Dear Expectant Mother,
It brings a smile when I (Mike) sit in
the other room trying not to laugh out loud while my wife is trying to get the
little one to eat his dinner. When I hear, “It’s not fair that I have to eat
mashed potatoes!” I almost fall on the floor laughing. I hope the little one
doesn’t come running around the corner, because if he sees me laughing, he will
never eat those mashed potatoes.
You could say that we get pretty
excited about fireworks, Easter egg hunts, bicycle rides and family dinners. We
always pretend to be mad when Grandma gives all of the grand kids cookies right
before dinner, but inside we are laughing. We have a great extended family of grandpas, grandmas, aunts, uncles, and cousins who get together all the time for
dinners and barbecues. It’s all about family.
As the cliché goes, “life is like
a roller coaster with ups and downs.” We have certainly had our ride. We have
seen our hopes and desires fall apart before our eyes and had to restart and
rebuild. We have had years where we were “in the money” followed by years where
we wondered where it all went. We have seen many hardships, but the hardships
always pass. A friend of mine once told me that the sun always comes up
tomorrow. How true that is in life. Happiness always breaks through the dark
clouds and shines. Life always turns a corner.
We get thrilled about the
prospect of having another child in our home. We are at a point in our lives
where parenting is what matters to us most. We are established in our careers
and no longer struggle to climb the corporate ladder. We are comfortable. We
have time for children. We have room for one more and we are hoping an adoption
will work out for us.
We live in a small town. The
streets are quiet. There is an elementary school next to us. We know the people
here. We wave to each other all the time. Our children play together. If you
could believe it, the community is like an extended family. I mention this
because this place that we live is something that we value greatly. It provides
a safe place to raise a child. It provides safety from many of the problems
that threaten children today. Just a ten minute drive from our home is a bigger
city where we work and shop. All of the busy noise stays there when we drive
home. It makes me smile.
One of our greatest desires is to
show the world to children. To provide experiences, teach and instill good
moral values are our responsibilities as parents. We are happy in that
responsibility. We are happy to put our own agendas aside to accommodate all of
the soccer games, dance recitals, spilled milk, skinned knees, endless repeats
of the TV show Paw Patrol, sore throats and sleepless nights. In short, it is time for
us to be fantastic parents and we are ready to take it on.
We are grateful that you have
considered adoption. We can only imagine how hard this is. We wish you well and
hope that everything will work out in your life. Thank you for reading our
Mike and Jamie