Velan and Meena

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From Us to You

Dear Expectant Mom,

Your child is a very special gift from God to you. And, if you have decided to place your child with us, this gift of life is precious and gives us hope and happiness. For you, what we can do in return, is give the assurance and certainty that your child will be raised in a good home with loving parents who will make sure that he or she grows up happy and contented. We will always remember you and your decision with gratitude.

We are anxious, nervous, a little guilty, and sad, (also excited, hopeful, and happy about your baby). If you have made the tough decision to place your baby for adoption after serious thinking, and if you have chosen us as parents, we are so honored and grateful for that decision. We promise to raise your child as best as we can. In a way, you are entrusting part of yourself to strangers. It takes a lot of courage, because it is a very scary thing to do.

The reason we are adopting is to make our family whole. In our opinion, no family is complete without a child, and it has been our dream to become parents. When a child is young, the parent feels love, affection, and satisfaction to be needed. As the child grows, bonding and trust form. As a result, the child learns from the parent to do many things. Teaching, sharing ideas, and having fun are a few of the things a parent does for the child. Through these activities, the parent lives a real, fruitful life. When the child reaches adulthood, there will be mutual understanding, friendship, respect, and love between them and their parents. Why am I explaining this? Because we hope, with your precious child, these simple dreams can be realized for us.

I, Meena, know well that I cannot replace you, but I aspire to be the best, most loving mom I can be. I will be a stay-at-home mom and we will not need daycare to raise your child. In our home, we assure you that your child will be loved, nurtured, and protected, and his or her needs will be met fully.

We have two strong beliefs in raising children: they should be happy and satisfied with their life, and they should be able to support themselves through good education. Also, we are interested in encouraging your child to take a music class, an art class and some sort of sports activity in order to learn what they like and to become well-rounded. Any suggestions you make will be appreciated. If you or anyone in your family is involved in any activities, we’d love to encourage that with your child.

Meena played a musical instrument during her school days and Velan enjoys volleyball and goes bowling. He is also a big fan of football (go Pittsburgh Steelers!). Meena is also interested in introducing your child to reading and yoga in his or her early years. We will introduce him or her to different cultures of the world. We are interested in travelling to places like museums, palaces, national parks, historical monuments, etc. Your child will see and learn about different countries like England, France, Italy, Belgium and India. But most important, is that nothing will be forced on him or her and we will respect their interests and desires. The two aspects on which we won’t compromise are education and a strong character. At home, there will be rules to follow, but which can be bent suiting the situation. We are the type of parents who are not strict, but assertive in a positive way.

Let God’s blessings be with you and your child.

Thank you,
Meena & Velan

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About Velan

There are several qualities in Velan’s nature which I have come to know and appreciate over our married life. He is a very patient man who does not get angry easily. He is very tolerant towards others and this has earned a lot of good friends for him. He is also very trustworthy and has a helping nature. I know he will always stand up for me, which has made our marriage stronger. He loves children and has always enjoyed playing with them (his siblings have kids). He is always ready to teach them when they have doubts about anything. He is also very hardworking, takes his work seriously and has earned respect among his peers. My husband has received many recognitions and awards. Most prestigious is the President’s award that he earned for his excellent project work. About twenty people will be selected for the President’s award every year.

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About Meena

The thing I love most about Meena is her honesty. She also understands people better than me. In this aspect, she compensates what I lack. She is interested in reading mystery books and learning about culture related things. She has taught me many things about our own culture which I had not come across during my childhood years. Meena is also interested in gardening, cooking and biking. Every year she plans the garden layout, plants seeds indoors and then plants them in the garden when the time comes. Preparing the garden after winter and helping to clear out after the fall are my jobs. Meena enjoys trying different recipes she finds on the internet and cooks delicious food, which I enjoy and our friends appreciate often.

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Our Family and Friends

Both of our family members live overseas. But we have very dependable, kind, trustworthy, loving friends living here in USA, whom we have known for many years. Our friends are caring and prompt in helping us out whenever we ask them.

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Our Home and Neighborhood

Our home has 3.5 bedrooms and 2.5 baths with a big backyard. Our neighborhood is a very friendly and safe place. People here are always helping each other and most of them have raised their children here. There is a park nearby and also a good private school. The park is very near (about 100 yards) to our home. About half a mile away is a bigger park for your child to play. There is a bike trail available in our neighborhood less than two miles away.

