Talking About Adoption With Your Kids

Start talking about adoption with your kids early and use adoption language.When my husband and I started talking about adoption, one of our biggest concerns was how our kids would feel about being adopted. Along with that concern was whether or not we would have the right words for the questions they were bound to ask. To try and be proactive, we (mostly me) started very early talking about adoption and using adoption language with our daughter. I mean really early on! Even as an infant, I woul...

Adoption Process: Our Unexpected Family

The adoption process can be a wild ride. Here’s our story.Eleven years ago, I was in the midst of my first pregnancy. Each week that passed was joyful. I practically skipped to work from the bus stop and shopped for maternity clothes the minute my belly popped. On the weekends, my husband and I took walks through Lincoln Park, our Chicago neighborhood, and we talked about our hopes and dreams for the baby. It was one of the happiest times of my life.One November morning, my husband turned to me...

Learning to Be Happy For Others When You Are Unable to Conceive

It finally happened…someone told me they were pregnant and instead of jealousy, sadness and thoughts of why? I truly felt joy! I know that may seem silly, weird, or even selfish to some of you. But I know there are many of you out there that are unable to conceive and wondering when that day will happen for you. I don’t think you can really put a time frame on when that pain you feel from being unable to conceive stops trickling down to every pregnant person you know and/or m...

Placed for Adoption: Only Child Out of Seven

I was the only child out of seven placed for adoption by my birth mother.Labeled a ‘troubled woman’, my birth mother had two daughters before me and went on to have three more children after I was adopted.When I first found out I was adopted, I was told that I had another sibling—my little brother. Growing up there was speculation that my birth mother had two children before I was born. Yet it wasn’t confirmed until I was reunited with my birth family. I grew up wondering why I wasn’t good enoug...

Gay or Straight, Adoptive Families Have Much in Common

Whether you’re gay or straight, or your child is adopted or biologically yours, there are things our families have in common.“I can’t believe I’m already doing this,” I said to myself as I opened the top drawer of a dresser we have only had for a month. But it was time. Alexander is three months old and the “newborn” clothes are no longer a match for his rapidly growing 13-pound body.This rite of passage for new parents is as old as time, and every parent reacts to it differently. Kyle, who...