Dear Expectant Mother,
Thank you for taking the time to read this
letter and to learn about why growing our family through adoption is so
important to us.
Adoption is something that we considered as an
option long before we struggled with infertility. It is something we both
wanted to do eventually - we just thought we would have our biological children
first. So when we started to have trouble conceiving, our thoughts did not turn
to IVF, but immediately to adoption.
Stephie’s mom passed away on July 4, 2017 from
breast cancer. One of the things she wanted most was to meet her grandchild. We
had talked with her before she died about how we were considering adoption and
she was such a cheerleader for it. We fully believe that she has met her
grandchild; that she has already picked out the child who needs us most, and is
up in Heaven right now hogging time with them until it’s time for us to meet
him or her. Her reaction (and our entire family’s reaction) to the prospect of
adoption summarizes exactly why we want to adopt - it doesn’t matter what our
child looks like, or where they come from - a family is not just biology. A
family is so much more than that. A family is love, and our home is overflowing
with it. We already love your child so much. We know that raising an adopted
child will come with its own set of challenges, but we are ready to tackle
those head-on and provide a home that is full of love, laughter, good food, and
more snuggles than one kid could know what to do with.
We both love to cook (Alex is a chef and Stephie
has a food blog) and genuinely consider going grocery shopping together to be
fun (#nerds). We look forward to adding a third little person to our shopping trips,
and showing him or her the world through a multitude of cuisines. We would love
to include dishes from your culture in that repertoire and to keep your
heritage as a part of our home through the food we share.
Alex grew up playing soccer and can’t wait to
kick around a ball with a new little shadow and to teach him or her the ins and
outs of the game while watching English Premiere League (and rooting for
Liverpool, of course!). Stephie grew up around the theatre and looks forward to
singing show tunes as lullabies. Our two dogs and two cats (all rescues) are
also a very important part of our lives - play dates with the dogs in the park
down the street from our house will certainly be a regular occurrence.
So you see, we are ordinary people. What would
make us extraordinary is you and your decision to entrust us with raising your
child. We’ve had some people try to tell us that we’re heroes for adopting, but
we don’t think that’s the case at all. The hero of this story is you - for
loving your baby so much that you consider a choice so difficult and important, that just imagining it rocks us to our core. We can’t wait to tell your child
all about you and how they come from the bravest woman we know.
All our love,
Alex and Stephie