Dear Expectant Mom,
To tell you the truth, we do not even know how to feel about
this whole situation. We are anxious, nervous, a little guilty, sad, (also
excited, hoping, and happy about the baby) and hoping that this will end
in good way for all of us. If you have made the tough decision to place your
baby for adoption after serious thinking, and chosen us as parents, we are so honored
and grateful for that decision. We promise to raise your child as best as we
can. In a way, you are entrusting part of yourself to strangers. It takes a lot
of courage, because it is a very scary thing to do. We will always remember you
and your decision with gratitude. The way we think is: your child is a very
special gift from God to you. And, if you have decided to place your child to
us, this gift of life is precious and gives us hope and happiness. For you,
what we can do in return, is give the assurance and certainty that your child
will be raised in a good home with loving parents who will make sure that he or
she grows up happy and contented.
The reason we are adopting is to make our family whole.
In our opinion, no family is complete without a child. Also, for a long time,
it has been our dream to become parents. When a child is young, the
parent feels love, affection, and satisfaction to be needed. As the child
grows, bonding and trust form. As a result, the child learns from the parent to
do many things. Teaching, sharing ideas, and having fun are few of the things a
parent does for the child. Through these activities, the parent lives a real,
fruitful life. When the child reaches adulthood, there will be mutual
understanding, friendship, respect, and love between them and their parents.
Why am I explaining this? Because, we hope, with your precious child, these
simple dreams can be realized for us.
In our home, we assure you that your child will be loved,
nurtured, and protected, and his or her needs will be met adequately. Meena will be a stay-at-home mom and we will not need daycare to raise your child. I,
Meena, know well that I cannot replace you, but I aspire to be the best,
most loving mom I can be. I will take classes at hospitals about taking care of
a baby as soon as we are chosen. We both want to raise your baby to be healthy
both physically and psychologically. We are both committed to making sure that happens.
We have two strong beliefs in raising children: they should
be happy and satisfied with their life, and they should be able to support themselves
through good education. Also, we are interested in encouraging your child to
take a music class, an art class and some sort of sports activity in order to
learn what they like and to become well-rounded. Any suggestions you make will
be appreciated. If you or anyone in your family is involved in any activities, we’d
love to encourage that with your child. Meena played a musical instrument
during her school days and Velan enjoys volleyball and goes bowling He is
also a big fan of football. Meena is also interested in introducing your child to
reading and yoga in his or her early years. We will introduce him or her to
different cultures of the world. We are interested in travelling, and your child
will see and learn about different countries. But most important, is that nothing
will be forced on him or her and we will respect is their interests and desires.
Only education and developing a good character are the two aspects on which we won’t
compromise. At home, there will be rules to follow, but which can be bent
suiting the situation. We are the type of parents who are not strict, but
assertive in a positive way. If it is ever needed, we will offer therapy to
help your child through tough times.
Let God's blessings be with you and your child.
Meena & Velan