Q: Tell us about your home and neighborhood.
A: We live in a delightful, safe, and friendly neighborhood where we know most of our neighbors and their dogs by name. We can walk to the library, local elementary school, parks, and lakes, the best ice cream in town, and our favorite children’s bookstore. Our home is a modest bungalow, which has recently become the only plum-colored house on the block. Anna planted rain gardens and strawberry gardens around the perimeter, which attract butterflies and birds throughout the year. Three years ago, David built a patio in our backyard, on which we enjoy breakfast and summer gatherings of family and friends.
Q: When you have a 3-day weekend, what you like to do?
A: When we have a three-day weekend, we like to gather with our family and friends and/or travel in several combinations. When possible, we travel to see our family and friends that are out of town, whether to a reunion at a lake or farm, or recently to see our niece play in her high school marching band. When we travel by ourselves, we delight in hiking in State Parks, exploring small towns, and wandering around art museums in big cities. A long weekend at home means inviting our family and friends over for ravioli-making parties, cousin catch-ups, or holiday celebrations.
Q: Do you have pets? If so, tell us about them.
A: We share our home with our small, sweet dog, Rufus. Rufus is a middle-age rescue dog who spends his days sleeping on laps, sleeping in the sun, and looking forward to mealtime.
Q: What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?
A: First and most importantly, we want to teach them love and respect for themselves and for the whole diversity of human expression and identity. Beyond that, we want to teach them to be engaged members of society: developing emotional intelligence, financial competence, and critical thinking. We want to introduce them to things that are most precious to us: love of the outdoors, music, cooking, our family, and being part of a faith community.
Q: What will you tell your child about his or her birthmom?
A: With your guidance, our child will know their birth mother from the beginning. They will know her name as they know the names of their grandmothers, cousins, and aunts. They will know that she loved them enough to want a better life for them than she could provide herself. We will let them know that their birth mother loves them and always will.
Q: Are you active in your church? Tell us about your activities.
A: We are Episcopalians – Christians with a liberal social theology, and both of us are employed by the church. Anna is a priest at our Episcopal cathedral, where she serves as Director of Family Ministries. In this role, she leads worship, preaches, and focuses on guiding the faith lives of parents with children and teenagers at home. David is an active member of the Cathedral, singing in the tenor section of the choir. He is also Director of Music for an evening worship service at another nearby church. We rely on the support, community, and spiritual reflection that our churches provide us.
Q: How will a child enrich your life?
A: We look forward to seeing the world through a child’s eyes, and re-experiencing wonder and surprise. A child will also compel us to question our assumptions, and become more aware of our words, our actions, and our beliefs.
Q: Will you be a stay-at-home parent? If so, what are your day-to-day plans?
A: We have created a life of part-time self-employment and part-time traditional employment that gives us a lot of flexibility of schedule. When we adopt, Anna will take as long a maternity leave as possible and then reduce her hours to be a part-time stay-at-home parent. David will not reduce his hours, but change his schedule to provide some of the other care. Anna’s parents are also excited to be the other primary part-time caregivers when we are unable to do so.
Q: What are some traditions that you will share with your child?
A: Our most important daily tradition is eating our meals together. We believe mealtimes are important shared events; opportunities for the family to strengthen its bonds of understanding and mutual commitment. We sing a blessing before each meal, as David’s family did during his childhood. We also gather with Anna’s large family several times a year, notably for Thanksgiving and the Fourth of July. Water sports, Pickleball, board games and heaps of food – these multi-generational gatherings keep us current with the events of her relatives’ lives at a slow and easy pace. Who knows what new traditions, large and small, that a child will help bring to our lives!
Q: What languages do you speak?
A: Anna speaks Chinese (Mandarin) and spent a year studying and working in China. She always had a strong interest in visiting and learning about the country from which her grandmother immigrated.