Ask The Adoption Coach: Celebrating an Adoption

Reader: I’m in the process of adopting my cousin whom I have had since he was 3 and is now 7. Next week if all goes as planned I will be adopting him. I told his teacher that I could come in and bring a treat to celebrate his “name change” do you have any ideas on how I can explain all of the adoption process to 6 and 7-year-olds?Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:What an exciting time for you and your cousin (soon-to-be son)!First, I would consider if the name change/adoption party is something that wo...

Ask The Adoption Coach: Starting School and Disclosing Adoption

Reader: With school getting ready to start, should I tell my child’s teacher that my child was adopted?Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:This is a question I’ve had myself a few years ago when one of my children started preschool, and I believe it’s a very common concern among adoptive parents.My friends who are fellow adoptive parents as well as some of my friends who are teachers, have varying opinions. Some parents feel that their child being adopted is a non-issue and doesn’t need to be disclosed t...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Addressing Adopted Son’s Questions

Reader: I’m starting to get lots of questions from my son, just in our evening conversation. I want to answer everything right, not answer more than he asks, and make it feel natural—but it breaks my heart. Are there wrong or right answers, or things to stay away from?Adoption Coach: Dear Reader:Thank you for question and your honesty. You didn’t mention how old your son is or the circumstances of his adoption, but I can offer you some tips to help guide you.First, I think keeping your chil...

Adoption Reunion: A Success Story

From adoption, to adoption reunion to adopting—this is my story.I was born October 15th, 1979 to a young mother of 20 years old. She was living a life she wanted me to be raised in. With only three options (abortion, adoption, or parenting), she chose adoption. Both our lives would be forever changed with that decision. She held me for a couple hours. She looked over, inspected, and memorized every little part of wrinkled skin on my new little body. She took in all of my sights and sounds, placi...

Adoption Story: Dylan, My Gift

Dear Dylan,This is your adoption story and how you joined our family.Your adoption storyOn one sunny morning, Stephanie, your “tummy mommy,” found out she was going to have a baby. That baby was you. She knew she loved you so much that she wanted you to have a better life than she could give. She had decided to choose adoption. She was scared, but knew it was the best choice for you.Stephanie worked for your dad, Ira. One day while at work, Stephanie was talking to him about how she had chosen a...