian / Asian, Caucasian, Caucasian / Hispanic, Caucasian / Indian, Caucasian / Middle Eastern, Caucasian / Native American, Caucasian / Pacific Islander, Pacific Islander

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Spiritual

Favorites

Ryan

Book
"The Lord of the RIngs" by J.R.R. Tolkien
Childhood Memory
Visiting Disneyland
Color
Gray
Food
Tacos
Hobby
Music
Movie
Blade Runner
Subject in School
History
Thing to Cook
Jambalaya
Early Bird or Night Owl
Early bird, but not by choice
Music
Metal, Punk, Classic Rock, and Jazz

Christina

Book
"The Witching Hour" by Anne Rice
Childhood Memory
Christmas morning
Color
Blue
Food
Pizza
Hobby
Bowling
Movie
Sleepy Hollow
Subject in School
English
Thing to Cook
Anything in a crockpot
Early Bird or Night Owl
I'm naturally an early bird
Music
Alternative, Anything 80's, Grunge, 90's and 00's R&B, nearly anything
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From Us to You

Dear Expectant Mother,

Life takes us down the most unexpected paths sometimes. For example, I (Christina) never thought my husband, Ryan, and I would end up building a life for ourselves in the same, suburban area I grew up in and never thought we would be childless and on the path to adopt. Throughout our lifetimes, we’ve learned that while making plans is wise, plans inevitably change, and that’s okay. We understand how your pregnancy may have caused some plans to change in your life, too.

We were married in October 2015, and we always talked about having children. After about a year and a half of marriage, we started trying to conceive, and we’ve been unsuccessful. Over the years, we’ve had three miscarriages, and we’ve been told our fertility issues are “unexplained.” After years of heartbreak, disappointment, and grief over the loss of our babies that we hoped for and loved, but never met, we finally came to the conclusion that our plan needed to change and that is when we started to explore adoption.

While our journey to private adoption has been difficult, we understand that this isn’t an easy journey for you either. Christina’s dad, Frank, passed away almost four years ago, and when she asked him for some last-minute advice during one of his final days, he told her that we just have to roll with it, and it’ll all work out because it always does. We know our journey to parenthood will work out, and we’re confident your journey will work out as well.

When we consider being given the gift of someone calling us mom and dad, we’re positively overwhelmed. Knowing that you, the person reading this, could be giving that gift to us fills us with so much joy. We will provide your baby with a life of joy, stability, privilege, happiness, structure, and love. Your baby will not only have us to raise them, but also Christina’s mother, Carole, who lives with us. She is already a wonderful grandmother to our nephew, Riker, who is only a few months old.

The type of relationship you would like to have with us might be unclear to you at this time, and that’s understandable. What we know is that honesty and openness are important to us and to how we plan to raise your baby. We are open to your child knowing you. We will share their story with them, and when we speak of you, it will always be with honor, grace, and gratefulness.

We hope that by getting to know us, you take us into consideration as prospective parents to your child. Even if you do not choose us, we wish you an easy pregnancy, delivery, and transition into your role as a mother. Thank you for taking the time to consider us, and if you do choose us, thank you for giving us the gift of parenthood.

Warmly,
Christina and Ryan

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Why We are Choosing to Adopt

Children were always a part of our plan. We started dating two and half years before we got married, and Christina vividly remembers us debating over kids’ names while at a Blue Oyster Cult concert when we had only been dating for a few weeks. We were sitting with a couple of strangers, and when they heard how long we had been dating and what we were debating over, they thought we were crazy to be discussing kids’ names so early on in the relationship. But we knew exactly what we wanted and where our relationship was headed. After we were married for about a year and a half, we started trying to conceive. We tried, and we tried, and we tried again. In 2018 and after a year of trying, we had an ectopic pregnancy. After another year of trying, an infertility specialist told us that our issues were “unexplained.” We did all the tests. Everything was fine. We are not infertile. It just was not happening.

With no real answers, we kept trying, and the years continued to pass by. Holidays, traditions, and family gatherings grew more bittersweet since they were still full of love, but we wanted to grow our family and have a child to share our love and traditions with. Although we may still be able to have children naturally, we have chosen to adopt so we can not only have the family we’ve always envisioned, but also provide a wonderful life for someone.

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How We Met

We met in 2010. Ryan was a recent college graduate, and Christina was a student at a local community college (which is actually where she teaches now). Ryan was working as a framer at a frame and art store and Christina’s mom was also working there as the assistant manager. We were mere acquaintances for a while. In 2012, Christina learned that Ryan was an art major in college, so she asked him to make a logo for a candle-making side-business she had developed, and he agreed to do it. When Christina came over to pick up the hard copy on CD (remember those?), it turned out Ryan had made her dinner. After that, we began spending more time together and finally went on our first date in February 2013. We have been together ever since.

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About Christina, by Ryan

Christina is an English professor at two local community colleges. She has a passion for learning and self-improvement, and she is very hardworking, focused, organized, and driven. She often undertakes new challenges for herself and strives to be a better person than she was the day before. In all things, she tries to be fair, and she is easily able to take a critical and introspective look at her own behavior, opinions, and values. She is well respected as a strong and independent woman.

