As we write this, we can’t help but wonder how you’re feeling…where
you’re sitting as you read this and the thoughts fighting for your attention.
So, first things first, take a deep breath. Now, take another one but this
time, for real. Slow down for a moment, you have time. You don’t have to rush.
You don’t have to have all the answers today. You’re doing a good job.
We are writing this letter, likely months before you’re reading
this. We are cozied up on a rainy Sunday, thinking of you (whomever you may be)
and feeling hopeful about creating a family. Our rescue dog, Ranger, is snoring
by our feet. You may wonder what led us to write this letter on a Sunday
afternoon or want to know more about us, so here’s our best shot. Here is our
story in a few paragraphs.
We are Josh and Brennan. Eighteen years ago, we were two kids
who met in a small, southern town, at an even smaller, southern college and
fell in love.
Neither one of us can remember where we went nor what we talked
about on our first date but soon enough, we fell in love. Six months after our
first date, we were engaged. Another 6 months after that, we were married. On
our wedding day, I was 19, Josh was 21 and everyone thought we were crazy. We
were just kids in love. We felt fearless in taking on the world and dropped out
of college without thinking twice, moved to a new city near Josh’s family and
started building our life together. We tell you this because the beginning
of our story together, made us who we are. Dropping out of school and getting
married so young wasn’t the easiest path but it bonded us. We worked nights, we
made sacrifices, we pinched pennies and we “grew up” together. We are so
grateful and proud of the partnership we’ve built.
Brennan: Josh can be quiet when you first meet him but
when you get to know him, he is playful and kind. He is beyond patient and a
bit of a renaissance man, self-taught at most things. After we got married, he
worked the night shift in a mail room and put himself through college courses
during the day. He loves all things science and reads about quantum mechanics
nearly every night before he goes to asleep. He loves to be outside hiking,
mountain biking or taking pictures. He has a wood shop downstairs and is a
self-taught woodworker. He is my best friend and biggest supporter.
Josh: Brennan is a force of nature. She has this
unbelievable raw talent that allows her to be successful in anything she does.
She’s incredibly strong but is also empathetic. This empathy is what lets her
see a need and her strength is what drives her to action. This is evident in
the work that she does within our community, volunteering with non-profits like
the Ronald McDonald house and Habitat for Humanity. Ever the champion of
those who can’t always fight for themselves, she has been a role model to me
and I have to say, I am a better human because of her.
We always knew we wanted to take our time before having a
family. We focused on building our careers, living life and growing up. We
traveled the world with our jobs and on vacation, from India to Russia, Denmark
to Scotland, France to Monaco and more. When it came time to making a family,
it wasn’t as easy as we thought it would be. We’ve lost more than a few
pregnancies and gone through more fertility treatments than I can count. We
survived those heartbreaks by relying on each other. As time went on, we
decided it was time to find another way. Brennan’s extended family has been
made, in part, through adoption so it was always on our minds. Her aunt was
adopted 50+ years ago and two of Brennan’s sisters have adopted a total of 3
girls. All this, brought us to you.
Our families are so supportive and can’t wait for us to build
our family. Josh’s wonderful parents live nearby on a lake and are already
ready to babysit. His 3 younger siblings live nearby, ready to be aunts and
uncles. Brennan’s parents live an airplane ride away but I have no doubt they
will be here often. Her 3 older sisters have 10 kids between them, 3 of which
are adopted. There is 1 more baby on the way so our future child would have
lots of cousin playmates and even 3 baby cousins who could share their adoption
experiences. Our families are full of traditions; the big traditions of doing
family skits on Christmas Eve and vacationing together over the 4th of July
to the small ones of eating dinner together every night and making cookies
There is so much more to tell you but this is a good start.
Thank you, whoever and wherever you are. We think you’re brave and would love
to meet you.
Josh & Brennan