Dear Expectant Mother
We are so extraordinarily grateful for you and admire your bravery for the choice you are considering for your child. Thank you for being willing to consider us to be a part of your journey and your child’s life.
We are so excited to be parents—for sleepless nights with a newborn, for reading bedtime stories to a toddler, for first steps, first bike rides, first days of school, first middle school dances, first time driving a car, first time breaking a heart and getting his or her heart broken—we are dreaming of those moments and so many more. We knew from the moment we first started talking about adoption that we wanted to grow our family in this way. Adoption has never been our back-up plan or our plan B. In fact, we knew when we began that there was a chance we would get pregnant along the way, and we have--and we could not be more thrilled. We truly believe that this is part of God’s plan for our family and are hopeful that we will be blessed with two little ones who will grow up with a family who adores them.
We live in a great community where our children will be surrounded by so much love. Beyond the unconditional and endless love your child will receive from us, our parents are thrilled to become grandparents—it will be the first grandchild all around and will be so doted on.
From Ella Bess: There are people who know from a young age that they want to be a doctor, or a lawyer, or a businesswoman, or a pharmacist—I was always envious of those people. I started out thinking I wanted to be a doctor, switched to psychology, went on to get a masters in social work and then somewhat fell into teaching when I joined Teach for America. I didn’t grow up knowing that I wanted to be a teacher, but once I found the career, I knew it was what I was meant to do. However, there is one thing I have always known I am meant to be—a mom. For as long as I can remember I have dreamt of having a family—of changing diapers, rocking a baby to sleep, helping them learn and grow—it has been a constant desire of my heart. I was fortunate to fall into a career that I love, but being a mom is my calling—it is what I am meant to do.
From George: I have often thought about myself when making decisions about what is best for my career, and my well-being. The moment that changed for me was when my wife sent me a video about adoption, and its connection to our faith. I became overwhelmed with emotion, and knew then and there that there was a greater purpose to life than solely looking out for one, or two people. There are many goals that I have for myself as an educator, whether that is to help develop the teachers I manage, or build a successful athletic program at my school, or eventually become a leader of a school entirely. Yet, after watching that video, it was clear that those goals pail in comparison to the newest goal in my life, to be the best father I can be.
I want to help raise a child, help them learn, help them grow, and help them become the best version of themselves. Regardless of where life takes me, the opportunities that are presented, or where I see myself in ten years, one thing is for certain. I want to be a father, and I will work tirelessly to ensure that I am the most supportive, loving, and thoughtful parent for my little boy or girl. I want you to know that my mission in life is dedicated to those that I love, and I hope that your child will be apart of that in our family.
One of our favorite books is a children’s book by Kate DiCamillo,, The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane. It follows a china rabbit’s journey after being lost by a ten year old little girl. Edward travels around the world and eventually ends up in a doll repair shop where he ends up on a shelf next to another old doll, who says to him... "If you have no intention of loving or being loved, then the whole journey is pointless….Open your heart. Someone will come. Someone will come for you. But first you must open your heart.” This section of Edward Tulane was read aloud by a friend at our wedding--at the time we thought it was such a perfect reflection of how our friendship grew into a love. We now see that it is also how it has evolved into the reflection of how our hearts are so open to the child that we know is waiting for us. Our hearts are open to you--the one who is reading this letter and deciding whether or not we are the right fit for her baby. Know that your baby will be loved beyond measure. Know that we will do everything we can to make sure that your child is surrounded by joy, laughter, and happiness. Know that our hearts are open.