Q: When you have a 3-day weekend, what you like to do?
A: We love exploring other towns and cities, the beach, going for drives, baseball games (every summer we travel to a different baseball stadium to watch Bob’s favorite team, the Mets, and our goal is to visit as many stadiums as we can – we have a map on the wall and we place a sticker on each stadium as we visit it), in spring and summer we go to the nursery for plants and flowers, we love going to the movies, picking up take-out and watching movies at home, and cuddling on the sofa with a blanket and our two kitties, Rocky and Pepper. We have a lot of fun together. We like to go on what we call “mystery drives” where we get in the car and drive with only a general destination in mind. Sometimes we drive into the city or sometimes to some kind of town festival, but our favorite thing is to look for pretty places in nature to have a picnic or just take a walk. There are a lot of really fun places like that where we live. We have a tradition of buying a new Christmas tree ornament when we’re traveling or in a new place, and it’s fun to remember these adventures every Christmas when we decorate our tree.
Q: Do you have pets? If so, tell us about them.
A: We have two cats named Rocky and Pepper. Rocky was Bob’s cat and Pepper was Sasha’s cat, and we’re now a blended-cat family. Rocky is extremely social and loving, cuddly, loves to be with us, and likes to be in the yard exploring. He is really good with children, patient and good-natured, and he plays so sweetly with our 2-year-old nephew who loves to give him (lots of!) hugs. Pepper is shy, extremely sweet, and loves to sit quietly and cuddle with Sasha – she also loves to play chase and hide-and-seek.
Q: What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?
A: Our hopes and dreams for our child is that he or she is happy, fulfilled, secure in who they are, and lives a healthy life. We hope to teach them to be kind and compassionate to others, to stand up for those who aren’t able to speak for themselves, and to try their hardest and not give up. We will teach them to persevere and have hope in challenging times, that it’s okay to not be perfect, to respect themselves and their bodies and to respect others and their elders. It's very important to be responsible, honest, grateful, to have patience, and to be passionate about something that matters. To make a positive difference in the world, however big or small. We believe it’s important to appreciate life, even the smallest things, and we hope to share that and teach that to your child. We also feel it’s important for your child to understand his or her heritage, and our families’ heritage. We are excited to talk about, look at the old photos, and learn all the history of both lines of heritage.
Q: What will you tell your child about his or her birthmom?
A: That she is selfless, brave, strong, that she chose to give her child life, and that she put her child’s needs first and her own needs last in order to provide him or her with the best life possible. That she is deserving of love, respect, gratitude, admiration, and compassion. We believe it’s essential to teach your child all of these things about you. We will all be forever grateful for her sacrifice and will teach her child to keep her in his or her prayers with love and gratitude every night, always.
Q: How will a child enrich your life?
A: We are best friends who are in love with each other and with our life. We both waited a long time to find each other and this happiness, and we are immensely grateful for each other. We love to laugh and we have so much fun together that we just want to share all of those things with a child; to share the joy, the love, the laughing, the silliness, the fun, and the appreciation for life that we have! We can’t wait to complete our family by welcoming a child into our lives and seeing the world through their eyes, as they learn the world and grow. We seem to have fun no matter what we are doing and we can’t wait to be silly with, and laugh, with our child. Thinking about growing our family makes us so excited, and we just cannot wait.
We envision being a team, a trio, a family who loves and supports each other and has fun together! We are already happy and fulfilled but we would love to share all of that with a child. We can’t wait to start traditions, have family dinners, host the neighborhood kids and our child’s friends for meals, play dates, games, movies, and slumber parties.
Q: Will you be returning to work? If so, describe your day-care plans.
A: Sasha will stay home for 4 months and Bob will take his employer’s paternity leave of several weeks. Afterwards Sasha plans on returning to work and the baby will go to childcare during the day. We are still researching what type of childcare will be best for us, in-home daycare or a daycare provider. Sasha works from home, so she will be close by in the event there’s any kind of emergency or if she wants to visit during the day during lunch, etc. Bob will drop off the child in the morning on his way to work and Sasha (who works from home) will pick them up.
Q: When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?
A: Immense admiration and respect! Gratitude that she is the person responsible for helping us build our family, love and awe of her courageous decision, worry for her well-being, and hope that her future is bright.
Q: Tell us about your home and neighborhood.
A: We live in the suburbs in a 3-story townhome in a quiet, diverse neighborhood. Our community is safe, clean and made up of working couples and families. Luckily, we have some of the best public schools in the country. There are many amenities in our area for kids. There’s no shortage of opportunities for youth sports or other activities such as art and dance. We have excellent parks, social outlets, and entertainment. We also have a very strong parenting culture where the parents look out for each other’s kids. We’re just a few hours’ drive to the beach, mountains and several other cities, so there’s always someplace fun to go.