Married Since: 2014

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Yes

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: Yes

If you choose us, we promise to do the work. We promise to make our home and our family a safe place for your child to grow up. We promise to support them, encourage them, and be there for them. We promise to support you, encourage you, and be there for you as you go through this process. Your well-being throughout this whole process is our top priority. We aren’t perfect people and we’re not perfect parents either, but do our absolute best to be better every day. We owe you our best.

Caleb and Emma

from Colorado

Caleb

Ancestry: English, German, Norwegian, Italian

Religion: LDS-Mormon

Occupation: Dentist

Education: DDS

Hobbies: Hiking, Adventures, Gaming, Reading

Emma

Ancestry: Norwegian, German, English, Swiss

Religion: LDS-Mormon

Occupation: Homemaker

Education: MA

Hobbies: Writing, Reading, Cooking, Baking, Outdoors

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: LDS-Mormon

Favorites

Caleb

Animal
Walrus
Sport
Mountain climbing
Childhood Memory
Going on brother play dates with my older brothers
Food
Junior bacon cheeseburgers
Holiday
Christmas
Personal Hero
Abraham Lincoln
Scripture
Mark 5:36
Subject in School
Science
Music
The Lumineers
Quote
"Incremental progress over swings of effort, every time."

Emma

Animal
Elephant
Sport
Swimming
Childhood Memory
Listening to "Harry Potter" books on family road trips
Food
Bueno bars
Holiday
Easter
Personal hero
Emma Smith
Scripture
Luke 4:18 - 24
Subject in School
English and History
Music
The Firebird Suite, The Mountain Goats
Quote
"Have courage and be kind."
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From Us to You

Hello,

This is a very unique way to meet someone, and we are so grateful to meet you. We chose to pursue adoption because it is a way for you, or someone like you, to choose the life you want for your child. We want to give your child every opportunity, every lesson, every skill, every moment of love we can possibly give them. We want to listen to their violin lessons go from squeaks to concertos. We want to watch them throw a ball for our sheepadoodle Watson (see the dog emoji for reference cause he looks just like that!) and then be thanked with licks and snuggles. We want to support and hug them through the bullies and bad dreams. We want to stay up late relearning how to do algebra to help them with their homework. We want to see them get all the kisses and snuggles from their older siblings, Rosalie (2) and James (4). We want to be the parents you want us to be for your child.

We first met in college through mutual friends and were friends for several years before we started dating. We had such a solid foundation by then that we were pretty quick to get engaged and married in August of 2014. Caleb is loving, playful, focused, and consistent. Emma is sincere, plucky, loving, and kind. James, who also goes by Jay, is sweet and loves throwing balls to anyone and everyone and Rosie is precocious and loves singing the words of “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star” to all the different tunes of songs she hears on the radio. Our hobbies include everything from sewing to rock climbing and from reading to watching YouTube videos. We love our home in Colorado and have really enjoyed making it a space where there is much playing of everything from our made-up game of “sleepy dragon” to chasing and fetching, and when that’s all done, watching “Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood.”

We meet our kids where they are in any situation, whether they accidentally break something, aren’t getting along with their sibling, are dealing with illness, or anything in between. We don’t let our kids’ actions or choices trigger us and instead, we help them work through their own emotions. Helping our kids comes first, and the same will be true for how we treat your child. We’re excited for them to get loved on by aunts, uncles, cousins, Grandma and Grandpa, and Mimi and Papa. They’ll join us in making candy houses at Grandma’s, playing in the pool with Mimi and Papa, playing “rawr!” with Grandpa, and jumping on the trampoline with cousins. Even if your child comes from a different racial or ethnic background from us, we will do the work to give your child our culture as well as theirs. We want as open of an adoption as you are comfortable with. We know that is so important for both your child and for your own healing journey. We aren’t perfect people and we’re not perfect parents, but we do our absolute best to be better every day. If you decide to trust your child to us, we owe you our best.

