Dear Expectant Mother:,
Greetings from Montana! We’re grateful you are taking the
time to consider us as adoptive parents. While we can’t hope to understand what
you are going through, we can only admire your bravery and generosity in
considering adoption for your child.
We’re really excited to start a family. We have known
adoption was an option for us since we started talking about growing our
family, and as fate would have it we haven’t been able to get pregnant. As
family doctors, we’ve had the joy and privilege of delivering babies and being
amazed at just how much each of them grows and develops in the months in between
visits. We are ready to see that process unfold in our own household. We know
it won’t be a cake walk, and we’re prepared to be humbled and challenged just
as much as we’re prepared to laugh and play and celebrate. We’ll love your child
fully. With us, your baby will grow up in a warm, safe home, a home where there
will be music, raspberries and tomatoes in the garden, a friendly dog who
always appreciates a walk or run, lots of books, and a steady stream of great
friends and family. We plan on giving your child plenty of opportunities while
also challenging him or her to excel.
We will have your child outdoors often and early. We are
really looking forward to exploring the mountains, trails and rivers of western
Montana with a new partner. We are already asking around about the best running
strollers out there! We spend a lot of time outside running, hiking, cross
country skiing, and mountain biking. Both of us were competitive runners in
high school and college and still try out our luck at lots of running and cross
country ski races.
We live in lively mountain town in Montana. Our current best
housemate is our medium-sized heeler mix, Prancer. Prancer is very friendly and
incredibly loyal. She will watch over your baby like a hawk. We live in a tidy,
two-bedroom home at the base of several mountains that are covered in trails,
and is within walking distance of downtown to boot. We live a great part of town!
Downtown is full of art galleries, restaurants, bookstores and coffee shops. A
river runs through it, and on hot summer days we can walk to the river and
float on inner tubes. In the summer there are farmers’ markets and an amazing
array of local foods. We have a small garden in the summer where we grow
tomatoes, beans, peas, peppers, a struggling asparagus plant, herbs and lots of
berries. Tim is an avid and excellent cook, Elizabeth does better with baking,
but as a result we eat really well: lots of fresh and healthy meals.
We are deeply concerned about the environment, income
inequality in the United States, women’s reproductive health and social
justice. We enjoy music (and dancing at weddings - even if we dance poorly!). We
both like to read - more novels for Elizabeth and short stories for Tim.
Our families are very important to us. Elizabeth has a
sister whom she is very close to and lives nearby (in Montana terms) in
Wyoming. Tim is one of 5 kids and when they all get together it is a boisterous
event. Your baby will be the 7th cousin in a growing cadre of busy, active
kids. Both sets of would-be grandparents live in upstate New York, but are
healthy and spry and able to travel frequently to see us. We know we will be
seeing even more them once a baby is part of our family. Our families are very
excited to meet your child and introduce them to annual family traditions like
the Family Chicken Trot and fun times at the summer cabin. Our Montana family
consists of close friends who are already offering up hand-me downs and advice!
We want to thank you for considering us. We would very much
look forward to raising your unique, amazing little human being!
Tim and Elizabeth