As parents, all we really want is to do the
best we can for our children. I do not know what has brought you here today and
I can only imagine how difficult this decision will be for you to make. What I
can do is to promise you, that I will raise your child in a home full of love,
provide them with support, and give them every opportunity to become the
amazing person you dream them to be. I promise that you will be honored,
cherished, and celebrated each day of your child’s life.
I haven’t just always wanted kids, I have
always wanted to adopt. My career and the financial stability that it provides
will allow me to provide and encourage your child in whatever their interests
may become. My sister was adopted when she was a baby and we have always
celebrated that special day when she became a part of our family. It’s a family
holiday that we call “Happy Day,” and even though it’s been quite a few years
since she joined our family we still have “Happy Day” celebrations. My sister
is so excited to have someone who will have a “Happy Day” celebration and she
can relate with them about being adopted. I can’t wait to carry on this family
tradition and my parents are so excited to welcome your child into our family
that they are already buying presents. They even have a swing set in the
backyard just waiting for the day your child is big enough to play on it.
My family and friends are truly a blessing.
When I told my parents about my plans to adopt, my mom literally screamed with
glee and began planning for the baby’s arrival. She has even started to cross
stitch a Christmas stocking to go along with the rest of the family. My dad is
eagerly waiting, and calling me daily for updates. My sister Amanda and her
husband Jeff are the aunt and uncle you wanted as a kid. They are loving and
fun and their positive energy pulls everyone in. Their two daughters, my
nieces, exemplify sweetness. The oldest is only three, but she Facetimes me at
least once a week for a “Baby Shark” or “Frozen” dance party.
From growing up as a missionary kid overseas
and my travels, I have developed a large group of friends who I hesitate to
call friends because they are more like a family. Your child is going to
experience so much love and so many new cultures thanks to Aunt Michele and
Uncle Ronnie in the Netherlands, Aunt Priscilla and Uncle Preben in Norway,
Aunt Lacy in Australia, Uncle Carlos in Spain, Aunt Amanda and Uncle Sadra in
Ireland, or Uncle Sabo in Niger. There will be no shortage of people to love on
your baby. The community where I live and my network of friends is very diverse
and will provide your child with many opportunities to see other children and
families that look like them. I will include aspects of your child’s culture
into our household so that they know who they are and where they come from.
While I do not know what culture this will be yet, I am excited about learning
about your culture alongside your child and exploring our community with them.
I babysat my three-year-old niece for two and a
half weeks this past winter. In the afternoons she would want to have a dance
party (I was told that I’m Anna because she has to be Elsa) and we would bust
out our best moves for as long as she wanted to go. In the evening she would
grab a book and bring it to me to read, but she always wanted me to tell her
stories that involved her as a princess with a pet unicorn. When she went home
I sat in my living room, experiencing the sound of silence for the first time
in weeks and all I could think of is that I wanted a child of my own.
There will be no shortage of books being read
to your child, and I can’t wait until they are old enough to have them read
along. I will encourage them to pursue their passions and interests. If they
want to play soccer, then I will happily drive them to each practice and I will
stand on the sideline cheering loudly at every game. If they want to take dance
lessons, art classes, or music classes, I will be there to support them through
all of it, even if that means I have to listen to weeks of “Row, Row, Row Your
Boat” being played on an out of tune clarinet.
Currently, I am a tenured professor at a
university. A career as a professor allows me to engage my hobbies of reading
and writing daily. I always explain my choice of careers as I took my hobbies
and zest for life and found the one thing that lets me do all of it. I love
what I do and the students I have trained have gone on to make big, positive
impacts on their communities. I am lucky enough to have a career and an
employer that allows me a great deal of flexibility that will allow me to
schedule my life around my child’s. During the summer, the freedom of three
months paid vacation allows me and my children to spend time with their
cousins, aunt and uncle, and grandparents. An added bonus is that I teach in a
university where children are celebrated. It is not unusual to see children of
faculty members running down the hall, ducking into everyone’s offices to say
hello and search out who has the best candy and toys.
I really love my life and can’t wait to be a
father to your child, to love and care for them and provide them with a
wonderful childhood as my parents did for me, and yes, to spoil a little as was