Warmly yours,
Caleb and Emma

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Why We Are Choosing to Adopt

We know there are so many situations where parents want their child to grow up in a secure loving home where they are the center of focus. We want to provide that for your child. Your child will not be the lucky one to have us, we will be the lucky ones that you were willing to trust to love and care for your baby.

Our family is not so much focused on having a certain number of kids but on how each kid feels within our family dynamic. Our family is one where we help our kids become kind, thoughtful, emotionally intelligent people. In our family, we strive to foster and maintain good relationships with our kids while still enforcing necessary boundaries. In our family, we get to see our children, whether they came from us biologically or from another family, grow up knowing how much we love them and how grateful we are to have them. Each child is so unique and will have different personalities, difficulties, interests, and needs, but all our kids will know that in each situation, for each individual, we will always do our best to focus on them and their needs.

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About Emma, by Caleb

I married Emma because she is the most generous woman I have ever met. She is patient, kind, and understanding, almost to a fault. She listens to your hopes, dreams, and wacky ideas. She works towards and wants you to succeed in your goals and endeavors. She is loving and sweet towards our children. After we discovered our first daughter had a terminal disease; she was the one who held me and talked me through my feelings. Loving is what Emma is. She is shy and fiercely loyal to her friends and family. She loves to tell the details of a story and hold the climax until the very end. She gets lost telling jokes and sometimes spoils the punchline. She has struggled with anxiety and depression in the past but diligently strives to overcome and live her life to the fullest. She knows her limits and knows when to seek help, which shows how strong she is. She is deeply religious and hopeful for the future. She loves Tik Tok videos and beautiful things in life. She loves art, music, and literature. She brings me along to make memories at the symphony, musicals, or exhibitions. Our children always know that Emma loves them. She will teach them empathy and understanding through what she has been through. She will listen and inspire, teach and model. She will inspire them through art, music, and literature. They will see her love for knowledge and beautiful things and try to create just like she does.

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About Caleb, by Emma

Caleb is the kindest, most dependable partner I could ever ask for. He’s so smart, tender, and enjoyable to be around. While he loves having adventures that include climbing mountains and jumping out of planes, he always is willing to go on the much smaller and more run-of-the-mill adventures of cleaning up the house and putting our kids to bed. Although those adventures are simpler, he does them with love and enthusiasm and our kids love to play and wrestle with him. He loves his work as a dentist as he’s able to help people get relief from pain while maintaining an ideal work-life balance. He is able to be home quite a bit and provides our family with a comfortable living.

He’s also a huge nerd (just like me!) and we enjoy mutual interests like “Lord of the Rings” and “The Murderbot Diaries.” He also has different interests than me like playing “Starcraft” and other video games, but I still love to participate by following the storyline and celebrating his accomplishments. In return, Caleb likes participating in my interests as well. He comes to see plays, musicals, symphony performances, and even operas with me. It means a lot to me that he’s willing to spend his time building memories we both can enjoy together. Anxiety has been a struggle in his life but his focus on making and achieving his personal, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and professional goals have allowed him to thrive and become a spouse, friend, and co-parent I am lucky to experience and explore the world with. These are all lessons I know he will teach our children and they will know how to live their life with balance.

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How We Met

We met in the freshman dorms of the university we both attended. A few years passed of being friends while Caleb went on a church mission and Emma went to study abroad, worked, and went to school. After serving as a Missionary for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, Caleb came back to find that Emma was single and that was when we started dating. We fell into our relationship easily since we had such a good foundation as friends.

Our first official date was watching “Iron Man 3” with some friends. Caleb had been home for a matter of months when we first brought up marriage and the rest is history. We saw each other every day for the next 4 months. We met family, attended church, exercised, and even took family pictures at Caleb’s grandparents’ 75th wedding anniversary! Even a summer as a door-to-door salesman and a semester in Israel couldn’t dampen our enthusiasm to get married. We were engaged soon after and got married in 2014.

