Married Since: 2016

Pets: No

Stay at Home Parent: Yes

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: Yes

We will love your child unconditionally. When they cry, we will answer with whatever they need. We will hold them and love them. When they get older, we will teach them about and show them the world. We will play with them. We will travel and go outside with them. We will do our best to give them opportunities to grow and succeed in their dreams and passions. We will do our best.

Jerel and Julia

from Colorado

Jerel

Ancestry: German, Dutch

Religion: Universal Unitarian

Occupation: Stay-at-home Parent

Education: M.S.

Hobbies: Hiking, Biking, Guitar, Climbing gym

Julia

Ancestry: Polish

Religion: Universal Unitarian

Occupation: Family Physician

Education: D.O.

Hobbies: Reading, Exercise/Yoga, Hiking, Cooking

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Universal Unitarian

Favorites

Jerel

Animal
Markhor
Book
"Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time"
Family Activity
Board games
Food
Indian Buffet
Leisure Activity
Hiking and camping
Personal Hero
Martin Luther King, Jr
Sport
Basketball
Early Bird or Night Owl
Both
Music
Punch Brothers
Vacation Spot
Mountain cabin

Julia

Animal
Mantis shrimp
Book
The Midnight Library
Family Activity
After dinner walks with the whole family
Food
Thai food. Or brunch
Leisure Activity
Cycling
Personal Hero
Ruth Bader Ginsberg and Rosa Parks
Sport
Basketball
Early Bird or Night Owl
Day pigeon
Music
60's and 70's rock
Vacation Spot
Anywhere - it's a vacation!
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From Us to You

We are at a loss for what we should say. Our initial instinct is to want to empathize with you, but that could never happen. We can’t even imagine what you are going through. We want to comfort you, but we don’t know you. What we can do is promise with one hundred percent certainty that we will do our best.

We will love your baby as our baby. We will do everything with your baby that we did with our son. We will love them unconditionally. When they cry, we will answer them with whatever they need. We will hold them and love them. When they get older, we will teach them about and show them the world. We will play with them. We will travel and go outside with them. When they need it, we will lovingly discipline them so that they not only know what right and wrong means, but can act on it. We will do our best to give them opportunities to grow and succeed in their dreams and passions. We will do our best.

We want you to be in our lives. Heritage and knowing where you come from is important, and you will be that link for your baby. We want you to teach them about their heritage. We would love to incorporate some of your traditions into our own so that their heritage stays alive through you. Just like we’re planning on having a lifelong relationship with this baby, we also want to have a lifelong relationship with you! We won’t just adopt your baby, but you’ll be adopted, in a way, into our family as well, so that this little baby can know that they are loved. They will know that wherever they turn, there can be someone they can talk to. You’ll be able to remind them where they came from.

So you know, we’ve just gone through the process of raising an infant. The first year of our son’s life was wonderful yet challenging, and we learned a lot. We were fortunate enough to be able to take two or three months of leave from work to take care of him as a newborn. We were also fortunate enough to be financially and emotionally ready for a child. We are excited to welcome another child into our home, since we have the resources and time to do that again. Also, on a lighter note, that means we have a ton of infant clothes, toys, books, and other items waiting to be pulled out of boxes and used again. Of course, we’ll also find clothes and toys that better suit your baby’s size and unique personality, but it doesn’t hurt to have a few hand-me-downs!

We will raise our kids with an open mind. For instance, we aren’t going to force a certain hobby or career on our children – that would ignore their thoughts, feelings, and passions. Instead, we will foster their creativity, and develop their kindness as well as their mental and physical health, and provide them with a stable, loving home. Of course, we do have some plans and traditions.

We plan on eating dinner together every day. We plan on taking annual vacations. We plan on the children seeing their grandparents and uncle/aunt often, putting a priority on family gatherings over other events. Overall, we want to make sure our kids are happy, healthy, close with family, and brave enough to pursue their dreams.

It took us a long time to get to where we are in our lives and we learned a lot on the way. We signed up for things we shouldn’t have, we made some mistakes. We became smarter because of them! Ultimately, we learned that grace, acceptance of others’ experiences and empathy are the bedrocks of relationships, and ours will be no different. We don’t know you, but we can’t wait to get to know you!

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Why We're Choosing to Adopt

We are so excited about adopting a child! We’ve always been of the mindset that we want to have one biological child and one adopted child. That was solidified when Julia had complications when pregnant with our son, Avery, which would likely occur if she were to get pregnant again. We were so sure about wanting to adopt, Jerel got a vasectomy one month after she gave birth. We feel grateful and fortunate that we have the resources and support to welcome a child into our loving family. All our family and friends have been encouraging and reassuring.

