Adoption Name Change: Factors to Consider

A common question among prospective adoptive parents revolves around a name change. Should the adopted child’s name be changed? Modified? Or should it remain the same with the exception of the last name? Factors to consider when making a name change in adoption: 1. Safety There are many factors to consider when making a naming decision. One important condition includes safety. Is a name change a matter of protecting the child and the family’s privacy? This factor most ofte...

How do I Adopt? Where do I start?

Adoption is a complex topic, but it shouldn’t be overwhelming if you arm yourself with knowledge about the process and how to adopt, and the right adoption professional.Growing your family with adoption is a big undertaking. This is a chance to experience parenthood in a unique way, and start a family, maybe for the first time. But there are very real risks with adoption, and not just the financial ones. The better prepared you are for the pitfalls, the better you’ll feel about starting your ado...

Competition in the Adoption Community

Sometimes I feel like there is this underlying force in the adoption community. I hate that it is there. I do all I can to fight it. I do all I can to stay as far away from it as possible…but sometimes, it’s just there.I don’t know when, why, or how competition snuck it’s ugly little head into the adoption world, but it did. Maybe it’s because of social media? The need to have more “likes” than the next page, more comments on your blog post, an amount of page views you can brag about? Who k...

Creating a Village: How You Can Start an Adoption Support Group

Five years ago, I was struggling to find my footing as a new, adoptive mother. My husband and I had just adopted our first child, and I was desperate to find support beyond just the adoption books and blogs I had been reading. I craved face-to-face interaction with women who understood what it is like to constantly be asked, “Is she your real child?” and “How much does adoption cost?” and “Why didn’t you have your own kids?”My search to find an existing support group didn’t yield what...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Working with Multiple Agencies

Reader: Do most people work with multiple agencies at the the same time?Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Thank you for your question. You asked if “most” people work with multiple agencies at once. And the answer is that there really isn’t much data to verify an answer.First, some agencies do not allow prospective adoptive parents (PAPs) to use more than one agency. However, if it is allowed, the issue many run into is that doing so can be costly. Most agencies have application fees, their own require...