Competition in the Adoption Community

Sometimes I feel like there is this underlying force in the adoption community. I hate that it is there. I do all I can to fight it. I do all I can to stay as far away from it as possible…but sometimes, it’s just there.I don’t know when, why, or how competition snuck it’s ugly little head into the adoption world, but it did. Maybe it’s because of social media? The need to have more “likes” than the next page, more comments on your blog post, an amount of page views you can brag about? Who k...

Creating a Village: How You Can Start an Adoption Support Group

Five years ago, I was struggling to find my footing as a new, adoptive mother. My husband and I had just adopted our first child, and I was desperate to find support beyond just the adoption books and blogs I had been reading. I craved face-to-face interaction with women who understood what it is like to constantly be asked, “Is she your real child?” and “How much does adoption cost?” and “Why didn’t you have your own kids?”My search to find an existing support group didn’t yield what...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Working with Multiple Agencies

Reader: Do most people work with multiple agencies at the the same time?Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Thank you for your question. You asked if “most” people work with multiple agencies at once. And the answer is that there really isn’t much data to verify an answer.First, some agencies do not allow prospective adoptive parents (PAPs) to use more than one agency. However, if it is allowed, the issue many run into is that doing so can be costly. Most agencies have application fees, their own require...

Adoption Story: Worth The Wait

I remember the day of our failed adoption opportunity so well – not just because of the emotional toll but because there was an ice storm in Texas. My husband, Drew, and I had flown to Texas on high hopes. Our birth mother was ready to deliver a baby boy, and we were to check into a hotel and wait for her call after delivery. Up to this point, we had been in touch with the birth mother, and had been for months. She had three children already and this fourth would upset the dynamic, s...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Choosing an Agency

Reader: What would you say are the most important things to look for when deciding on an agency to work with? Do you prefer any over others?Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Thank you for your question. A common concern for those new to adoption is how to choose an agency. There are so many agencies to choose from, not to mention adoption attorneys and adoption consultants (or facilitators).Of course, cost is a main factor for many prospective adoptive parents (PAPs). In this area, you need to consider...