Q: Tell us about your home and neighborhood.
A: We love our town, and our home! We live in a beautiful suburb, about an hour outside of a thriving city. We chose the town because it is very family-focused. There are many community parks and playgrounds throughout the town, two of the best are within walking distance to our home. The town rec-center offers a ton of sports and arts programs for kids, including horseback riding lessons! We own a 5-bedroom, 3-bathroom house with a big backyard. We’re tucked away in the foothills, about a 20-minute walk to a bunch of restaurants, coffee shops, and even a small movie theater. A few other families with young kids have recently moved onto our street, so we have quite a few babies and toddlers who will all grow up together.
Q: When you have a 3-day weekend, what you like to do?
A: California is an amazing place to live. There are beaches, lakes and mountains within a short drive, and we have a ton of family in the area so many holiday weekends are spent getting together for BBQs and family celebrations. Our town has so many things for kids and families to do, so we really don’t have to go far to enjoy the weekends. If we feel like getting out of town, Scott’s family owns a house in the mountain town that he grew up in. We’ll drive up there in the winter to play in the snow, and in the summer to swim in the lakes and hike with the dogs. We also love to camp. We have a huge family camping trip at the end of every summer and it’s a lot of fun!
Q: Do you have pets? If so, tell us about them.
A: We have two dogs who are both amazing with kids. Charlie is a yellow, Labrador retriever. She’s our gentle giant. Maverick is a mix between a Portuguese water dog and a miniature poodle. Even though he’s tiny, he bosses Charlie around.
Q: What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?
A: We want our children to respect themselves and others, and to be kind, empathetic human beings. Both of us were raised by teachers, so providing our children with a good education is one of our biggest priorities. We chose our town because the schools are good and the community is safe. By exposing them to a wide variety of activities and experiences (sports, art, music, travel, etc.), we hope they will not only find out what makes them special, but also learn how to appreciate people’s differences.
Q: What will you tell your child about his or her birthmom?
A: We are open to whatever kind of ongoing communication the birthmother is hoping to have with us. But if she decides that staying in each other’s lives is not the best choice for her, we will make sure that her child understands that all of her decisions came from the deepest and most unselfish kind of love, and that all she wanted was to provide him or her with the best possible life.
Q: Are you active in your church? Tell us about your activities.
A: We are not active in a church community. Both of us were raised by Christian families and believe in God, but we don’t participate in any type of formal religion.
Q: How will a child enrich your life?
A: We have a two-year old daughter now and she has brought so much joy into our lives. Family is everything to both of us. We love being parents, and would have a house full of kids if we could. Bringing another child into our family would enrich all of our lives in so many ways. We may raise children, but they teach us just as much, about ourselves and about the world. We also really like the idea of having at least two children, so they will have each other. Scott has one brother and Katie has two brothers and a sister. Neither of us could imagine our childhoods without siblings, or our lives now without them in it.
Q: Describe your last vacation and/or daytrip.
A: We just spent two weeks driving around the east coast. Katie lived in Connecticut for high school and college, and she wanted to show Scott and Sophie all of the places she loved growing up. We spent time with some relatives in Maine and then traveled around Connecticut, Massachusetts and upstate New York. While we were there we took Sophie to the Mystic aquarium in Connecticut, and to a few children’s museums in Massachusetts. One was a picture book museum, where they put on a great little puppet show for the kids. The other was a children’s discovery museum with all kinds of hands-on science exhibits and craft areas for the kids to enjoy. It was a lot of time driving around, so we made sure to plan fun toddler activities along the way.
Q: Will you be a stay-at-home parent? If so, what are your day-to-day plans?
A: Katie is a freelance writer, with the ability to work from home. She was a full time stay-at-home mom when Sophie was a baby, but now that Sophie is older she goes to daycare part-time during the week. It’s a really great private school in our town, with kids from 6-months through 8th grade. In addition to giving her time to socialize with other kids her age, the school does so many incredible things with the toddlers. She is exposed to music, art, crafts, language, counting and so much more.
Q: Will you be returning to work? If so, describe your day-care plans.
A: After the baby-stage, where Katie will again have the baby home with her full time, we believe that a combination of some daycare and some staying home with mom is the best.
Q: When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?
A: There aren’t words to describe our love and appreciation for the birthmother. Entrusting other people to raise your child is a leap of faith that we can’t even imagine. Knowing that she has chosen us over everyone else in the world, our lives will be dedicated to living up to the trust she has placed in us. Whether the birthmother is in our lives or not, she will always be in our hearts and part of our family.