Ask the Adoption Coach: Adopting a Friend's Baby

Reader: I have a question. We are considering adopting a friend’s baby who is currently in care. Social services are understandably concerned about the level of contact with the birth family as we both attend the same church and we would see them at least once a week which is far in excess of the recommended contact. Any advice? How do other friends and family support group members cope in this situation—we can’t be unique…Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:It sounds like your struggle is two-fold. For...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Substance Abuse and Adoption

Reader: I have a question about these kinds of scenarios. Are we as potential adoptive parents made aware of the fact that the birthmom continued to drink while pregnant? Is information like that made available or only if the birthmom is willing to divulge it? How can we know?Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Thank you for your questions. It seems that you are concerned about an expectant mother’s health, recreational drug choices, and if that information will or won’t be disclosed to you, as a prospec...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Approaching Your Child’s Birth Mother About Prenatal Exposure to Substances

Reader: My 9-yo child is having difficulties, ADD, anger issues. I’m all over it – seeing specialists, started therapy. I was told he tested positive for marijuana at birth, hence his being removed and, thank God, placed with me first as a foster and within a year, my namesake! He had an abnormal EEG today and has to go for an MRI. I’m “friends” with bio-Mom on FB (Facebook), and feel he deserves answers like was it only marijuana? How do I approach it? Do I approach it at all? This is my child’...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Cost of Adoption

Reader: Why is adoption so expensive? If the birth mother/parents have insurance, legal fees CANNOT make up that whole number?! Where does the rest go? Especially if it is an infant/newborn.Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Your question is common to those new to adoption. Why is adoption so expensive? First, take note that adopting from the foster care system is almost always cost-free to the adoptive parents, including completion of the home study, court costs, adoption professionals’ assistance, and...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Beginning Adoption

Reader: Hello everyone! My partner and I are looking to adopt and it’s a bit easy to get overwhelmed with all the information that comes your way once you start down this road. Would anyone be willing to share their experience/provide information on how their adoption went. We would also be particularly interested in how you were able to overcome the financial obstacles that come along with adoption. We both have college degrees with stable careers; however, we don’t have 20-30 thousand dollars...