Adoption Story: Worth The Wait

I remember the day of our failed adoption opportunity so well – not just because of the emotional toll but because there was an ice storm in Texas. My husband, Drew, and I had flown to Texas on high hopes. Our birth mother was ready to deliver a baby boy, and we were to check into a hotel and wait for her call after delivery. Up to this point, we had been in touch with the birth mother, and had been for months. She had three children already and this fourth would upset the dynamic, s...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Choosing an Agency

Reader: What would you say are the most important things to look for when deciding on an agency to work with? Do you prefer any over others?Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Thank you for your question. A common concern for those new to adoption is how to choose an agency. There are so many agencies to choose from, not to mention adoption attorneys and adoption consultants (or facilitators).Of course, cost is a main factor for many prospective adoptive parents (PAPs). In this area, you need to consider...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Coping With the Wait

Reader: How do you cope with the wait/search/disappointment?Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Your sentiments are felt by many prospective adoptive parents. Waiting for the news that you have been referred or chosen can be incredibly frustrating, confusing, disheartening, and anxiety-inducing.It’s important that prospective adoptive parents keep three main ideas in mind while waiting. First, do not allow anxiousness and impatience to interfere with common sense and sound judgment. It’s tempting to allo...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Bonding With Your Adopted Child

Reader: We have 3 biological children and adopted a girl from Ecuador a year ago. Bonding is going slowly. It’s going slower for me than I anticipated, but even worse for the kids. They argue a lot, keep track of others wrongs and annoying habits. They compare almost everything—who has more of this or that. Sometimes they are just plain mean. It goes in both directions, but mostly the bio kids to our new daughter. I have done a lot to make things as equal and “fair” as I can with all 4. I went e...