My Daughter's Birth Father

Birth mother, Haley Kirkpatrick, shares her experience with the birth father, who wanted no involvement with the pregnancy or birth of their child.When I told the birth father that I was expecting, his first response was to try and deny that the child could be his. Even though he knew that our one sexual encounter was my first, ever. His second response was to not only suggest abortion, but tell me that it was the only option. There was no sympathy. No concern for my well-being or...

Should You Hire an Adoption Consultant?

The world of adoption can be a confusing one for hopeful Adoptive Parents. Adoption is a legal process, but the emotions (and finances) involved and the inability to control almost every aspect can make it terrifying. Who can you trust? When you decide to take that step, to commit to the process that will build your family, the idea of someone being there for you who knows the vocabulary and legalities and the ins and outs is very alluring! So what is an adoption consultant? Adopti...

Waiting to Adopt: What Not to Neglect

The paperwork is mostly complete. You’ve been interviewed, background checked, and fingerprinted. Your home has been inspected. And now there’s nothing left to do but wait.Waiting for your match or referral can be in incredibly trying time. Waiting to adopt can become an all-consuming obsession (all the ups and downs and unknowns). During this season, many waiting adoptive parents begin to neglect that which matters most to them, oftentimes unknowingly.The problem with letting these priorities s...

Adoption Pictures Show Birth Mother Pain

I came across some heart-wrenching adoption pictures of our son’s birth mother.While looking through old pictures to attach to recent blogs, I came across some heart wrenching adoption pictures of our son’s birth mother. It was a picture taken at a hotel when our son was just a mere 3 days old. This was the day when my son’s two older brothers got to meet him for the first time. The picture that brought tears to my eyes was one of my son’s birth mom feeding him a bottle. The love and sadness in...

A Birth Mom She Can Be Proud Of

I am a birth mom.Some things about my identity are obvious and unremarkable. I am a female, a daughter, a friend, an employee, and I am Caucasian. If one were to scratch the surface, one would learn that I am also an only child, an only grandchild on my mother’s side, and also that I am a mother. You may be asking why you’d have to dig a little deeper to discover that I am a mother—isn’t that something a woman would primarily identify herself as? My claim to motherhood differs from the typical d...