9 Things We Want Adoptive Parents To Know About Us

The relationship between adoptive parents and birth parents can sometimes be very difficult to navigate. Although we are going through this journey together, it can sometimes feel like we are in two completely different worlds. Understanding one another can help to break down the barriers that can come up throughout the process. I asked birthmothers in our Healing Hearts group what they wished adoptive parents knew about birth parents and here are some of the things they said. WE ARE EX...

Oh The Places You'll Go - What We Have Accomplished Since Placing

“There is nothing more powerful or radical or stunningly beautiful than a woman who chooses to rebuild her life day after day. No matter how many pieces there are to pick up or how many mistakes she must spin into gold.” – Carol Alwill Leyba Placing a child is life changing in a number of ways. It can put your past, present, and future into a whole new perspective. After placing, I remember sitting down with my counselor and talking with her about the things I wanted to do with my li...

What It Feels Like Not Receiving Updates/Pictures of Our Child - The Birthmother Experience

We held up our end of the deal, but you aren’t holding up yours. Maybe you are busy, maybe you forgot about us, or maybe it isn’t a priority. But we haven’t forgotten. We don’t want to bother you so we don’t ask. Or we have asked so many times without getting anything that we have just given up. We feel like a means to an end. A vessel so you could get what you always wanted. Makes us second guess if we made the right decision. If we picked the right family. We are for...

The Birthmother Experience: How Do Birth Mothers Feel Seeing Pictures and Receiving Updates of Their Child?

How Do Birth Mothers Feel Seeing Pictures and Receiving Updates of Their ChildHow Do Birth Mothers Feel NOT Seeing Pictures and Receiving Updates of Their Child (next week)Open adoption has so many components to it, and if we are being honest, IT’S SCARY. While I can only imagine the fears and worries adoptive parents might experience when starting their open adoption journey, I can tell you from my personal experience that having openness is what has reaffirmed my decision over and over a...

The Birthmother Experience: We Didn't Give Up

%terms-disclaimer% I can’t tell you how many times someone has said to me “soyou gave up your baby for adoption.” I really try to give most people thebenefit of the doubt because, unfortunately, there is a huge lack of adoptioneducation in the world. But this is probably one of the phrases that evokes themost anger and hurt when I hear it. People don’t give up things they love. Theygive up bad habits, they give up unhealthy foods, they give up things having anegative impact on their lives.I am h...