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Lifestyle

Caleb works full-time as a dentist at his and his partner’s dental practice and Emma works full-time as a homemaker and mom. On the days that Caleb is at work, Emma and our kids are up around 6:30 to get ready for breakfast and at least one episode of “Bluey” before the day starts. Emma gets James off to school and then it’s some cleaning duties before going to appointments or Rosalie’s swim lessons. We have friends from our neighborhood, our church, and our community that our kiddos and Emma love to meet for play dates at each other’s homes, a local park, or the library for storytime. Watson is our puppy and he loves to follow us (Emma in particular) throughout the day’s activities. Emma is currently training him to keep him out of trouble, especially since his favorite things to chew on are socks (we’re working on it!). On the days when Caleb is home from work, we both do lots of cleaning, playing with our kids, while also making time for each of us to enjoy our individual interests. Caleb takes over morning duties so Emma can get a little more sleep. Caleb and the kids usually start their mornings off with waffles (he is an excellent breakfast maker) with all the help that little hands can manage. Then, we all get ready to go on adventures around town. These include the fun ones, like going to the zoo, the aquarium, or the Museum of Nature and Science, to the more boring ones like going grocery shopping or doctor’s appointments. Our days together as a family are full of learning, excited yelling, and everything in between.

We also enjoy taking trips and vacations with our kids, and sometimes with just the two of us, to see new places and experience new cultures. We took James (our now 4-year-old) hiking around Moab National Park when he was six months old (he was strapped to one of us while we did the hiking). We even had an Airbnb in a large 5th wheel camping trailer which was really fun, but a little chilly.  We’ve driven to California quite a bit to visit Emma’s family and to Colorado to visit Caleb’s family. We have perfected the minivan travel experience with Emma driving, Caleb in the back entertaining, feeding, and loving on our kiddos, and getting up at 3 AM to drive so the kids sleep most of the way. Stops for Freddy’s custard are essential parts of any road trip too.

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Our Parenting Style

Our parenting style revolves around the ideas of gentle parenting, which includes coaching and helping your kids process their emotions through respect, empathy, understanding, and setting clear boundaries. This means fewer punishments and more focus on connecting with our children based on their age and developmental needs, giving choices instead of commands, explaining the positive and negative consequences of all behaviors so they know what to expect in advance, and making sure consequences of negative behavior are connected to the choice they made, and that the consequences occur right after so there isn’t any misunderstanding about how consequences connect to each behavior.

It also focuses on not labeling kids as good or bad because of their behavior but instead looking at behaviors as signs of an unmet need and continually helping them to understand how their decisions and actions affect others (including parents). This philosophy also reserves “no” for situations that could cause our kids to get hurt, or could hurt others, and focuses on praising and encouraging good actions. As parents, we work on changing and shaping how we respond to our children’s choices in a way that is most helpful and constructive for them.

For us, the most important part of raising children is giving them the tools they need to deal with whatever situations come their way and that means meeting them where they are in any situation instead of letting a situation or reaction trigger us. We parent this way so that our kids know we love and support them as individuals and that they are our first priority.

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Our Relationship with You

We both know there is room in our family for another child. We cannot have any more biological children and there are moms out there who are looking for a different path than parenthood. We know you want what is best for your baby. We want to be a helping hand and support what decision is best for you. We are hopeful to be chosen as parents, but we believe that a mom choosing to parent is a beautiful thing, too. We want to provide a beautiful life for a child, if you decide that we are your right choice. We know that a relationship after birth can be essential. We can only imagine the heartbreak that comes with making the choice of entrusting your child to another family’s care, so we understand and respect the level of interaction that you choose. If you are willing, we want to have as open of an adoption plan as possible because we believe it would be in the best interest of the child. The circumstances and well-being of your child come first, but their well-being is also heavily wrapped up in a good relationship with you. Working together with you is a top priority for us.