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About Jerel

Jerel is kind, thoughtful, patient and goofy. When he first meets people he is shy, but then once he’s comfortable around you, he shows off his offbeat personality. He lives his whole life with intention. When he goes on walks, he also wants to pick up trash around the neighborhood. When he goes to pick up groceries, he wants to make sure the products he buys are from the most ethical companies. He is adventurous and loves activities like rock climbing. His passions are infectious and he has even gotten me into climbing too! He loves to explore other cultures and see different parts of the world. He loves nature and seeing its beauty through hiking and camping. Seeing Jerel become a parent has only brought out all of these wonderful qualities even more. He is so wonderful and I can honestly say that at some point every day I wonder how I got so lucky to wind up with him.

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About Julia

I would describe Julia as the most loving, caring, hilarious, and beautiful person I’ve met. She cares about all living things, and she inspired me to join her in her vegan diet and pay attention to human rights issues. She is quirky, which cracks me up, but also puts me at ease because I’m a bit peculiar as well. We have many inside jokes, which come in the form of self-deprecating humor about our previous mistakes and our own lingo. She is not only gorgeous on the outside, but has a big heart that drives me to make the world a better place. I’m so lucky to have found someone who shares my values of family, active lifestyle, justice, service, and travel, and who has similarly eccentric tastes in movies, food, music, podcasts, etc. We look forward to the present and the future: raising two wonderful children (one biological, one adopted), traveling to all the U.S. National Parks, enjoying time with immediate and extended family, and making a positive change in the world.

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Our Home

We finally moved into our dream home! It has a bedroom for us, one for our son, and one waiting for your child. We love the house for many reasons: it’s cozy; it has a fireplace; it’s across the street from hiking trails with access to a number of parks, a nature preserve and public pools; it has skylights that bring in lots of natural light; and we set up the downstairs as a fun activity area with a projector and space to play. It also has a separate room that we’ll be using as a playroom on the main floor. The backyard is fenced and has a nice view of the adjoining open space. The neighborhood is safe and full of young families with children. It’s actually set up like a big cul-de-sac, so the streets are only traveled by neighborhood residents (or visitors), and we are at the far end so we hardly get any cars passing our home. It’s also right down the road from the local recreation center, where we hope to enroll our kids in swim lessons!

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Our Families

Jerel has one younger brother who is 6’8” (a human jungle-gym for kids), married, lives nearby, and is Jerel’s best friend. Their parents are retired, also live nearby, and are proud grandparents. Jerel grew up in a large extended family, with a dozen cousins on both sides. His family has been compared to a Norman Rockwell painting, though they have experienced a bit of heartbreak, including when his teenage cousin died of cancer.

Julia grew up as an only child. Her parents immigrated from Poland in the 1980’s and still have a house there, where they live for several months out of the year. Her uncle is her only extended family still alive. We are on good terms with her parents and hope to visit their house in Poland in the next few years. We alternate between our two families each Christmas.

Our closest friendships were formed in high school and college. Jerel’s college friends mostly include musicians who live in Kansas City and Denver. Julia’s high school friends mostly live on the East Coast, but her best friend is from college and lives in Chicago. We make it a point to visit those close friends, as they do with us, and can’t wait to have our children grow up together.

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Our Lifestyle

We are an active family! We love the outdoors, going to events in the community, and traveling. More specifically, we enjoy outdoor activities like hiking, camping, and biking, so living by the Rocky Mountains makes it easy to do our favorite things. We enjoy going to the children’s museum, the botanic gardens, restaurants, concerts, and other places in the community. We take an annual weeklong trip, and hope to see all the national parks in the United States, but also want to have our child(ren) pick vacation spots when they’re a little older. We will make sure our child(ren) are not couch potatoes and aren’t glued to phones or the TV. Instead, we will encourage them to play with other kids, get dirty, learn arts and crafts, and come up with their own creative play ideas.

In terms of lifestyle, we also place great importance on food and meals. We think it is important to share a family meal every day, even when our child(ren) are adolescents. Eating together is a bonding experience and allows everyone to share about their days, laugh together, and learn something new. We also love to cook from scratch, and like foods from all nationalities. Jerel can make a mean chili and Julia can turn any recipe into gold, probably from watching a bunch of cooking shows. We are vegan and will raise our child(ren) on a vegan diet, but that includes such a wide variety of produce and tasty fake meats that they will consistently have nutritious, whole, foods and not sugary or fast food. Of course, we’re not going to deprive them of sweet treats, desserts, and the like, but our focus is on providing them healthy, delicious, whole foods.

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Racial and Cultural Diversity

We believe in the power of racial and cultural diversity. We believe that America was meant to be a melting pot of various races, ethnicities, religions, ideas, and other differences. We want that to be reflected in our family. We realize that while we will form a large part of your child’s identity, we are not able to fully help a non-white child understand their racial identity. We would seek help from you and others who share the child’s racial identity to teach them (and us) about their racial culture and the positives and negatives that get attached to race.