This earnestness, however, does not overshadow her empathetic, loving, and outgoing character. She is quick to make friends, has a magnetic personality, and is always well-received in any social situation. Her sarcasm, sharp wit, and often absurd sense of humor allow for her to blend with a variety of people. This is reflected in her large circle of friends who come from many different walks of life. She has no trouble speaking her mind and enjoys having candid, open discussions with anyone willing to participate.

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About Ryan, by Christina

Ryan works as a building maintenance/refrigeration technician; the industry is small and intertwined. Ryan’s positive reputation, both as a technician and as a man, precede him. He is successful at work because of his integrity and personal responsibility. Critical thinking seems effortless to him, as he always manages to find a solution to any issue that arises, even with things outside his realm of expertise. Ryan thrives in an environment with opportunities for self-improvement and success, and he makes every effort to further his career by attending conferences and earning certifications; doing so shows his dedication to consistently growing his career and enriching our life. His admirable work ethic combined with easily working well with others results in him being respected and well-liked. Every day, he aspires to live by The Golden Rule.

Ryan is extremely intelligent. He majored in graphic design in college, and although it did not become his career, he still exhibits a passion for art and design. Ryan integrates his artistic abilities with his woodworking talents and regularly works on custom projects for our home. Ryan may initially come off as gruff (mostly because he is an introvert who appreciates a sarcastic sense of humor) but you quickly learn that he is gentle and loving. He is truly committed to the life we have built, our families, and our friends. His affection for our three cats is sweet and just shy of obsessed. I know that your child will receive so much of his love, affection, and commitment. In his free time, Ryan likes to read sci-fi novels, cook us an intricate meal, play on his 8-string guitar, or spend time holding my hand and reminding me how much he loves and appreciates me.

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Lifestyle

Our lifestyle is what you would expect for a household that has an introvert (Ryan) and an extrovert (Christina) running it; we like going places and socializing with friends and family, but we try to avoid making social plans every weekend so we can allow for recharging and self-care. It is a peaceful balance for us.

Ryan works 40 hours each week, while Christina’s work schedule is more flexible. When teaching face-to-face courses, she’s typically away from home for only a few hours each day; much of her work involves, grading, emails, and lesson planning, so she does most of her work in her home office.

When we social have plans, we can typically be found hiking, spending time over at a friend’s house, or exploring a local winery or micro-brewery. On the weekends where we stay home, we might leave the house to head to Lowe’s or Home Depot for a house project, but we can often be spotted on our back patio, listening to music, and enjoying each other’s company. Movie nights are common for us as well, and we often will enhance the experience by closing up the curtains and making popcorn.

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What We Will Teach

We have had long and serious conversations over the years regarding what we want to teach our children, and what values we wish to impart to them along the way. Overall, we want our children to be responsible, successful, healthy, well-adjusted, but perhaps most importantly, happy. All these factors help create a good foundation for a happy life, but they still cannot guarantee one. Life poses challenges which must be overcome, and in these times, it may be hard to have a positive outlook and sunny disposition. However, we hope that by instilling values of kindness, empathy, integrity, and love along with self-determination, hard work, and diligence, we can provide an environment in which your child will thrive into adulthood. Education, free thought, artistic expression, and athletic endeavors will always be encouraged in the household, along with practical skills so they grow to be independent and confident adults. Housework, yard work, fiscal management, and building and fixing things are just a few examples of activities we will include them in to start building these skills. Your child will know that we love them, support them, accept them for who they are, and will always want what is best for them.

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Home & Neighborhood

We love our home. It is one that we dreamt of living in since we got married. It’s a two-story, 5 bedroom, 3 bathroom home located on a cul-de-sac in a quiet, suburban neighborhood in Southern California where the summers are hot and the other seasons are mild. In the backyard, we have a grassy area that’s perfect for lawn games, and we have a place reserved for a swing set and sandbox. Our home is walking distance to an elementary school, several parks, hiking trails, and a community center. Our neighborhood is comprised of a diverse community of families with children of all ages. We have become friends with our next-door neighbors, and we are friendly with the rest of our neighbors; everyone in the neighborhood smiles and waves as they pass one another. We love being at home because we love the people in it, the community surrounding it, and the traditions we keep alive in it.

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Racial & Cultural Diversity

While we are both Caucasian, the racial and cultural diversity of our family, friends, and community makes for a diverse and welcoming environment. We grew up in Southern California and have been fortunate enough to be surrounded by a variety of languages, traditions, and authentic cuisine. Our brother-in-law Marco, his parents, and his sister are all originally from Mexico. Christina’s brother’s girlfriend, Kazzandra, was born in the Philippines, and our two nephews are Filipino. Kazzandra and her family speak Tagalog at home and regularly have traditional Filipino meals. Marco and his family often have large gatherings at their family home and speak Spanish regularly. Although we are nowhere near fluent, we have learned some Spanish through immersion and with the app Duolingo.  We will share our appreciation for cultures with our children by welcoming all kinds of language learning, reading children’s books to them in other languages, and encouraging food variety, whether eating at a restaurant or cooking in our home.

