Birth Family Contact in Open Adoption

We adopted and didn’t know anything about birth family contact.When we adopted our daughter 4 years ago, we really didn’t know anything about birth family contact in open adoption. We were informed by our adoption advisor that we would have a semi-open adoption. To them, this meant we would send pictures to our daughter’s birth mother every 3 months for the first year of her life. Then we would send pictures and an update letter once a year until our daughter turned 18. To be honest, I...

Your Child’s Adoption Story: Document Their Journey

Your child’s adoption story is importantAs an adult adoptee, I find myself wanting to hear my adoption story just one more time—although it is more like a million more times. Hearing it was simply never enough. I wanted to have something I could visually remember, or an experience that I could always look back on. I wanted to flip page after page and see how two people, once strangers, took a leap of faith to adopt me and became my heroes. They are my parents. I want to remember the day my paren...

My Birth Mother: An Adoptee’s Life

I hopped on a plane and went to Houston, Texas to see my birth mother the other day. We went shopping, and fussed over her two terriers, and sat around and watched old movies with my stepdad all weekend. At my request he made silver dollar pancakes for breakfast before driving me to the airport. They’re my favorite.These seemingly common family experiences aren’t common at all for me, actually. They’re miracles. I’m 37-years-old and I have parents for the first time in my life.My early years in...

Insensitive Adoption Questions Need Sensitive Response

Ever get inappropriate or insensitive adoption questions? See how one adoptive mom handles some real awkward questions from people unfamiliar with adoption.Take insensitive adoption questions with graceWhen you become an adoptive parent, there seem to be an endless amount of curious people. Most of them are harmless, just nosy and sometimes a little invasive. Some of their adoption questions are annoying and some of them I may be over sensitive too. However, what I have learned is to take each a...

My Daughter's Birth Father

Birth mother, Haley Kirkpatrick, shares her experience with the birth father, who wanted no involvement with the pregnancy or birth of their child.When I told the birth father that I was expecting, his first response was to try and deny that the child could be his. Even though he knew that our one sexual encounter was my first, ever. His second response was to not only suggest abortion, but tell me that it was the only option. There was no sympathy. No concern for my well-being or...