We are Brett and Jeremy and we are so grateful for the
opportunity to share more about ourselves with you. Before we do, however, we want
to start out by being completely honest: it’s hard to write a letter to someone
we’ve never met, not to mention about something so emotional. Without any
doubt, however, it’s even harder to be reading this letter while making a
decision with unbelievable complexity. While we may not yet know each other, we
want to reassure you right out of the gate that we’re with you on this journey.
What we do know is that you have surely thought long and
hard about this adoption decision and we want you to know that we have as well.
Long before we even met, we both knew that we wanted to have a family of our
own. In fact, it was one of our “relationship deal breakers” if the other didn’t
someday see himself as being a father. After dating for six years and now
married for nearly two, we know with everything we are that adoption is the
right path for us to grow our family and become dads.
Speaking of family, we both grew up in the suburbs,
unknowingly living about 30 minutes away from one another. Life happened to
allow our paths to cross at the right time when we finally met in graduate
school and were married 6 years later. We’re grateful to be both geographically
nearby as well as have close relationships with both of our families and
absolutely love any time we get to be with our five nieces and nephews.
We are quirky, adventurous, outdoorsy, and cultural. We both
love being on the go and one of our biggest strengths is that we want the same things
out of our life: enjoy time with each other, enjoy time with our friends &
family, to see the world, and most importantly to have a family of our own. In fact,
this shared view of life, along with a similar sense of humor and common
interests, are what initially attracted us to each other. We surely do have our
differences though! Jeremy tends to be more emotionally driven and Brett tends
to be more analytical; Jeremy has more of any eye for design while Brett is the
handyman; Jeremy is a planner, but is always running late and Brett is a bit
more spontaneous and always early (this last one is bizarre, we know!).
If you made it this far reading our profile, we want to
sincerely thank you for taking a few minutes to get to know us. We are so much
more than we could ever fit into a single letter, and we know that your
decision is far more difficult than we can ever comprehend. We want you to know
that we’ll be open with your child about their adoption. We’ll immerse them in
diversity, provide them with experiences and opportunities, and give them the
best life we can offer.
We look forward to meeting you, letting you get to know us a
bit better, and being part of this journey together.
Jeremy & Brett