We are humble and know our capabilities and incapabilities. We know we have white privilege and cannot comprehend what it is like to be a black or brown person in this country. We’ve taken classes on cultural sensitivity, read books such as White Fragility and How to Be An Antiracist, and support the Black Lives Matter movement, but we know that’s not enough. We must seek out help from people who share your child’s race. We must be open-minded and listen to your child’s thoughts, feelings, and experiences about race throughout their life.

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Our Hobbies

As stated above, we love to get outside and be active. It could be doing physical activities, such as hiking, biking, after-dinner walks, skiing/snowboarding, or playing a sport like tennis or basketball. It could also be recreational activities, such as flying a kite, cooking, playing guitar, woodwork, gardening, or reading. We like hobbies that engage us mentally and physically, instead of just sitting on the couch and watching TV or looking at our phones (although we’re guilty of doing those things on occasion). Not only do we want to model those active hobbies for our kids, we enjoy them and think intellectual and physical activities are important for a happy life.

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Family Traditions

We plan on having many traditions as a family, partly because they are great for routine but also because they are fun. Birthdays are a big deal to us, and we will treat the birthday person to breakfast in bed, eating out at a restaurant of their choice, and doing their favorite activity (mini-golf? favorite board game? favorite movie? day trip somewhere?). We also like to go on annual, week-long vacations, usually to national parks. What makes it special is that a different family member gets to decide where we go each year. When it’s Avery or your child’s turn, we would help them plan it but give them a lot of input as to what they’d like to do. Other important traditions to us include: participating in the MLK day march, going to Renaissance Fairs, dressing in group Halloween costumes, and sharing Thanksgiving and Christmas with the extended family.

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Our Careers

Julia is a family medicine doctor who is also trained in obstetrics, which is her favorite part (delivering babies!). She wanted to be a doctor ever since she was a kid, and not having any other career ideas is what helped her get through the trials of medical school and residency. After completing her training, she was chosen to be director of a clinic. She didn’t want to give up delivering babies and doing C-sections, so she finagled a way to spend a day every couple weeks in the hospital doing just that. She loves helping her patients improve their health and well being, which wouldn’t be a surprise if you knew her. She recently started a job where she continues to help people reach their health goals and deliver babies, but also is teaching new doctors just out of medical school how to practice the craft of Family Medicine.

Jerel was a high school science teacher for ten years before becoming a stay-at-home dad in January. He didn’t have a clear idea of what career he wanted until after college, when he taught English overseas as voluntary service. He immediately loved seeing the light bulbs go on students’ heads when they learned something new and making the class laugh during a well-crafted lesson. He followed that passion to get an alternative teaching license and has been teaching high schoolers ever since. When we had our son, we hired a nanny, but due to several reasons – including moving from Texas to Colorado to be closer to family – he wanted to be a stay-at-home dad. Once the kids (biological and adopted) are old enough to go to preschool, he will go back to teaching.

Discipline

We will practice authoritative parenting, which involves having high standards, following consistent rules and consequences, and responding to our kids’ emotions. We want to be empathetic and help our children identify their emotions, both positive and negative, while explaining to them why we have rules and following through with non-violent consequences to show them boundaries. We want to encourage autonomy, reason with them, and engage them in conversation so they learn how to think and not just obey blindly.

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Our Personalities

Jerel has a laid-back, open-minded, and patient demeanor. He is usually up for trying new things, aware of other people’s emotions, extraverted but needs some alone time, agreeable, and only neurotic when it comes to organization and planning. He is a little too trusting and optimistic but has become more realistic about who and how much to trust in the last few years.

Julia has an energetic, passionate, and spontaneous demeanor. She also likes trying new things, reads people well, is introverted but likes to go out and do things in the community, and is occasionally neurotic about safety and cleanliness. She is realistic and balances Jerel’s personality in almost every possible way.

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What We will Tell your Child about You

Obviously, a lot of what we tell your child about you will depend on you. We want to tell them about your personality, where you came from, your heritage and traditions. We’re hoping that a lot of these things will be reinforced in visits with you throughout the years as well. We will always let your baby know how grateful we are to you, to have made such a precious gift to us. We will let them know that even though you were going through what could possibly be the hardest time of your life, that you were strong and brave.

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Our Promise to You

We promise to love your baby unconditionally. We promise to tickle them, read to them, play games with them, encourage and foster their interests, give them tough love if they need it, help them keep their sense of wonder and curiosity, teach them, discipline them with non-violent consequences, let them know that you gave us the greatest gift we could ask for, remind them how lucky we are to have them in our lives AND how lucky we are to have you in our lives, and make sure they’re healthy and happy.

We can’t pretend to know you or what you are going through, but we are positive that we can provide a wonderful home for your baby. We can assure you that we are empathetic and understanding, and we will want you to stay in touch so that your baby never forgets you and how strong you are. We can give you confidence that we will do everything in our power to raise your baby with the opportunities to follow their passions and have a loving family that will always support them.

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  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!