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Home & Neighborhood

We live in a smaller community in Colorado, about 30 minutes away from a city. Our home is newly built because the community is growing a lot and new houses are popping up all the time. Our house is two stories with an unfinished basement. The bedrooms and playroom are upstairs but the downstairs has laminate instead of carpet so all the strider bikes and wheelie toys end up downstairs. The first floor is open concept with the kitchen melding into the dining room and the dining room melding into the living room. Emma is often making dinner on the large kitchen island as our kids, Jay and Rosalie, run or bike circles round and round the island. Since the living room and the kitchen all blend together, our kids will sometimes enjoy their favorite shows like “Bluey” and “Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood” when they are taking a break from playing. Our kids’ favorite place to sit is at the counter of the island where they tend to make quite a mess in their enthusiastic eating, so much so that Watson needs to be tied up to make sure he doesn’t try to sneak some of the food they leave on the floor. After all hands are cleaned, our kiddos like to go upstairs and play in the playroom. The playroom consists of lots of bookshelves full of toys and books, as well as a play kitchen and lots of musical instruments. It becomes quite a symphony up there and the “food” they make in their kitchen is always delicious.  Even though the basement is unfinished, we have set up small spaces down there to do our various hobbies like sewing, Legos, and working out.

Jay and Rosalie also love to play outside, whether it’s at the park or riding their strider bikes on the sidewalks outside our house. Our neighborhood has lots of single-family homes as well as apartments nearby, so we have lots of families and kids and we’ve enjoyed getting to know our neighbors nearby. We meet up with our friends at the parks in our neighborhood and play fetch with Watson. Our backyard is still a work in progress because our home is still pretty new, and we’re excited about the new space we’ll have when it’s done. We will have a kids’ play area, with a sandpit, a balance beam, and we are thinking about adding some playground bars to hang on and pretend to be fruit bats. We’ll also have some garden beds and flowerbeds so the kiddos can learn how to take care of plants and (hopefully) get some yummy fruits and veggies and pretty flowers out of it. There’s also a nice area of grass in the middle where we will play lots of games of fetch with Watson our made-up games of “Chase me, mommy!”

Our home is so special to us because of the memories we get to build together as a family. We’re really grateful to have landed in this spot. Even our school district has been nothing but helpful with excellent and engaged teachers, as well as great communications with specialists (since our son has some developmental delays) that have made our experience really excellent.

Racial & Cultural Diversity

If the last few years have taught us anything, it is how we don’t know what we don’t know about the experiences of people of color and other cultural and religious minorities in the United States. There is so much beauty and culture and knowledge that we have not experienced or been exposed to. The suffering and trauma perpetrated on people of color and other marginalized groups is deep and has affected every part of those communities from housing to healthcare to social status. We would love to welcome a child of any racial background into our home, but we know that decision is more than providing a loving space where we would raise that child. We understand their experiences will be different than their white siblings. We know inviting you to entrust your child to us will require us to do the work of not only learning about their culture and history, but also learning about the everyday things, like traditional foods, haircare, skincare, and other emotional and physical needs. Even knowing and acknowledging how these traditions and cultures have been actively squashed or dismantled in the past will be essential to our parenting.

We will prioritize putting your child’s need to have relationships, role models, and interests within their community, whether it’s actively searching out media that reflects their inherited background or taking them to unique cultural events that are hosted in the nearby city. If you trust your child to us, we will make any sacrifice to give them the tools to help them feel at home in the communities they inherit at birth as much as the communities we create and provide within our home, city, school, or otherwise.

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Our Families

Our kids are around cousins all the time! Caleb is the youngest of six children and there are 24 cousins between all his siblings. They are very close and visit many times a year. Emma is the oldest and her sisters are just starting to have children. They are also very close and visit all together many times each year. Emma’s family lives in Utah and Caleb’s is centered in Colorado but lives all around the country. Caleb’s eldest brother adopted a child many years ago and set a great example of openness and communication. Both of our extended families are excited at the prospect of adoption! They are very supportive and ready to love and respect whatever little nugget comes our way. Our friend group is also very supportive of adoption. Many families in our church have adopted and set a great example and support group for us. Caleb has always been described as a “momma’s boy.” Emma was drawn to him because of the way he honors and loves his mother. Caleb’s father is all about adventures. He will take any cousin under the age of 6 on a wagon ride or jump with them on the trampoline. He takes the middle cousins on hikes and bike rides. The older cousins will hike big mountains and play games like spike ball. Emma’s mother loves to find special gifts for each and every member of the family. She shows love through special visits, lunches, and gifts. Emma’s father is a big teddy bear. He drives a big truck and is a farm boy at heart. He loves playing ball, snuggling, and swimming with little ones. Our families and friends are on board to welcome a new child to our family, and we can’t wait to share their love with another little person.

