Dear Expecting Parent(s):
Thank you for considering your choices. We
have yet to meet, but we admire your bravery in deciding to give birth to your
child and considering an adoption plan. We cannot fully understand how hard
this decision will be for you or how you are feeling at this moment. We will
tell you our story and maybe that will help you in making your choice. Please
know that no matter what you choose, we wish you, your child, and your families
all the best.
We are Ashley and Devlin. Thank you for taking the time to learn more
about our family. We met a bit over ten
years ago now, having had our first date in Georgia in 2008. We do not know if either of us were looking for love on our first date. Devlin was a
bit stubborn in setting it up, and Ashley almost chickened out of it. But we both took a leap of faith, and love
found us whether we were looking for it or not.
We got married about eighteen months later in June, at Ashley’s
childhood church in East Tennessee. A lot has happened in ten years, but now we are partners with one of our dearest friends in the same law firm in Georgia.
I am Ashley! I was born in Tennessee and grew up in a very
loving family in East Tennessee. I grew
up with a younger brother. I enjoyed
spending time with a tight knit group of girlfriends, swimming and boating in
the summers, playing softball, singing in a show choir, and lots of other fun
things that were available to me. My dad
is a second-generation veterinarian, and I grew up around his clinic and around
a bunch of animals. I love dogs and
cats, and I loved working in the clinic with my dad as a kid. I went to college in East Tennessee, law
school in Virginia, and then moved to Georgia shortly before I met Devlin.
Hi, this is Devlin. I grew up in Georgia. I am an only child but grew up with a very close
group of friends, some of whom remain close friends today. I am also very close with my parents,
especially my dad. I grew up playing
with a group of kids from school, was extremely active in Boy Scouts, and was
in the band in middle and high school.
The Scouts offered me an opportunity to travel all over the country, and
I especially loved the times that I got to go backpacking and camping in New
Mexico, sailing in the Florida Keys, and to events held on major college
campuses. I moved to the Washington,
D.C. area for an internship during college and stayed for law school. At the time, I thought I would stay there for
my career, but as law school wound down, I realized that I missed my family and
missed Georgia. It is kind of a unique
place to live because you are a few hours from the mountains, a few hours from
beaches, and a few hours from theme parks in Orlando.
We (Devlin and Ashley) are best friends
and have a lot in common other than just the past ten years of experiences
together: similar values, similar degrees, the same profession, a love for
traveling, similar hobbies, and a love of college football. Family is extremely
important to us and was a huge part of our upbringing. We knew we wanted to
have children, and we were eager to extend our new family. Over the past several years, we have
struggled with fertility issues and have been through several rounds of IVF.
In the beginning,
infertility caused us great sadness and strained our relationship a bit. From
this experience though, we grew to accept the path laid for us, our love for
one another deepened, and further strengthened our faith in God. Devlin has
handled dozens of adoptions as an attorney, and we always were interested in
adopting. So, with our fertility
struggles, we knew adoption was the choice for us.
We are excited to
grow our family. We cannot wait to have
a little one walking around, playing with our Golden Retriever Wilbur, annoying
our cat, and making messes around the house.
We look forward to future family camping trips, fishing, going to
sporting events together, golfing together, and so many other things. Our families are excited about it too. We want our future child to be happy and
healthy. We want him or her to be active
and have interests in and out of school.
We hope our child finds an interest that they love—music, sports, art,
scouts, whatever—that he or she loves and enjoys doing. College would obviously be a goal, but if he
or she finds a job that they can make a career out of and that they love, then
you can’t ask for anything more.
You have a tremendously and immeasurably
important decision to make. Thank you
again for taking the time to get to know us and for considering us in your