Dear Expectant Mother,
“When my kids were born, I made two prayers. One, that they
would be healthy. Two, that they would be happy." Chelsie’s father spoke these
words to us at our wedding. It is the same prayer we have for our future child.
Your journey to this point, to reading this letter, we imagine has had its ups
and downs. We are grateful that you are reflecting on your future and what you
want for your child. We can’t pretend to know exactly what our future holds. We
can’t make promises about the exact path your child’s life will take if they
join our family. However, we can promise they will be loved unconditionally and
given every opportunity to be exactly who they are. We can promise not only to
love your child, but to protect, nurture, educate, encourage, and provide for
him or her as well.
We have been navigating life together since we met working
at a summer camp for people with disabilities in 2010. Working so closely
together (you are “on duty” 24 hours a day at camp) allowed us to quickly learn
our strengths and weaknesses and how to support each other through both the
good and challenging times. Together we’ve navigated coming out to our
families, first full time jobs, puppy training (twice), home buying, marriage,
and the adoption of our first child. Our lives are full of love. We have
surrounded ourselves with a strong community of family and friends. We would
love to share this life we have built with another child.
We look forward to introducing your child to our current traditions
and creating new ones as they grow up. During the summer, we compete in the family
mini-golf classic. We are currently the 3rd generation of competitors and are
excited to see a fourth generation join in and win trophies. In October each
year, we gather with over fifty of Chelsie’s extended family members, including
the ever-growing number of children, to celebrate the annual “All-a-Day” where
we spend all day celebrating the year’s holidays (think pumpkin carving, a
Fourth of July parade, Thanksgiving dinner, and a Christmas gift exchange). Palm
Sunday weekend, we gather with Kat’s extended family for a few rounds of
bowling before sitting down to share a meal. Although we have many extended
family traditions, we are excited to create our own smaller traditions with our
children, like making pancakes on Saturday mornings and receiving new pajamas
on Christmas Eve before we snuggle up to read a new book.
During the summer, we enjoy riding our bikes around the
local lakes, kayaking, and going on walks with our dogs. In the Minnesota
winters, we spend more time inside reading and watching movies. Our children
will learn an active lifestyle, how to slow down and be in the moment, a love
for the outdoors, and a sense of purpose while being surrounded by family and
friends that love them.
Neither of us traveled far until school trips in middle
school and high school. Our vacations rarely extended outside of the Midwest. We
are now lucky enough to have the means to enjoy extended vacations each year to
Hawaii, Florida, or anywhere we think we would enjoy exploring. We plan to
provide our children with the opportunity to see the country and the world.
If you choose us as family for your child, we look forward
not only to welcoming your child into our lives but you as well in whatever
form you are comfortable with. It is important that your child knows where he
or she came from and that they joined us out of love.
Thank you for giving us the opportunity to share more about
ourselves. We wish you luck in your decision and if you choose to parent,
congratulations! We couldn't be happier for you.
Chelsie & Kat