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Family Traditions

Family and religion are our most important traditions. We switch off between our extended families for Christmas and Thanksgiving.  We usually take seasonal trips to visit our extended siblings as well. These can range from Georgia to California and Wyoming to Kansas City. Travel is a huge tradition in our family. We are taking the kids to Disneyland this year and on adventures around nearby states. We believe in overcoming hard things, being patient with ourselves and others,  and never giving up. Our oldest daughter passed away from cancer several years ago. On her birthday we release balloons with messages to her as a family. We tell stories of their older sister angel and remember her with a little ofrenda in our house. This has centered our family in Christ and belief in the afterlife.  We attend church weekly and teach teenage Sunday school. We celebrate birthdays, Christmas, Easter, and all the other common holidays. We volunteer our time to serve others whenever we can whether it’s cleaning our church building, making meals or babysitting for friends or neighbors, collecting clothing and supplies for the unsheltered, or teaching Sunday school to teenagers where we work to mentor and help them navigate the world. Outside of our efforts at church, Emma volunteers for protest and civil rights organizations to advocate change for disenfranchised groups while Caleb provides dental care for his patients based on their needs, not on their ability to pay. We also get involved in our neighborhood by collecting classroom materials (like masks and art supplies) for our kid’s classrooms and getting feminine hygiene products and other necessities for our local domestic violence shelters and food bank.

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Our Hobbies

Emma’s hobbies include reading, watching YouTube videos about her interests (learning, history, sewing, science, current events), playing with our dog, playing outside with our kids, and writing. Caleb loves very structured, goal-oriented hobbies. He enjoys reading, Legos, retro computer games, and climbing very high things. There are 54 mountain peaks in Colorado that exceed 14,000 feet, also known as 14ers. He has climbed 19 of them so far with future plans to climb Mt Rainier, Whitney, and Aconcagua. He also enjoys rock climbing- the challenge, and the adrenaline. Emma likes to go with him on some of these adventures as well. Despite these extreme sports, he most enjoys reading and chatting together about our plans for the future. We both have a shared love of travel and exploring.

We also are active members of our local Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints congregation. We both grew up in the Church and are grateful to have a community of people trying to make our community better, happier, and by trying to be more like Christ-like. We believe that if we are both 100% for God then we can work through any bumps we have with each other or as a family along the way.

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Our Promise to You

You’re making an extremely difficult decision and we can’t imagine what that’s like or how you’re feeling. What we are sure of is that we are more than willing to be in this with you. We are willing to give you all the space you need. Most of all, we want you to be happy with your decision to choose adoption and choose us as your child’s adoptive parents. We don’t want you to pick us because you feel trapped or there is no other good choice. We decided to use ANLC to help us with our adoption knowing that your advisors and advocates would provide you with all of your options and to give you knowledge and guidance. If you do choose us, we promise to do the work. We promise to make our home and our family a safe place for your child to grow up. We promise to support them, encourage them, and be there for them. We promise to support you, encourage you, and be there for you as you go through this process. As someone who has been through pregnancies, and really difficult and even life-threatening ones at that, Emma knows how hard it is physically, mentally, and emotionally and your well-being throughout this whole process is our top priority. We aren’t perfect people and we’re not perfect parents either, but do our absolute best to be better every day. We owe you our best. Thank you for spending time with us and we hope it gives you a clear idea of who we are and work to be. We hope to talk with you very soon, and again, thank you.

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