Dear Expectant Mom,
Hello. Thank you for taking the time to read our letter. Even
though we have never met you, we can only imagine this is an incredibly
stressful time in your life. You must be such a brave person. Even though you
are facing huge, scary decisions, you are thinking about other people. You
could have taken the easy way out, but instead you’re trying to do the best
possible thing for your child and, in the process, possibly giving someone the
greatest gift ever. We can’t imagine what it is like to be in your shoes, but
we have so much respect for you.
I (Cindy) spent sooo much time trying to find the perfect
words for this letter so you could see how we feel, how much we would love a
child, and what our life is like. I’m sure the options are overwhelming for
you, so I’m just going to tell you my story and what I know.
I got pregnant on my wedding night. But I miscarried. That
loss was overwhelming. It was like an unending punch in the gut that I wasn’t
expecting. It hurt. But eventually, we were fortunate enough to get pregnant
again. So when I finally became a mother, I treasured every single moment of it
and I still do.
When Jones (Jay) was about 18 months old, we decided we
wanted to start trying again. But I couldn’t get pregnant. And every month that
I didn’t get pregnant was another punch in the gut. I know this may not be
logical, but every month I would feel incredibly guilty that I was keeping my
son from having a sibling and that I couldn’t give my husband another child. Adoption
is the opportunity to do that. To have the second baby that we have always
dreamed of. To get the missing piece of our family and make it complete.
If you were to choose our family, this is what life would be
like for your child... we go to the zoo almost every month, library once a
week, beach and the park like crazy and spend as much time together as
possible. Jay asks for a little sibling almost every single day; he will be a
fantastic big brother. I’m a stay-at-home mom so my days with your baby would
be filled with Mommy and Me, Gymboree, playdates, arts and crafts, and just one-on-one
bonding time while Matt is at work and Jay is at school.
Matty loves sports! Even though his favorite is basketball,
he supports Jay in whatever he chooses which right now is soccer and/or Power
Rangers. On cold days, we love to all cuddle up in bed and watch movies together
or roast marshmallows in front of the fire. On summer nights, we have water
balloon fights at the park across the street. It doesn’t rain that much here,
so when it does, we never walk by a puddle without jumping in it. We love being
outdoors, exercising, and walking our dogs.
I know this sounds cheesy, but our house is full of love and
laughter. We have a ton of fun and are a really happy family. Everything that
Matt and I do is to help our child (hopefully children) become happy, well-adjusted
people. If you choose us, we promise you that we will spend the rest of our
lives giving your child the best possible, loving environment to grow up and
With love and respect,
Matt and Cindy