Q: Tell us about your home and neighborhood.
A: We live in a single-story, ranch style home. We have 3 bedrooms, 2 1/2 baths. We have an open kitchen/living room layout with unobstructed sight lines, perfect for family visits, and keep an eye on the children while they play. We live in a small town of about 13,000 people in a great area right next to a golf course, and close to the to the local schools. There are always a lot of neighborhood kids outside playing. We have a large lake in our community where there are always lots of festivals and parades going on throughout the year.
Q: When you have a 3-day weekend, what do you like to do?
A: We love doing stuff with family and friends. Both our parents live close so we like to go out to eat or go to festivals with them. We are big football fanatics, so we love to go to a football game if we get the chance. We also enjoy going to the movies-- particularly the local drive-in theater-- where we can hang out with our friends, eat, play card games and have a great time. Our friends also have young children, so we often have play dates at the school playground just a couple of blocks from our home. During the summer the neighboring town has a public park with a “splash pad” that we visit often.
Q: Do you have pets? If so, tell us about them.
A: Our family has one small twelve pound dog. Her name is Leche and she is a Maltese Pomeranian mix. She is very playful and loving--doesn't know a stranger. We warn people that she may kiss them to death! She loves people and other animals. She is 4 years old. She and our children play very well together.
Q: What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?
A: We want to teach them to always keep an open mind. We want to instill in them the core values that they can take with them as they grow up and venture into the world and start their own families.
Q: What will you tell your child about his or her birthmom?
A: We will tell them that she loved them so much that she made the best choice she could to ensure that they would grow up in a wonderful, loving environment. That she is a very courageous person to give so much love.
Q: Are you active in your church? Tell us about your activities.
A: We attend mass each Sunday with Darin's mother, father , and siblings. Darin volunteers as an Usher in a rotation with several other members of the church. Each year the family also donates time to work in the Bingo tent or cake wheel during the church festival. Melissa is part of a group of women who make meals for new parents in the church. Just one little thing to take off their to do lists as they welcome their little ones into their homes.
Q: How will a child enrich your life?
A: Another child would bring us to a whole new level of joy and happiness. We had always planned on having a larger family, and we both want to grow our family. We also see the interactions between our two children, and although there are times that we worry, the moments that you can't help but smile and laugh, wipe all the others away. I can't think of anything greater than growing those moments.
Q: Describe your last vacation and/or daytrip.
A: We went to a local Fall Pumpkin and Mums festival. The event is only about 40 minutes from our town in the neighboring county. It is geared mostly toward the children. They have bounce houses, a small train ride that gives a tour of the farm that holds the event, various playground equipment, slides, swings, etc. You can take a hayride out in the pumpkin field and wear rubber boots to walk in the mud and pick your own pumpkin, and navigate a corn maze. This year our daughter got her first taste of Apple Cider. Much to Melissa's joy, and to my chagrin, she prefers cold cider and couldn't care less about warm/hot cider. We'll see what next year brings.
Q: Will you be returning to work? If so, describe your day-care plans.
A: Our children split their Monday–Friday between days with Grandma and Grandpa at their house, and with home daycare provider. The children get to play at grandma and grandpas house 2 or three days a week, and the balance of the days they go to daycare. Grandma and Grandpa want them all the time, but we wanted them to also experience the social interactions with other children at the daycare.
Q: When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?
A: This was meant to be. God will have put us in each other’s lives, and that she will have given the most precious gift anyone can give. There are practically no words that can truly express the moment. I cried with our previous two children out of joy, and I can think of no better word than 'joy'.