Adoption is often times a beautifully complex journey for both adopting parents and the birth parents. It can be a time filled with joy, love, and hope but also a time of uncertainty, lack of control, and anxiety. Everyone’s adoption journey is so different and unique. When I think of adoption, the word that comes to my mind is family. I have had such a positive experience and my adoption feels like family. I asked birth mothers to think of one word that came to their mind when they thought about adoption and here is what they said. My hope is that these words will give you a glimpse into the birthmother experience. Of becoming a birthmother and embracing our new role. The good, the bad, and the ugly.