Open Adoption Visits when Children are Reluctant

Looking for positive open adoption stories? Do you have an adopted child with biological siblings? What are your adoptive parent responsibilities when it comes to open adoption visitation? Birth mother Susie Book shares her open adoption experiences and says it means a lot when her son’s adoptive family make open adoption visits a priority, even when children are reluctant.The morning of our last Skype date, I was explaining to Kit that we were going to talk to his brother Cricket on the co...

Biracial Adoption and Reluctant Family Members

You’ve been matched and are eager to share the happy news with your family! Prospective adoptive parents looking for support of their decision to adopt transracially may be met with resistance from loved ones. What do you do when your family doesn’t support your transracial or biracial adoption? Adoptive parent Kristen Nicole shares her experience and offers adoptive parent tips for dealing with reluctant family members.The chance of a biracial adoptionWhen we decided to adopt, we also decided t...

What Your Adopted Child Won’t Tell You

It is hard enough these days to talk to your parents about life. Imagine having to talk to your parents about something as personal as your feelings on being an adopted child. No child wants to hurt their parents, especially by expressing his or her feelings on being adopted and sounding ungrateful.These are things many adoptees wish they could share with their adoptive parents:I hate being an adopted child.I don’t believe any child is happy they were adopted. Even if they were given a “bet...

Being Adopted: Looking for Answers

Being adopted at ten years old doesn’t mean I know all about my past and where I come from.For the past ten years, I have wondered where I really came from. I find myself questioning more and more who my birth dad is, where my other brothers are, and whether or not I will ever find out about my family back in Ukraine. It’s been difficult for me, being adopted, to not know the answers because I feel as though a part of me is missing.I remember my birth mom telling me a story about my birth dad. S...

Talking About Adoption With Your Kids

Start talking about adoption with your kids early and use adoption language.When my husband and I started talking about adoption, one of our biggest concerns was how our kids would feel about being adopted. Along with that concern was whether or not we would have the right words for the questions they were bound to ask. To try and be proactive, we (mostly me) started very early talking about adoption and using adoption language with our daughter. I mean really early on! Even as an infant, I woul...