To a Very Special Woman,
There are so many beautiful children in this world, and so many babies waiting to be born through amazing women like you. Because of this I have decided to leave my ideas of having a child through surrogacy and adopt instead. I have so much love in my heart and I would be honored to share it with your baby. This journey is going to be filled with much uncertainty, and is an emotional human process for both you and I. I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. I am thankful that you are reading my profile right now as the universe has given us the opportunity to possibly touch each other’s lives. I have been preparing myself to welcome your child into my life and I promise nothing but unconditional love, encouragement and support. My hope is that this journey can bring a healing for your heart in knowing that I will always be there for your baby. I hope you’ll take a moment to get to know me…
I am Brian, and I would be honored to be the father of your child. I am originally from Philadelphia, where I grew up as an only child. However, I come from a family that enjoys doing lots together despite our small size. My mother and I are best friends and we have remained close since my childhood. I would love to create that type of bond with my own child and be there for them through the years. I have always believed that ‘the world is your oyster’ as that is what my grandfather would often say, and although it didn’t always make sense to me, it has become my ‘go to’ phrase. As a black male growing up in this current climate, I always felt like the world was against me and that I couldn’t accomplish my goals. I later learned to harness this fear and decided to turn that energy into motivation to truly follow my dreams despite what the world thinks. I have now achieved my career goals of becoming a nurse anesthetist and earning my doctoral degree. I also purchased my first home, have two great mini schnauzers who love to play with children and have traveled the world while making some very amazing friends. The only thing that I feel is missing is a child to love. I long to be a father and want to be able to instill all that I have learned and accomplished into another human being.
I am embarking on this journey in hopes of becoming a single father. The universe has not blessed me with a significant other yet, and since time is not standing still for any of us, I have decided that now is the time to create my own family. I have the support of my mother and stepfather who are both school nurses. They have reached the end of their careers and are both ready to retire and be available for childcare duties and frequent visits to spend time with their new grand child. My close-knit but small group of friends is just as eager to meet your baby as I am and there are so many godmothers and ‘aunts’ in the making. Your child has so many people who want to shower them with so much love and affection. There will be many family vacations and many visits to the beach as the water is one of my favorite things.
When I am not working I often plan weekend getaways to the beach or to go do some other outdoor activity. I love snorkeling, hiking, river tubing, zip-lining and kayaking; really anything outdoors to get the blood flowing. I believe that a good work and play balance is needed so I fully take advantage of my time off and so will your baby. I will expose them to new sights, new smells, new tastes and new memories. I will be their guide as we both explore this world together.
One of my hobbies beyond travel and leisure has become cooking. I believe that the kitchen is the true center of the household, and because my mother wasn't a big cook growing up, cooking has become one of my conscious goals. Your child will learn how to cook with me over the years and will always have fresh and healthy meals prepared. I will make healthy eating a practice early on as I explore your baby’s tastes, likes and dis-likes, and I will expose many cultures of foods as well. Although healthy eating is important baking is one of my new pastimes and I love to make cupcakes specifically! I envision days where the two of us will explore different frosting medleys to put together for holidays and school events.
I believe in creating tradition and the holidays have always been a special time of year for my family. Recently I have begun a new tradition in my new home of an annual Tree Trim. At this event my family and friends come over and we decorate the Christmas tree together. It is also a potluck so we all get to try each other’s favorite dishes. This is a great time when all of the children of the family can come together as well and it helps everyone get into the Christmas spirit. I look forward to many Christmas memories with the baby and all of the new cousins and friends they will have to share the holidays with!
I purchased my first home a few years ago and it has been great getting settled in. It is a new home in a new development that has many playgrounds and walking trails, as well as an amphitheater and two pools. There will be many walks on the trails and visits to the playground with your baby as well as swim lessons so that they will be comfortable around the water. The neighborhood is very safe and there are many families and children of all ages. We are close to a zoo and a few local parks as well so there will be plenty to do in the area. I really enjoy living in my home and in this neighborhood and have to pinch myself sometimes because it feels like a dream. I can’t wait to be able to share this with your baby and to create so many memories in what will be OUR house.
My promise to you:
• I will adore and cherish every moment and love your baby unconditionally for the rest of my life.
• I will dedicate my life to ensuring that your child has more opportunities than I did and to expose them to all that I can.
• I will teach your child to dream big and encourage them to follow their dreams and passions.
• I promise to provide a happy home, with home cooked meals, filled with laughter, lots of hugs, story time, movie nights, homework help, frequent trips to Disney World, travel and adventure...but most of all LOVE!