Dear Expectant Mother,
The amount of love, courage and selflessness you have in
considering adoption for your child is beyond our comprehension. We know every
mother wants the best for her child and cannot begin to imagine the difficulty
of your decision in determining what’s best for yours.
We chose to grow our family through adoption because
Michelle was diagnosed with infertility. We both wanted children from a very
young age and even considered adoption before knowing Michelle’s diagnosis. We
started exploring adoption in the summer of 2016 and in February of 2018 we
were given the most amazing gift we could have ever received, our first child,
Maylin. Words cannot describe the feeling of gratitude, love and admiration we
have towards Maylin’s tummy mommy, Alicia.
When we say we love Alicia, we mean it with all of our
hearts. Alicia protected and kept Maylin healthy for nine months. She put
Maylin’s interests ahead of her own, and lovingly and bravely came to the
determination that adoption was what was best for Maylin. We promised Alicia
with tears running down our faces that we would love and protect Maylin, and we
strive to live up to that promise each and every day. We tell Maylin all the
time how much Alicia loves her and we will do so the rest of our lives. We
share pictures of Maylin with Alicia on a regular basis and every now and then
hear from Alicia by text. We are always excited to hear from her.
We understand the relationship we will have with you may be
different, as we want to respect your personal preferences and privacy
throughout the adoption journey. The reason we share our experience with Alicia
is that we are certain the gratitude, love and admiration we have for Alicia
will be just as strong with you. We plan to share the story of how our family
came to be with your child from the very start. You will be a key figure in our
story, and we will ensure that your child knows that you are an incredibly
strong woman who made the brave and tremendously difficult decision of adoption
because of your unconditional love for them.
Life as parents has been an absolute thrill for us these
last couple years. While we’ve been married for over six years and known each
other for over eleven, we feel like the adventure has just begun. The love, joy
and happiness Maylin brings to our family is indescribable and we can’t think
of anything better than to add another bundle of joy to our family. We are
certain Maylin will make a wonderful big sister and cannot wait to watch a
lifelong friendship form between her and her new brother or sister.
We are looking forward to the happiness and love that only a
child can bring. We can’t wait to include our second child in the new family
traditions we’ve started, like going to the zoo, trips to meet Santa Claus,
dying Easter eggs and carving pumpkins, while also continuing older traditions
like golfing, annual extended family vacations to the beach and mountains and
being with family for the holidays.
Everything we do will be for the betterment of your child,
making them the center of our lives. We feel very fortunate in how we were
raised, and hope to provide everything and more that was provided to us by our
parents to your child. We have started this process already by buying a home in
a kid-friendly neighborhood with lots of room to play and access to great
schools. We will emphasize education, honesty and respect for others, but
outside of these values we will support your child in whatever their dreams
Family and friends are such an important part of our lives,
and they will be involved in your child’s life as much as possible. Both of our
sets of parents are very active grandparents and we are incredibly blessed to
spend as much time as we do with them. Your child would be loved by three
great-grandparents, four grandparents, three uncles, one aunt and many close
family friends. We know they are all extremely excited to welcome a new family
member and have so much love to give them.
We want to let you know we understand the extra
responsibility of raising children in a multi-racial / cultural family. Maylin
is Hispanic, and our hearts are more than open to raising another child of
racial or ethnic diversity – whether that be Black, Hispanic, or any other race.
We understand the importance of promoting diversity and celebrating culture in
our household, seeking out role models that look like your child, and making
sure your child’s day-to-day environment and education is diverse, inclusive
and safe. We also recognize that the world needs a lot of change. We are
committed to learning and helping drive change while doing our best to protect
your child from those who do not believe in equality and justice for all.
The most important thing that we want you to know is that
your child will be loved unconditionally and will always be our top priority.
Thank you for taking the time to learn more about us, and we look forward to
getting to know you!
Michelle and John