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Our Relationship with You

We are open to having a relationship with you and strive to be open and transparent both to you and your child about this adoption. We are comfortable with annual visitation, and with keeping you in the loop via email, letters, pictures, etc. as well. However, we also understand that you may want something different. We will respect your wishes. Ultimately, we want you to be comfortable and for you to know that we appreciate and respect the difficult decision you have made.

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Our Families & Friends

Our family is large, supportive, accepting, and loving. Ryan’s parents, Ron and Gail, have been married for over 36 years, and last year, Ryan’s sister, Rebecca, married her longtime boyfriend, Marco. We consider Marco’s immediate family (his parents, Adrian and Sandy, and older sister, Itzia) as a part of our family as well. Christina’s father passed away a few years ago, and shortly after, her mother, Carole, moved in with us. Christina and her mother have always been close, so her moving in has been a blessing for us all. Christina’s older brother, Brien, typically resides in California, but he is currently away in Kuwait with the Air Force. He and his girlfriend, Kazzandra, just had their first child together, our nephew Riker, earlier this year. Kazzandra also has a six-year-old son, Kobe, and we consider him our nephew as well. Beyond our immediate families, we collectively have several aunts and uncles, and over twenty-five first cousins. Our loving and supportive families span nationwide from New York to California.

Our combined group of friends is made up of diverse people. The majority of our friends live within 30 miles of us. Christina’s best friend is Brittany. They have known each other since childhood and she and her husband, Jonny, are family to us. Our closest friends either have young children (18 months to seven years old) or are planning on starting their families soon. All of the children refer to us as Auntie Tina and Uncle Dutch (Dutch has been Ryan’s nickname since he was a teenager). We regularly gather at each other’s homes for a barbecue, a kid’s birthday party, or just to order pizza and have a casual night in. Over the years, our close friends have become a great support group for us during both wonderful and challenging times.

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Family Traditions

Our family has a variety of traditions ranging from day-to-day traditions to annual traditions. We both have a love for history, so we always celebrate Independence Day, Memorial Day, Labor Day, and Veterans Day; we typically do so by gathering with family and friends for a barbecue. We’ve hosted Thanksgiving every year since we moved into our current home, and each year, the guest list is a little different. We always have our immediate families there, but sometimes we have friends or extended family join us as well. We have a fairly traditional day surrounding the food and visiting with everyone, and we always make Christina’s grandma’s famous stuffing recipe that everyone looks forward to. In addition to celebrating national holidays, Ryan grew up Christian and Christina grew up Catholic, so we have continued to celebrate Christmas and Easter. We usually celebrate Christmas Eve with Ryan’s family; we exchange gifts and have a home-cooked meal made by Ryan’s parents. Christmas Day is often mellow, but it always includes Christmas Morning Casserole for breakfast after opening stockings and gifts. Typically, we spend the day with Christina’s side of the family at our house. We play games, watch movies, and enjoy each other’s company. Easter usually revolves around a French-inspired brunch with quiche and crêpes.

Our day-to-day traditions aren’t unusual, but they’re still special to us. When the mornings allow for it, we all have coffee together. We like to have coffee on our back patio when the weather is nice. Something that was important to our respective families when we were kids (and is still important to us now) is eating home-cooked dinners together. While each meal isn’t extravagant, it’s always healthily balanced. Our family dinners occur most nights, and we feel it’s a great way to reconnect after our workdays.

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Our Vacations and Travel

We love to travel, and we are always trying to figure out where we’d like to go next. We began traveling together after only six months of dating, and some of the places we’ve been to are New York City, Seattle, Las Vegas, Lake Tahoe, Colorado, Texas, Ireland, and The Netherlands. Some of our vacations are more outdoorsy (like our trip to Lake Tahoe with my mom in 2019), while others are more tourist-focused (like our snowy, Seattle vacation). When we vacation, we aren’t the type of people who build a specific itinerary; we much prefer a casual list of must-do items and plan each day as we move through the trip. We love sightseeing, exploring touristy areas, and finding hidden gems that only the locals are aware of. The only reason why we’ve ever come back feeling disappointed in a vacation would be because it wasn’t long enough, and there have been many times where we’ve returned home from vacations discussing how wonderful it will be to show our children the vast, beautiful world we live in.

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Our Promise to You

While we do not know your circumstances yet, we want to assure you that we admire your strength and resilience in this hard decision. It is our heartfelt goal to give your child a loving and stable home where we can provide an environment where they can grow, excel, and remember their upbringing with fondness. We want to give them a childhood filled with warm memories, smiles, and laughter, and raise them to be happy, healthy, and independent adults; however, we realize that we are not perfect, and we will make mistakes along the way. Life is not entirely predictable, and there will be rough patches. It is our earnest desire that together, we will be able to overcome our own shortcomings and weather the storms that life sends our way, and remain focused on our most important goal: the well-being and happiness of your child. That is our promise to you.

Message Ryan and Christina

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

Contact Ryan and Christina

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!