Dear Expectant Mom,
We started writing this letter several times, not knowing
how to start or what to say. We’re not sure what your situation is or why you
are considering adoption, but whatever you decide to do, we know in our hearts
it will be the right decision for you and your baby.
We would like to take the opportunity to introduce
ourselves, Cary and Allyson. We have always wanted to have a child together. At
first, we were devastated that we couldn’t have one of our own. As the years
passed, we learned that it’s not genetics that make a family, but it’s the
desire to love and raise a child together, wanting to share experiences with
them, and make a difference in their lives… as much as they will enrich
We met at work; not the most romantic of places. Ten years
later, we are still together and as happy as ever. There’s not a day that goes
by that we don’t tell each other, “I love you.” Through good times and bad
times, we’ve always managed to pick each other up. We love to make each other
smile and laugh. Together, with Cary’s sixteen-year-old son Cody, we would like
to grow our family through adoption.
We enjoy spending our spare time together. Usually we go on
walks in the park, make meals together, watch a movie or just sit on the couch to
discuss our day. We even started training together to keep each other motivated
to run 5ks and obstacle courses. Each year we take a trip to the beach, usually
to the Outer Banks with our family and friends. We live close to amusement
parks, go to baseball games, and we like to go to the nearby aquarium and
We both have a wide range of hobbies. Cary is an avid
fisherman, plays on a softball team and loves to spend time on the golf course.
Allyson tried once, but we think she should stick to miniature golf. She likes
to spend time baking, reading books and going to the gym.
There are so many experiences that we had while growing up
that we would like share them with your son or daughter. We are such kids at
heart and love celebrating the holidays. We will dress up as a family to go
trick-or-treating. At Christmas we will decorate our home inside and out, as
well as make a mess in the kitchen when baking and decorating cookies. We will
teach your child how to play different sports and swim and we’ll take them
While Cody mainly lives with us on the weekends, he will be
an important part of your child’s life. He looks forward to being a big
brother, although he does draw the line at changing diapers. Your child will
learn different sports from him, how to boogie board, play video games and how
to build the coolest Lego creations.
We believe in the importance of education and learning new
things. We will help your child strive to do their best and teach them that
anything is possible. No matter what paths they decide to take in life, we will
support them 100% to help them achieve their dreams.
We are lucky to live close to both of our families. We enjoy
spending time with them; we often have cookouts and even go on vacations
together. Our parents continue to give us guidance and encouragement. They have
been supportive throughout this process and will be there for your baby. We
hope to transfer their teachings of caring, working hard and being responsible
individuals to your son or daughter.
We would like to thank you for reading our letter. We
promise to unconditionally love your child and will raise them to the best of
our abilities. They will have home that’s full of love and laughter and please
know that your son or daughter will grow up knowing who you are and the
sacrifice you made for them.
Cary & Allyson