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Our Lifestyle

We are interested in enjoying our life but are careful not to overspend. We are not stingy or spendthrift. For us, to spend money on education, and on learning different sets of skills that are useful in one’s life is very important. We intend to give this basic need to your child. Velan enjoys outdoor activities much more than Meena does, so, he is planning to have a lot of outdoor fun with your child. Meena is interested in reading books, watching movies and visiting interesting places. She is looking forward to doing these activities with your child. Also, both of us will be interested to know what your child will like and want to do. It will be a pleasure to get to know new things through your child.

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Our Personalities

Velan is a hardworking, creative, friendly, and kind person. He is a straight forward guy, but talks less. Meena is kind of a laid back type. She is talkative, friendly, but reserved. For Velan, it is very easy to make friends, but for Meena, it takes time to select friends. What connects both of us is we are honest with each other. Also, we talk and discuss any problems that come up, so, we understand and compromise.

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What We will Teach our Children

We intend to teach our child honesty, hard work, patience, and respect for others. While Velan is a very hardworking person, Meena will teach them how to have fun with leisure time. Enjoying one’s life is also very important. Being honest with one’s own self, and to others helps to create a good life and image in the long run.

We will teach your child to respect other people and their rights. This will be helpful when he or she lives as part of the society. Also, we intend to show them how to help others by participating in volunteer work.

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Our Traditions

Our parents on both sides have strong beliefs in hard work, self-discipline, religion, and family values. We will incorporate these traditional values in the upbringing of your child. But both of us also differ in some aspects from our parents. We will also give respect to our child’s wishes. In our household, instead of enforcing anything, we are going to give importance to the consequences of not doing the required job. Traditions are important, but holding on tightly to one’s tradition in a changing world is difficult. Instead, modifying the tradition to suit our life, understanding and adjusting to each other in the family, will be key factors in raising your child.

Our Faith

Both of us believe and practice Hinduism. We intend to raise our child in our faith. But, after the child becomes an adult, he or she can follow his or her choice of faith. We will respect any faith they choose to follow. To follow a religion is not a condition. But when you follow it, you feel someone is watching and protecting you during hard times. Hinduism teaches many things. How to live your life and the reasons behind the rules. Our religion teaches faith in God, being a good human being, tolerance, endurance, love, commitment and many more admirable qualities. If looked at closely, Hinduism has similar concepts of rules and teachings with many other religions.

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Why We are Choosing to Adopt

The reason we want to adopt is to have a child of our own, and for us, it is the completion of a family. The chance to love and nurture a child, in our opinion, is God’s gift to mankind. Each of us has a lot to offer to our child. Love, care, protection, friendship, guidance and needed financial assistance for education, all these are waiting with us for your child. For us, adoption means mutual benefits. The biological mother is choosing a safe, financially equipped family to raise her child, and we are happy to get to be parents for a wonderful child. Your child will have a good future.

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What Kind of Parents We will Be

We will be friendly, loving, and patient with your child. Being older than other young parents has its own advantages. We will both have a lot of time to spend with your child. He or she will have our full attention and care as needed; not stifling, but loving care. We will also give your child as much freedom as he or she likes to become the person they were meant to be. Velan is very interested in participating in sports, so your child will learn any sport of his or her choice. Meena loves to watch movies, mainly adventure movies like Indiana Jones, so watching movies is going to be part of the child’s life. We are new to parenting a child, but we will get help, if we need it from friends, family and/or professionals.

How We will Discipline

We do not believe that severe punishment like physical abuse, or refusing essential things, will improve the habits of a child. Instead, we believe that if we understand the reasons behind the behavior of the child, that will help us to curb the bad behavior. We will employ these methods, and give your child freedom to explore and learn. Also, parents have to make sure that their child understands the consequences of his or her actions. The child will have the opportunity to choose the right action to negate the consequences of his or her actions. We, as parents, will guide and help our child to achieve do this and learn from the experience. Your child will not feel inferior, or left alone when he or she is straightening the action. We will make sure that they realize that all human beings are susceptible in making mistakes, but the best thing is to learn from the situation so as to not repeat it.