Dear Expectant Parent:
Thank you for giving us the opportunity to introduce ourselves. We are Lucas and Caly, a married couple who have been married for over eight years and parents to our two-year-old daughter, Sophia. Our family was made possible because of a strong, selfless woman like you. During Sophia’s adoption process, we grew close to her birthmother and traveled to doctor’s appointments and bonded with her other children. We were there for the ultrasound and were in the waiting room for the delivery. The adoption process was extremely rewarding because we gained our beautiful daughter, but it was also emotionally difficult to balance our joy and excitement with the heartbreak we felt for what Sophia’s birthmother was going through. Everyone’s journey is different, and we respected and continue to respect the wants and needs of Sophia’s birthmother. We share pictures of Sophia with her and she sends pictures of her other kids, Sophia’s half siblings. We are completely open with Sophia about the story of her adoption and the difficult, selfless choice that her birthmother made to bring her into our lives.
We acknowledge and appreciate your selfless love in making the difficult decision to find a stable and loving home for your baby and we would welcome your baby into our home with open and loving arms and a big sister that asks every day to be a big sister. We live in a smaller town in the Midwest with strong family values and a focus on faith and community. We will raise your child in a loving home, with the support of friends and a large extended family. We will make sure that our children are raised with a strong spiritual influence, one that is demonstrated through our own lives.
We know that the most important thing to you is that your baby will be loved and that your sacrifice will be honored. To best understand how we will make this happen, we feel it is important for you to know more about us. We met thirteen years ago in college, where Caly was en route to a perfect GPA while Lucas balanced schoolwork and a busy baseball schedule. We became friends quickly after our first meeting and started dating two years later. After college, we married and have lived happily together ever since. Our lives now are centered around our daughter. We enjoy weekly dinners with family, various activities with close friends, and of course, lots of family time making memories with Sophia. We also enjoy watching baseball together and going for family walks.
Early on in our relationship we knew that we wanted to have a family. Once we were married for almost two years, we began to try to make our dream come true. After over three years of struggling to get pregnant and finding out that we were medically unable to have children, we decided to explore alternative options. We decided that adoption was the right choice for us, and we were blessed with our amazing daughter. So, when we decided we were ready to grow our family again, we knew adoption was the right choice.
Another reason adoption appeals so highly to us is because of Caly’s childhood. Caly’s parents divorced when she was very young and her mother remarried when she was four. Caly considers her step-father as her father and her half and step siblings her brother and sisters. Her family never differentiated with the titles of “step” or “half” and everyone grew together as one tight-knit family. Caly’s father walked her down the aisle at her wedding and he has been the best “Biba” to Sophia and her cousins.
From these experiences, we believe that family is not determined by the blood running through your veins; rather, it is based upon those who love and care for you the most. We firmly believe that we will provide your baby with the highest quality life that a mother could hope for her baby.
We are very excited for the opportunity to welcome a new baby into our family through adoption! We hope we are the answer to your prayers and our dreams will be fulfilled should you decide to place your child in our family.
Lucas & Caly