Ask the Adoption Coach: Approaching Your Child’s Birth Mother About Prenatal Exposure to Substances

Reader: My 9-yo child is having difficulties, ADD, anger issues. I’m all over it – seeing specialists, started therapy. I was told he tested positive for marijuana at birth, hence his being removed and, thank God, placed with me first as a foster and within a year, my namesake! He had an abnormal EEG today and has to go for an MRI. I’m “friends” with bio-Mom on FB (Facebook), and feel he deserves answers like was it only marijuana? How do I approach it? Do I approach it at all? This is my child’...

Something To Consider When Talking About Adoption: An Adoptive Parent's Perspective

Lost pregnancies, tracking cycles, scheduled sex, and injecting hormones strong enough to take down a race horse – it’s enough to make you want to… who knows… something terrible. Something unspeakable.  Well, I see you.  My four miscarriages make me one of you, and I have also spent many tearful nights supporting ladies like you who are struggling with infertility. I will not subject you to another round of hair-pats, or offer bizarre platitudes about things happening for a re...

Birth Father Involvement: One Birth Mother’s Struggle

A negative experience with the birth father isn’t uncommon.Like many other birth moms, I had a negative experience with the birth father. He acted like he didn’t care. He said one thing but did another. He was constantly telling me how much he loved me and his daughter, Josie. How badly he wanted to be her father. However, when it came down to co-pay, doctor visits and holding a job, he didn’t act upon any of it. The only good thing he did for me while I was pregnant was sign the...

My Daughter's Birth Father

Birth mother, Haley Kirkpatrick, shares her experience with the birth father, who wanted no involvement with the pregnancy or birth of their child.When I told the birth father that I was expecting, his first response was to try and deny that the child could be his. Even though he knew that our one sexual encounter was my first, ever. His second response was to not only suggest abortion, but tell me that it was the only option. There was no sympathy. No concern for my well-being or...

Should You Hire an Adoption Consultant?

The world of adoption can be a confusing one for hopeful Adoptive Parents. Adoption is a legal process, but the emotions (and finances) involved and the inability to control almost every aspect can make it terrifying. Who can you trust? When you decide to take that step, to commit to the process that will build your family, the idea of someone being there for you who knows the vocabulary and legalities and the ins and outs is very alluring! So what is an adoption consultant? Adopti...