Q: Tell us about your home and neighborhood.
A: We live in a single-family, two-story home, with a finished basement, four bedrooms, and 3.5 bathrooms. It’s a suburban development, a mile from the beach. We also have a nice, fenced-in backyard with a back deck off our kitchen, a patio, and a play set. We focused on this area because of its great school system. We love the open floor plan, with kitchen, dining room and living room on the main level, as well as large bedrooms, with a huge playroom on the second floor. Our finished basement is a toddler paradise right now and it is usually covered with Duplo blocks or Magna Tiles. We’ve developed a great group of friends in the area who we love to spend time with on the weekends. There is a children’s park and a baseball field within walking distance and a link to the 65-mile biking/hiking trail close to the house. We love to go for long family walks over the area marsh or along the seven-mile sandy beach that is near the house. About two miles away is a touristy area with a lot to do in the summer including a seaside amusement park, a pier, and summer attractions.
Q: When you have a 3-day weekend, what you like to do?
A: Our last 3-day weekend, we went to visit family in Pennsylvania so our three-year-old, Paige, could spend time with her grandparents, aunt, uncle and cousins. The kids loved running around and playing together at Grandma and Papa’s house! We have also love exploring some small islands along the coast of Maine in the past or area events if it’s a holiday weekend.
Q: Do you have pets? If so, tell us about them
A: We have a 4-year-old yellow lab, Maggie, who is the sweetest dog in the world. Maggie has always been our daughter’s best bud and is always the first one to say hi to her in the morning. Maggie loves joining Brian at work on “Dog Fridays” and she has to stop by everyone’s office to visit and comes home exhausted! We also have a tuxedo cat, Sammie. Sammie is primarily Charmie’s cat so follows her from room to room to claim a lap when it becomes available!
Q: What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?
A: We hope to teach our children how to be good people and be kind to others. Obviously we’d love to impart life skills and hope to provide a good formal education, but also want them to know they will always be loved and have a safe place with us. Charmie has a law degree and an MBA and tries to do her research on the current parenting, education and safety information for kids to be the best stay-at-home mom she can be.
Q: What will you tell your child about his or her birthmom?
A: Our daughter is also adopted so we have already been sharing details as she ages that are age appropriate. We try to read children’s books that describe adoption situations and make sure that being adopted is not something she ever needs to “find out” but is something she’s always known. We mention her birth mother with love and gratitude and talk about her birth mom. She’s still too young to understand much but we hope she and any future sibling(s) know the love and appreciation we have for their birth mothers. Charmie’s dad and aunt are both adopted as well and Charmie has learned a lot about adoption and birth families from them as she grew up so we try to model it for our daughter.
Q: Are you active in your church? Tell us about your activities.
A: Brian was born and raised Catholic and attended Catholic school from elementary school through college. Charmie converted to Catholicism before our wedding and we attend church when we can. We have been getting to know our new Catholic Church in Maine over the last year since moved here and are excited about the number of young families who also attend.
Q: How will a child enrich your life?
A: We love our three-year-old daughter with all our hearts and adopting her in 2015 was the best thing to ever happen to us. We both grew up with another sibling and feel like a piece is missing from our family puzzle at this time and would love to become a family of four. We are so family focused that another child will just expand our lives and complete our family. We know our daughter would make the best big sister and we can’t wait to experience more of what life has to offer as parents.
Q: Will you be a stay-at-home parent? If so, what are your day-to-day plans?
A: Charmie is a stay-at-home mom to Paige, and spends her time attending area play group activities so the kids can play, Mommy & Me swim classes, open gym play times, has an annual pass to the Children’s museum, meeting friends at the local park and hosting play dates. Paige will be starting preschool three days a week in the fall, so Charmie will have more time to focus on a new addition should we be lucky enough to add one.
Q: When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?
A: We love and admire our current daughter’s birth mother more than words can say. Being chosen to receive the greatest gift in the world is a very powerful thing and our gratitude and love know no bounds. We can only imagine what the experience of being selected as adoptive parents a second time would be like but know there is no other way for us to grow our family. We need someone to select us and would love to repay that trust with our love every day. We hope that the birth mother would know we would be grateful for a lifetime.