Q: Tell us about your home and neighborhood.
A: We live in a high-rise owned by the company Matthew works for. We have been in this area for 3 years and we love it! There are plenty of activities that take place, such as street fairs, marathons, movies in the park, free concerts, etc. We are a short ride or walk to the Aquarium, museums and the planetarium. Even though we are close to the heart of the city, where we live does not feel as crowded. We are close to a few parks and within a minute walk/drive from Target and a short drive from multiple grocery stores.
Q: When you have a 3-day weekend, what do you like to do?
A: We are very much “home bodies” and when we are blessed with a 3-day weekend we would normally spend at least one of those days knocking out the household work so we can enjoy the rest of our time. Sleeping in, catching up on TV shows, playing games, and hanging out with our sister and brother-in-law. We love to go to the movies and in the summer go on long walks through the city exploring.
Q: Do you have pets? If so tell us about them?
A: We have 3 pets. Oreo, an 8-year-old Shih Tzu, is a calm and docile support animal and loves to sleep all day, help anyone smile and cuddle up on the couch. Lucky, an 8-year-old Black Lab/Border Collie mix is a very playful and loving animal. He wants nothing more than to give you kisses and greet you at the door with a toy every day. Cooper, a 5-year-old Yellow Lab/Husky mix is a very sweet and gentle dog. He is nervous and jumpy at loud and unknown noises. He is the biggest cuddle dog of them all (even when there is no space). Even though Lucky and Cooper are not from the same litter, you would think they were born together. They are attached at the hip in everything that they do.
Q: What do you hope to teach your children?
A: We hope to teach our child what we have learned over a long, sometimes difficult period of time. That everyone is deserving of love and kindness and to try to reserve judgement. It's important to be accepting and supportive of those that society might look down upon and to always do their best to stand up for the underdog.
Q: What will you tell your child about his or her birth mom?
A: We hope that our child will grow up knowing who their birth mom is and will grow to understand why the decision was made. If there is a disconnect between us and the birth mom, we will do our best to convey the level of love that she must have had for our child to afford them that chance at a life she did not feel she could give.
Q: Are you active in your church?
A: We are not currently active in a church. Matt grew up Southern Baptist and Kevin grew up Catholic. While we lived in Missouri we attended a Methodist church every once in a while. We definitely hold dear the teachings that we learned growing up in the church and we both made strong connections and relationships with our church families. We definitely pull from our religious upbringings when we think about our morals and actions toward others. We want to make sure our child is exposed to that same level of love, trust and devotion, but by no means do we want to force them to grow up under the impression that they do not have a choice.
Q: How will a child enrich your life?
A: We have been blessed with so much and worked very hard for so much more. We have a lot of love to give and we are ready to start building a family and starting this next exciting chapter of our lives. We feel that a child will only enhance the love we share for each other and teach us how to be better husbands to each other as we learn what it means to be a father to and share love to our child. We feel like our child will have so much to teach us while we try to teach them.
Q: Describe your last vacation and/or daytrip.
A: A majority of our trips are to Missouri to see our family. Other than my sister and her husband, the remainder of our close family is less than a work day's drive away. The last time we went was in December for Christmas vacation. We spent 4 of our 6 days at different family Christmas dinners and a couple of days to ourselves to relax, eat at our favorite restaurants, see friends, etc. The last big vacation we took was to Europe and it was amazing.
Q: Will you be a stay-at-home parent? If so, what are your day-to-day plans?
A: For the first few years Kevin will be a stay-at-home dad and will be primarily learning his new role as a father. Matt will take some time off at the beginning but ultimately returning to work.
Q: When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?
A: Wow. What is there to possibly say? In that moment I think I can speak for both of us by saying, there would be no words. For two men there are not a lot of safe, reliable and successful ways for us to become parents, and this mother just did that for us. In that moment we would be so grateful, full of joy, nervous and emotional. We would not be able to express our gratitude in any way more than promising to give her child a wonderful life and hopeful she will continue to be a part of that, in some capacity.