we sit here thinking about what to say to you, we are struck with the thought
that we could never hope to understand or come close to feeling the way you do.
Nothing we can say, no words, however well put together or well-intentioned, can
come close to understanding or conveying how you must feel. We can, in truth,
only do two things: THANK YOU, and try
to explain why we would make a great family for your baby.
wife and I went through 5 years of infertility treatments that were as painful
and heartbreaking as they were ineffective. We had to come to terms with the
fact that, no matter what we did, neither science nor miracles would give us a
child. When we were on the verge of complete despair, a light shined upon us
renewing our hope and promising us that our dream for having our own family
might truly come to be. That hope - that
light, that forsaken miracle, that chance to realize our dream to be parents,
to have our own family – became adoption. And almost 3 years ago that dream was
realized when we adopted Charlie, who is almost 2.5 years old now. And if adopting Charlie has taught us
anything at all it’s this: we have a lot more love to give.
could promise you we will provide a perfect home for your baby, that we will read
every book, take every class. We could promise to be perfect. We could promise to
be the best parents ever. We could do all these things, but what does it all
mean? How helpful is it for you to hear these things? Are we perfect? No. We could tell you we are taking every class, and reading every book we can, asking
every parent we know about everything they know about being parents. We could promise you that we have taken inventory of all the good and bad things our own
parents taught us, and that we have ditched all the bad things and kept only
the good. Will we make mistakes? Yes. Will we sometimes wonder what in the hell
were we thinking? Of course. But there is one thing we can promise you. There is
one thing that you will never have to doubt. There is one thing we know to be as
true as the sun and stars: we will give your baby a happy home where they will
always know love. We will give your baby a home where there will always be love
and a feeling of safety. We will provide
a home that will nourish the stomach, mind, soul, and dreams. Your baby will go
to bed at night, and wake up in the morning with a mom and dad’s love and
support, no matter what life has in store.
Your baby will always, for as long as we live, have a family dedicated
to two things: your baby’s happiness and safety.