Q: Tell us about your home and neighborhood.
A: We currently live in a three-bedroom, cape-cod that was built by Abby’s grandparents and was home to their adopted son, Abby’s father. We renovated this home being sure to keep the charm and mementos of family and love. In fact, our television sits on the hope chest that stores Abby’s grandmother’s wedding dress. Our neighborhood is filled with the pleasantries of a small home town. Basketball courts, parks and ice cream parlors are within in walking distance. Our local coffee shop serves our favorite breakfast sandwiches and coffee- Black dark roast for Evan and Apple Crumb Cake with Cream for Abby.
Q: When you have a 3-day weekend, what you like to do?
A: Our long weekend activities vary. Sometimes we enjoy simply spending time at home having movie nights, listening to music, and snuggling with our awesome lap dogs (Lenny and Oscar). Often, we will have a game night with our parents and/or friends. We will also get together with our siblings in order to spend time with our nieces and nephews.
Q: Do you have pets? If so, tell us about them.
A: We have two ten-year old Bichon-Shih Tzu dogs, Lenny and Oscar. They are brothers from the same litter. Lenny is all white with a pink nose and Oscar is black and white with an old man’s beard. They love snuggles, green beans, bacon and people, especially kids. The shorter the human, the closer they are to food! When our nieces and nephews call to face time, the first question they ask is “Can we see the puppies?”. Same principle applies if we are visiting- it is always expected that our pups are coming along too. We have loved being dog parents for the past 10 years.
Q: What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?
A: We hope to teach our children that they are loved -loved by us, God, and our families. We want to teach them how kindness matters and forgiveness should be quick. We hope to teach them that manners and respect are significant.
Q: What will you tell your child about his or her birthmom?
A: We don’t yet know who she is but we do hope we can learn about her strength and her heart so that we can share what we know with our child. We hope to share the path that led her to us.
Q: Are you active in your church? Tell us about your activities.
A: Our Sunday morning routine is attending Catholic Mass with Abby’s family, at the parish where Abby grew up. Our parish is two minutes from our home. We plan on baptizing your baby Catholic and raising them in the Catholic faith. It is very important to us both that your child have an intimate relationship with God. We feel it is our job to help encourage and develop this faith.
Q: How will a child enrich your life?
A: We both know we are called to be parents, to raise a child and to love a child. We both feel we have too much love to share to let it begin in and end with each other. So how would a child enrich our life? They would literally be enriching every component of who we are- as individuals, as a couple and as a family.
Q: Describe your last vacation and/or daytrip.
A: Sometimes we divide and conquer! Last weekend Evan wanted to camp in the woods so he had a weekend away with the guys. And Abby spent the weekend with college roommates doing fall activities and playing with babies! But together, we went on our summer vacation to the beach with Abby’s family. We rented a 10-bedroom beach house two blocks from the beach. The house was filled with kids of all ages, a pool, puzzles, dance parties, and fun.
Q: Will you be a stay-at-home parent? If so, what are your day-to-day plans?
A: We do not currently plan on being stay at home parents, but this is something that we do talk about. If we did change our minds about a stay at home parent- we envision Evan being the stay at home father.
Q: Will you be returning to work? If so, describe your day-care plans.
A: As a pediatric nurse, Abby works 4 days a week and some various shifts. Evan works 5 days a week 7:30am to 4pm. We plan on the baby being in daycare for 3-4 days/week depending on Abby’s schedule. We continue to discuss if daycare will be in-home or at a corporation.
Q: When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?
A: Evan: “The amount of love and strength that goes into this decision.”
Abby: “Grateful-from the depths of my soul- 100% grateful.”