Dear Expectant Mother:
You’ve found us. Thank you. Thank you so much. We’ve been
thinking about you every day as we’ve been reading, reflecting, writing, and
making room in our hearts and our home for your baby, the baby you made and
will give birth to, the one we will raise, the one we all love. We’ve wondered
who you are, where you are, and how you came to find us. We can’t say we
understand what you’re going through, the tough decisions you’ve faced already,
and the tough decisions you’ve yet to make. We promise to honor your sacrifice
by providing for your child with more love than we even know now to be
possible. We want to make you proud. We’ve been feeling joy, fear, and
everything in between as we wait to be found.
When we learned we couldn’t have children, we leaned into each
other, and the opportunities in being married without children. Leah recently
had to overcome an autoimmune disease and her improved health brought with it a
better quality of life than we thought possible. When we were completely honest
with ourselves and each other, we realized that while our lives were full, we
were not fulfilled. It was easy to see that there is love in our hearts enough
for one more, and together we embarked on our adoption journey.
We promise to love your child fiercely, with hearts free
of judgment over any of our paths that led all of us to this adoption. We have
been making room for you, too. We are open to having an open adoption, if you
think you want it, or if you think you might want it in the future. We’re not
asking you to give more of yourself than you can, just know that as you are
able, we welcome you to be a part of your child’s life to help ease the pain of
adoption in the ways we cannot. We are grateful to you for the opportunity to
build a family. The trust you are putting in us is unimaginable but we would
like to spend our lives proving we’re worthy of it.
We will raise your child surrounded by family, music, books,
and laughter. We will continue family traditions such as listening to Leon
Redbone sing “Christmas Island” while opening presents on Christmas Eve and
finding plastic eggs that Roofus, the mischievous Easter Bunny, hides in the
most obvious places. We’ll start some new ones of our own like praying for you
each night and celebrating your child’s birthday in a way that dignifies their
adoption. The child at the center of this adoption will be celebrated. Because
you are a part of that child, you will be celebrated, too.
The peace of mind that comes from knowing the baby you bring
into this world will be cared for is all we can offer you. It would be the
honor of our lives to be parents to your child.
Brad & Leah